The sun sets on another day...
Fathers Day has come again. IT has been around a long time. A celebration of fathers that goes back to the 14th or 15th century. I have not been celebrating it that long and I have to be honest, there was a long time in my life that I did not celebrate fathers day. (Notice the lack of caps).
My life would be a good Lifetime story, and my relationship with my father was non existent for some time in my life. Decisions made by adults always affect children but they are rarely considered. As I went through life I was 16 when I began talking to my father again, and it took years to build a relationship, a bond, or any semblance of trust. You see, there are things in life many people take for granted.
Over the years I built a relationship with my father and eventually trust, and on the week of his death, we finally were going to do many of the things I was told about in his past, the things he did with others while away from me. We came to a peace with our relationship because both of us understood that fathers are people, and sometimes make mistakes, but being a father or a dad takes a commitment, and in the end we both saw that.
I hope you can make the commitment if you are a father to find a way to make your children's lives better. This does not mean destroying your own, but it does mean seeing a bigger picture. It means making some sacrifices to make your children's lives complete, and having patience when you shouldn't, understanding when you can't, and a listening ear when you sometimes want to scream. To me, being a father is a major responsibility, and it is more than just having a child, it is seeing the potential inside of that child and helping them realize it. If you are a Dad, don't wait to do the things you want to do with your children. Make your day with them the best it can be, and as they grow up, be there if they need you, and step away when they don't.
Sorry, this sounds preachy, and I really wish it was that easy, it is not, but today and I consider how long ago my father died, and consider the loss, of more than just a person, but a life. I would have wished him Happy Father's Day today, because his gift to me was seeing more, and helping me understand I have responsibilities to my children, no matter what.
So as the sun sets on another day, take a moment and reach out to your father if you can, and let him know he is special. Life is full of perfect and imperfect moments, and we are what we make of those moments. I would like to think every day can be a great day if we let it. Make today your great day.
Sleep sweet, smile bright, and Happy Fathers Day...
The sun sets on another day...
Today's sunset could almost be considered divine. Well, not really the sunset as much as the day. The day had predicted rain for some time. It seemed to be a doomed day for a big event that my friends were putting on. There was a lot of discussion about it, and it looked ominous as I arrived at 8. I was hopeful that something would happen that would make their special day as awesome as it should be, and hopeful for a good day for them.
As I set up microphones and watched the clouds, they parted, and believe it or not, there was no rain. As they played their percussion, no rain. As the Zumba class ran, no rain, and it followed like that with only 20 minutes of sprinkled for the whole day. As the day closed, the rain fell on us all, and there was a moment where a rainbow shone so bright in the sky I thought the pot of gold would have to be at the end.
As I considered this tonight, I felt the pot of gold had already been received. A good day where no good day should have been. Fun people, great laughs, a lot of good food, and of course a bunch of great candy.
There are few gifts like this that happen so purposefully, and I can only believe that something good was on our side today.
There are a lot of people out there that deserve days like this, the day that should be horrible, but finds it way to being amazing. As their days pass they forecast may be something bad, but somehow it finds its way to being great.Perhaps it is blind luck but perhaps it is the positive attitude that people feel that somehow makes a difference. I hope that for any of your days, if you think something bad is coming you can overcome it, and make your day the best day ever and more.
So as the sun sets on this amazing day, take a moment and realize, just because it looks bad, doesn't mean it will be. It may be the best ever, and as you progress in life, remember that every day is a possible amazing day as long as you are in it.
Sleep sweet, laugh often, and be happy, no matter what...
The sun sets on another day...
Life is funny sometimes with how we handle words. Each word we use has a specific connotation and elicits a specific response. Some words are wonderful, others not so much. The trick in writing for me is to try to use the right words each day to attempt in some way or form to create emotion.
Now, there are many emotions a person can create with words, but strong emotions are always better. Fear is usually pretty straightforward. With fear you create a situation from which there are minimal if any methods of escape. Imagine the room with the walls slowly advancing on you, and no door to escape, each creak of massive gears finds another inch towards your eventual doom. There are varying forms of passion, where people find each other in the arms of their one true love, but their one true love turns out to be an Afghan hound. There is sorrow, where the people in the story suffer intense loss, and their lives are shattered like crystal vases falling slowly to the floor. Many other emotions are possible with words, and words are a vehicle not just for the moment, but potentially forever.
Some people sing, and song has an added value because it ca use melody as well to pump up the message. Some music is sad, some happy, and some mixed. I am always frustrated when people say how much they love the song, "You are my Sunshine" but if they ever listened to the words would probably drive their car off a cliff. (I have even seen people with tattoos of the lyrics and asked myself, "Did you listen to the song?" I am very impressed with those people who can make words and song mix into a story that brings us forward to happiness, sadness, or a form of elation.
There are those people in life that are truly wordsmiths. They can make us feel, truly feel. I saw a tribute on Robin Williams that reminded me of all the things he could make you feel with just words and the tone behind them. People like he are spectacular as they grab on to something deep within your soul to pull part of you out and expose it to yourself. From the happy go lucky "Mork" whose childhood innocence made us laugh to the focused psychologist in "Good Will Hunting" who had experienced more pain than any 10 men deserve Robin Williams made us feel not only who he was, but who we are inside. We are lucky there are people like him in the world, for without them, life would not be as happy a place.
So here I am, trying once again to elicit from my connotations. Some days I may reach a few people, some days I may reach a few more, but always I try, not for any other reason than if one person has a better day, if one person sees something new in themselves, if one person opens their mind, if one person is more excited about life, or if one person sees a picture and feels at peace for a moment, it is all worth my time.
So as the sun sets on another day. Breathe. Take a deep breath, feel the air pull into your lungs. Remember who you are, remember who you want to be, find your way to happiness, and make the world a better place, no matter what...
The sun sets on another day...
I have probably said it quite a few times, but I have seen more than a few movies.As I watched people interact today I was reminded of a very old movie called "A Little Sex." Now it is not exactly what you think, well, it may be a little, but it is very PG and very thoughtful for a movie. The story revolves around two people who fall in love. One is very passionate, and very straight laced. While the other, the man, is way over the top as far as being a modern day "sex addict."
The story is quite cute, and it carries itself well with a lot of good jokes, good puns, and good morals but as the story comes to an apex, the man cheats. He tried real hard to avoid it, but not hard enough. The situation is not important, instead it is the makeup that is the moral of all of the story. He tells a story to her class (she is a teacher) that ends easily and with a thoughtful statement, "A promise is a promise, but even snakes deserve a second chance."
So, tonight as I watched people I watched couples happy, and couples fight. I saw people alone, and people with someone, and I thought, how does this make up always occur? It was then I was reminded that every day is a promise. It is a promise of a good day, a promise of something great and happy.
There are so many thoughts here. Thoughts of forgiveness, or a lack thereof, and of a thousand other things, but the key here is try to forgive. It will not always be easy, and I know sometimes it will not happen. Usually when the other person doesn't admit what they did wrong. Still, try all you can and try your hardest to forgive the day if it is not perfect. Just remember, as bad as anything is, it could be worse, er, well, maybe. (lol)
So as the sun sets on another day, remember that there is always a choice to be happy, always a choice to forgive. Always a choice to rise us and do the right thing. Always remember, a promise is a promise, but even snakes deserve a second chance.
Sleep sweet, dream big, and live happily ever after, no matter what...