The sun sets on another day...
Today I had the privilege to meet a plethora of new people. (Say that three times real fast)
It was a good discussion with a very intelligent person as I waited in the small picnic, and as I listened I was reminded of my father for a short time. You see, the person I was speaking to was a pastor, and as we spoke her way of approaching her church reminded me of the approach my father had to life. The church is not just in the church, it is in the streets. Isn't that true for any fellowship?
As you have probably guessed I try to keep 29000 sunsets fairly non denominational. The topics are focused on how we approach the world, and focused on near daily interactions with wonderful people around the area, the country, and the world. The reason I do this is so many people see religion as a whole as an instant negative. I can only say, OK, and move on.
So, as I discussed concept and ideas and a variety of topics today I knew my father was right: fellowship is in the streets. If you have a good idea, a bad idea, or an indifferent idea, but you have an idea, it is not something that should be bottled up and set in a corner, it is something that needs to be shared. When you understand that people need to be helped, entertained, amused, or other enlightenment, locking that concept inside of your home or business is stagnant. Instead, spread the good word and get out there and make it right. Let people understand you, or your point of view, and take the time to make the world at least see your talent or opinion.
I have a friend that I am always very proud of. They find their way into a variety of civic items, but are never pushy or over the top. Next week they will be playing drums for a large group of people and laughing all the way. In their way they are not only reaching people, but making them smile.
I have found that is a solution for many things in life. Skip the problems and address the issue with humor, and life is just peachy. The world only a laugh away, a smile that makes the day the best it can be.
As for today's discussion, I find I may visit this little pastor and listen, and maybe learn. There are a lot of days in your life, hopefully at least 29000, every one is worth being a new adventure.
So as the sun sets on another day. Listen, learn, be a part, but when you find you have something that simply must be shared, don't share it with yourself, take it to the streets and make the world a better place, one step at a time, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, dream of great things, and make them happen when you wake...
The sun sets on another day...
I was reading today (duh) about more studies about attraction and how we see other people. It always amazes me how some people take to other people quickly and efficiently, even though the process and types of people may be very very different. Ask two different people who the best looking person is in a room, and they will rarely agree. Ask two people who they like the best, and looks are right out the window. Attraction may be started by looks, but it ends up as a complex series of actions and interactions that define a relationship or the start of a relationship.
There are so many people I have met, and had a variety of attraction levels with, but usually the first thought is fairly neutral. How is your first meeting, is it first sight wowsers? Or first sight downer?
Don't get lost in thought here. There are many items that keep two people together, but first sight, well, it is different.
The study I recently looked at (today) stated that brain activity was different for different people with different pictures and in person. It was found that those people reviewed in pictures were attractive to the same person in person or via a picture, eliminating certain other items quickly and efficiently.Is that all there is to it? Is the world so superficial that a look is all it takes or is there something more.
In my life the people I have been closest to were people I communicated with, understood, talked to, and took the time to know. Not the people who looked like fashion models or were striking, but the people who had passion about similar things in their lives or better yet, about me and I them. I am having a hard time seeing a world where passion is simply a snapshot, and instead I think true passion is born out of something more.
As I have said before though, the larger the passion, the bigger the high ride, the harder the fall if there is failure, so there is a danger. I woman I dated once told me there would be no one like me ever in her life, but then said she could not afford the fall. She ended up with someone she said was "Safe" and who was "not smart enough for her to worry about" so she never had to feel the highs, or the lows. Maybe it is a sequential event. Maybe the snapshot starts a process, the passion builds the power, and intellect takes over. Maybe, but if intellect takes over, can a truly intellectual relationship with no passion survive? Can a lack of face to face extinguish passion or is it something else? I have had passion before that is immeasurable from long distances, does that throw the curve?(We all know it can because we see it all the time) Maybe, just maybe we should shoot for the stars, and keep our feet on the ground as we walk into passion and attraction, and press for the best we can possibly have in our lives.
It appears I have more questions than answers today. Social Anthropology answers most of them, but it is a confusing maze of misdirection, so I will stop here.
So as the sun sets on another day, consider the passion you have for people, and important people. Don't let it go, but instead make it the best it can be and push each day to love life like never before. Let people know they are important to you, and not just how they look. Meet mind to mind, and make the world a better place, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, smile like crazy, and live for the day....
