The sun sets on another day...
Each day, the sun rises, and the sun sets. So many people walk through life and don't see how they fit in this winding melee called life, nor the good,or bad they can do. I have a friend, more like a daughter, who is going through a rough time right now. I wish I could help, but it takes two people to engage: One to help, and one to want to be helped. there is no way someone can be helped unless they reach out. (See this post.)
We all go through rough times, but isn't it how we handle those rough times that defines who we are? Isn't it the sum of all the things we go through that makes us a better person? As I talked to a few people today we talked about children, how they have grown up, and our new generation that are often entitled, and unaware of the struggles of the older generations. They should use generational defeats to avoid their own, but as with many generations, feel they are unique.
Although I agree, this generation is unique, the problems they face are not. I would hate to think we cannot learn from our past to make our future better, our lives better and our days better as a whole. In fact, perhaps those of us that didn't grow up half bad should consider putting our children in similar positions, where they don't grow up half bad. I find myself in difficult territory often when we consider that children today have more and more than we ever did, and in the process, want for less, still want more, and end up in situations we could not have gotten into as easily, why, well, in my opinion, we were too busy having to work, fight and make things happen and not given our lives on a silver platter.
Now, don't think of me as a snob, but instead consider, when we bought our first car we had to work hard for it, and it had value. (That word value is important) When we got our paycheck we had to learn to balance our money, and when we got into college, we had to work to make it happen. In the end we give our children unreasonable expectations on value, and in the future how will the new generation be able to cope if their parents do not understand value and instead squander what they have, and end up in interesting places in life. Worse, how will this new generation react when they have all they ever wanted and a 200 thousand dollar degree only to find there is not job for them.
In my rather guarded heart, I know that it was better to have to learn to fight so when sometimes you fail, have to take a step back, face a loss, a lost job, or a severe heartbreak, that we can rise above and find a way to be more than we were because we know the world isn't handed to us on a silver platter, but it is a world we make, both good and bad.
So, as the sun sets on another day, consider how we approach life, how the next generation will fare, and how we should teach them every day to hold on to the sunrises and sunsets of their lives, and just make them better. If I sound like a broken record on things like this it is because I love my children and see a way for things to be better for them, and it is not "buying them a life" or "telling them lies." but instead is showing them that love, honor, trust, and passion are more than just words. If I sound like a broken record on things like this....ooops.
Sleep sweet, love life, and live every day with the passion it deserves...
The sun sets on another day...
Today I was listening to someone and heard the concept "The 20 what's to find your why." (See it here)
these include the following:
- What amount of money do you want to make?
- What places would you like to visit in the world?
- What type of job would you like to do each day?
- What would your perfect day look like in terms of how you spent your time and what you were doing?
- What are the characteristics of your perfect spouse?
- What do you want to look like?
- What do you want to give back to the world?
- What do you want to be known for?
- What are the things you believe in most?
- What people can help you get to where you want to go?
- What are the things you would like to have?
- What are the most exciting things you’d like to try?
- What events would you like to go to?
- What type of house do you want to have?
- What people would you like to meet?
- What amount of money do you want to have at retirement?
- What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?
- What things would have to happen in order to accomplish that huge dream?
- What do you want people to think of when they think of you?
- What people do you want to spend most of your time with?
As I read through the list I was amazed at how many of these items I define each day, and some of them I find completely unimportant. For example, "what amount of money do you want to make?" is relatively nebulous and does not define you as an individual. Instead it defines you socially or gives you access to things, so is it important? Depends on you. I would say the bigger question's should always be around who you want to be, and what you want to do in life that is not "for money". Of course, this is my opinion and perhaps some people define themselves based upon money, or stuff. I suppose we should all ask ourselves which of these questions are important to us, and define ourselves accordingly.
I have a friend that defines life one day at a time, he and his wife are best friends and examples to us all. Through good and bad, they weather the storm and love each other, trust each other, and live every day the best they can. Truly, isn't that an inspiration to us all? As we consider who we are with in life, do they define us or do we define each other. My friends would give anything for each other, it is not one sided. They have gone through the wringer, and come out dry. In my opinion, if I were them the question "What do I want to be known for?" is easy, for showing the world how love should be.
I would add one more, "What have you done today to define who you are?" It revolves around us, around that special moment or set of moments that can determine our lives. Did you find passion, help someone, help yourself? Lie? Tell the truth? Leave a legacy? What did you do TODAY that makes you a better person? In the end it will not be as you think (in my opinion).
So, for now, live life, dream of passion, reach for the moon, and the stars beyond will be in your grasp...
The sun set son another day...
It is hard to measure a moment. The question is do you measure the moment, or does the moment measure you? When faced with a tough decision, do you take the easy path, the hard path, or the path most accepted by society? Where should we choose. It is a tough choice. As the sun set today I looked over my past, a lost moment I had been searching for, and a past time with family, friends, and others that I will remember. I will hold on to the moment for all time, and I hope the moment holds on to me as I search for it.
So I suggest you too, hold on to those moments that define you, and fill your life with the passion and power you should, each and every day. Sleep sweet, love life, and live every day like it was your last...
The sun sets on another day...
It is rare that we find a day that we cannot enjoy, or find a positive in, at least it is for me. Even when the day is crushing in, there is a hope built in that someday, things will get better. On this day of triskaidekaphobia I would like to respectfully request that no one despair, but remember that the number 13 is a fun number if we make you the professor. So if we multiply it by itself we get 169. Why did we multiply it by itself? Who cares? Maybe next we need to add 4, why 4? Because 1 and 3 are 4t? We are now at 173, then we figure there are 30 days in many months, not all, just some, and we subtract 30, what do we have 143? Does that mean anything? Maybe not, so we add 1? 144, so now what, take the square root? Sure, because we can, 12 becomes our number, so we divide it by the number of wise men, and we get 4 if we think about the normal beliefs. Hmm, what was the question again? Oh, I know, who is the professor?
Anyway, this silliness was brought to you by the number 13, I hope you have an amazing day, love life, and live for it every day...