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The sun sets on another day...

The sunset was amazing as I discussed items with my children. They happen to be with me at the moment and it is always warming to discuss anything and everything with them. Family should always be at the top of your list of things in life, and I am proud of my family, no mater what.

I have been going down a list of items a friend posted, and as I have It has been interesting looking at each item and putting a few thoughts behind it or changing the list a little. When it is done, I will publish a new list and we will see how that is compared to the original. Tonight's thought: "If you have an opinion, you better know why."

It is an interesting thought to consider that many people don't know their own thoughts, it is also difficult to understand how some people do not see their opinions as just that, opinions. for every opinion there is another opinion that may or may not contradict the previous opinion. Why? We are the sum of our experiences, and our opinions are born out of those experiences. So if you have positives or negatives, you need to understand why you have them.

I was recently talking to someone and they had lots of opinions about everything, but when I asked questions, well, those opinions seemed to falter and disappear instead of being something tangible. All this statement asks, is if you have an opinion, you should know why. Really why. Not just because, but is it real, is it true, and is it everything it should be. 

I won't go any further, I think we all get the point.

So as the sun sets on another day, we all have opinions and they may all be right, but make sure your opinion is truly yours and own it every day. Don't let falsehoods, partial truths, or other peoples opinions be yours until you really understand, and in the end, make your opinions the best you can, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy your thoughts because they are yours...

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The sun sets on another day...

The sunset tonight was brisk and exciting, the shimmering light more than a glimmer, but instead a gleaming beacon to all.

I have spent the last several days writing about a friends list of things for their daughter. I have been adding, embellishing or modifying a little as I go. Today's message is:" Your body, your rules"

I know this was meant for daughters, but really this applies to anyone and it is not just what the surface says. When your are at a doctor, waling down the street or really doing anything you have to create the rules for who you are, not let others arbitrarily set guidelines for you.

Take for example, going to he gym, if someone tells you to do a triple back-flip and you can't do it, you need to set the rules and say no. No is not the enemy, but make sure you use it wisely and as necessary.

Of course the obvious is still there, and if you decide "no" is ever the answer for anything, it needs to stop right there.

So as the sun sets on another day, this is pretty straight forward. No one can decide for you what is right for you. Make decisions for yourself and stick to them, make the best of every day, and be your own boss of you, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and be who you are...

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The sun sets on another day...

The sun was swallowed by clouds, but my heart is warm as my children are with me. No matter how hard the task, how deep the pain, how powerful the obstacle, children make the world a better place. Well, usually they do, at least mine do to me.

I have spent many days going through a list which I will put to pen at the end. A friend posted it for their daughter and I am upping or revising it as I see it. Today's message is: "Never lie to yourself."

If there is any advice that sits on the top of the list, this is one. Be true to you. That doesn't always mean being so start raving honest to everyone else that they run and poke their eyes out, but it does mean you can be true to yourself, and in the process perhaps understand a little about you. There are lots of things we tell other people, and hopefully most of them are spot on, but when you start lying to yourself, well, it can be a game changer.

I had a friend once that was so sure of themselves on so many things, and always told about it, but in the process they left out key details. They tried hard to knock others down to make themselves look safe, or better. In the end how can that affect them in a positive manner.  In the end it became obvious to a lot of people, and they apologized. You can't make yourself a good person or a bad person simply by believing it is who you are. You cannot make yourself tall, or short or small or large either, you can only be who you are so it is important to know who you are and be that person. In the end, well, in the end you have to answer to yourself first.

So as the sun sets on another day, and the storms slowly roll in, take a moment. Consider yourself, and remember that you can be true to you. Let go of those things you are holding, and find a way to never lie to yourself. Live, Laugh, Love, and skip the other parts. Be happy with others, and live the best day ever, today, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and don't sleep through it...

 

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The sun sets on another day...

The sunset was a window into color tonight. Not good, nor bad, hidden away by the clouds it just was stunningly sublime.

I have been writing about a post a friend made with rules for a daughter, I have been modifying it for children, and discussing it a little. Tonight's thought is: "Fake it til you make it can get you through sometimes"

I thought about this for only a short time as I normally don't like fake, the word fake, being fake, faking it, fake laughs fake other things or just in general things that are not real. Then I reconsidered the point of view and realized the more effective way of looking at it was to approach items with confidence. So I would rewrite this a little as "don't let anything keep you from trying, press the envelope, expect more from yourself, and find your way there" or something like that.

In reality we all "fake it til we make it" if you look at it a certain way when we are parents. To this point I am not aware of a book that is truly a "guidebook for addressing all hings you will encounter when raising a  child" and by the same token there isn't a reference manual for "getting through teething years with young children in a consistent manner" or "surviving the teen years of any child as they go through puberty". Why? Well, it is not predictable, so maybe when addressing an item that is not easily predictable, we should "fake it til we make it" and press the envelope to make things happen, even if we don't have a perfect plan. 

So as the sun sets on another day, when you look at some things and feel overwhelmed, take a chance, press harder, make it work, even if it is not perfect. Find the edge of it all, and make yourself the best you can be with what you have, it won't be fake, it will be real, and you will set a higher bar every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy the eve...