The sun sets on another day...
The world is an amazing place. Each day we can watch the world go by, or we can embrace the world and have a super adventure. Adventures are not as much fun if you are alone, so why not embrace the moment with a friend, and make the world great for all of you.
Tonight I went out to take pictures with a friend and ended up on an adventure. It wasn't a "wow we are on our way to the Orient" adventure, but it was a fun walk, a fun discussion and for a short time we laughed at the world. My point is it did not have to be anything over the top but was instead a time where we took some good pictures, drove around and got a few hamburgers. In the process we talked about the messed up world, and how beautiful the area we live in is to explore. To top it off, we got fries with that, a big old giant bag of fries from Hamburger Mikey!
So what have you done with a friend today? Have you called a friend? Talked to a friends, thought about a friend, or done something, anything with a friend? It doesn't take forever, it is just a moment where you can talk and laugh and make sure someone knows that they are more than a hat rack.
So as the sun sets on another day, consider the last time you talked to your friends, and give them a call, make them laugh, tell them about your life, listen to theirs, and make today a day to remember, no matter what.
By the way, if you want to read more about how I feel about friendship here are some past items:
Sleep sweet, smile on the inside, and laugh at all the moments you can!
The sun sets on another day...
I think if I want to keep being funny I should say the letter to end all letters would be the letter Z, but that would be too much like "Miss Congeniality" and I just can't do it.
As I reviewed a few dozen older things and was throwing away the past I came across a book of O'Henry stories and thought again about "The Gift of the Magi". I wrote about it before a few years ago (scary huh) here. I wrote a fairly short post that day, but as I linked the things I was throwing away and the story I realized the greatest gift you can give anyone is trust. Well, it makes sense. Many people are so lost looking for trust that they trust the wrong people, or miss it completely. In the old days it would be something with snake oil, but in today's world it is more likely to be something about a loan or a free vacation on your cell phone, or a person who says they care about you but either does wholeheartedly, or barely understands how to spell the word.
Over 40% of men and almost 50% of women consider trust the most important thing in their life, and with good reason, after all, when you are in a relationship, isn't it about trusting the other person to protect you and your heart?
I wrote a story about trust and protecting a person's heart that I will not post here, mostly because I was very cynical that Halloween, but suffice it to say that we need to trust in a relationship for the relationship to have hope. It is not just trust, both people need to go over the top to prove that they are trustworthy.
I was in a relationship once where I got the most wonderful cards, and yes, I gave some as well. The stuff in those cards were humble and amazing, and made me feel like I was always doing too much, but I wanted to do more. After that relationship was over I read through those cards and found there were instant items that should have made me worry. Keywords like "I don't deserve" and "How could I be so lucky" translated to "I cannot be trusted" and "I am considering my options" when I looked them over again. That being said, in college I got the letter to end all letters and it was what trust should be to us all. It simply told me that I could trust any time and all the time. That it was so perfect that life had brought us together, and we were so perfect together because we spoke, we listened, we were honest, and she knew there was no limit to what I would do for her, and she said to me simply, "anything you want, desire, need, or fathom I will do, because you are worth it." Of course she broke my heart a short time later because she was reminded of someone else and it was all too fast, but what she said was pointed and true and I have considered it almost every day since that day.
Where is your line?
Are you willing to do anything for someone "because they are worth it" or do you determine limits because "that is not me" or "I can't" or "they are not worth it". Is the someone you are with willing to "do anything for you?" or do they shy away from conversations that they do not want to consider, avoid things they don't want to do, and find excuses.
There are people out there that will go the extreme distance, and people that will go to their line, and leave you hanging. (Hopefully not from a clothesline) I hope you are the former, I hope you have found the former. I hope that you find life to be a passionate challenge each and every moment of each and every day, or at least most of them.
So as the sun sets on another day, consider life as a reality of extremes. Don't be ma and pa sitting around watching TV as life passes by, but Mr. and Mrs. Smith who fight in a warehouse store to be together, and let nothing get in their way. As you go through find a perfect letter to leave people who are important to you, and let them know how you feel each day. There can be nothing better in life, and how happy would you be if it were given to you? Don't draw lines, reach for the moon, or the stars, and find your way to a limitless life, and make it so, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, find passion, and live it every day...