And as the sun sets on today be thankful for your children and all that they are because of you. Bless them daily with your praise, guide them to the right choices, and show them you make right choices for yourself so they will make good choices for themselves. Show them love every day you can, and let them know it is always ok to love, and cry (even if they are boys) and laugh, and love some more. Show your children that sweets are good, and sweet people are better. Teach them to give to others, and understand when the world takes from them. There is no real tomorrow, except when the sun rises, after it sets again tonight, and makes us realize we have to love to be able to love.
The sun sets on another day and today we are faced with again missing the sun set that calls to us, and knowing that tomorrow will be another potential for a bright day. I need a few bright days! So I am taking them!
I have been talking to quite a few people recently about my potentially unrealistic expectations of life. We all expect something from life, even if we don't always get it, and it appears many people may well think that I am unrealistic in that vein, hence my overwhelming passion with sunsets, sunrises, and just about everything that I come into contact with to a point that some from my past have said I was not believable. Nay nay, or dit dit dit, I say. I am over the top because I see every day what life has to offer through everyone I come into contact with. (Well most everyone)
The big question we should be asking is do we deserve the fairy tale or do we deserve a fairy tale? Confused? Yes, I see that. In the movie "Pretty Woman" Julia Roberts makes reference to wanting the fairy tale. In other words she wants the perfect life every day in which we watch the sun rise, love like there is not tomorrow, then watch the sun set as we prepare for another day and to do it all over again. This works out pretty good for her as her costar, a battered and confused man who loves her and does not know it, does not know what he wants until he is faced with the prospect of losing her forever. (Not a fun thing to go through, even if you are a billionaire) So there is a perfect life with a fairy tale in the movies, but we are never sure how it goes from there (No Pretty Woman 2?) and it is hard to make that jump without some assurances.
On the flip side we have a host of really bad other places to be, but I like "Sleeping with the Enemy" where we once again have Julia Roberts who seems to have the perfect life, except behind closed doors her husband is somewhere past a complete lunatic. Lets face it, with a husband like him, you may as well fake your own death and run away, which turned out to be a pretty good idea. In that case and in the case of many people, they live a fairy tale because nothing is true but the lies. Poor Julia Roberts is just so sweet and nice and everyone thinks she is just so damn happy, but she is getting her bottom kicked at every turn until she finds a way out.
So which should we live? Do we find that perfect person to share life with and enjoy every moment so the world can see how happy we are? Or do we lie every moment of our life and pray it was worth it?
Call em an over optimist, but I feel strongly that the good lord in all his power shows us things for a reason, and the reason is not to live a lie, but to find happiness in our time on earth, teach happiness to those around us, and find a way to live a fulfilled life, no matter what. I guess there will be many others that will agree to disagree for nebulous reasons, or self inflicted punishment, or a lack of self esteem, yada yada yada, but who is right only time will tell. So make tomorrow a bright day, enjoy every moment, find someone who loves you with all their heart, and you love with all your heart, and watch the sun go down together, then maybe life will have a purpose.
The sun sets on another day....
Ever notice when it gets darkest that there is sometimes a light that shines on each of us? Some may consider it divine, some may consider it random, some may consider this whole line of thinking "dumb", but I would like to believe there can be light in any situation. Lots of people pray for a solution but maybe it is up to us to find the right solution. By right I mean the right solution for us to be happy, living a true life to ourselves and loving every day. Don't you all think you deserve a better day? Take a deep breath, dispel the fear, and let the light shine on you to take the steps for your life to be happy. Sometimes it is just a moment away.
So, I need a slick movie reference or biblical quote here, or just a plain inspiration so this will not seem like the rantings of a madman. This one is pretty easy, er, well it could be hard because of the number of good choices. I think for the moment I have to go with "The Notebook" as two people so in love have to find a way. The moral of this movie in my opinion, is that if there is unlimited passion between two people, love finds a way. Of course, there is a lot of pain, suffering, and poor decisions in between, but love finds a way, and you will never see a man love a woman more and a woman love a man more. (Well, you might and a few will, I know at least one is out there) The point is in this movie the main character proves himself to himself and the woman realizes what she has lost the moment she sees him again. It is only when things are at their darkest that she turns the tables and makes things right. (At least I consider it right).
Live life, love life, love yourself (but not too much) and never ever live a lie, nothing is ever worth it. (That is with a capital N) (You never know, that other guy or girl may have more to offer than you think)
Oh, and for a fun read (In my opinion) try "A Dark Night", just for a fun October read.
No, this was not today's sunset. I could not get to a place fast enough to get the picture I wanted, and needed. So I enjoyed the sunset without my camera. This sunset is from a few winters ago, but is just as exciting.
Tonight as the sun set the skies parted and breathed new life into us all, reminding me along the way it is not the "What" it is the "How" in life. You see, the day was awful and grim and full of weird weather, thunder and lightning, too much rain, a lot of gloominess and way too much plain ole blah. As the sun set the air cleared and I noticed my roses blooming, the clean street, the clear sky, and felt at peace (for about 43 seconds or so). There is so much to be thankful for each day and we need to consider what we face as positives (or semi positives) all the time. No it is not fair, but we can make it work.
So, what? Let me go on. Each day we are faced with so many "whats" we sometimes want to scream, "whats" for children, "whats" for friends, "whats" for families, and "whats" for those people who are supposed to be special, but just might not be. The "what" is sometimes the easy part. We can make a decision not to do a bad thing (A good choice for a what) but in the process lose sight of "How" we should do this. We can find a "What" on our doorstep, only to do the wrong thing on "How" to handle it. We can see the "what" when we have a family tragedy, but the "how" can become a nightmare of emotions. The "how" is our life and how we will be viewed and judged by others and by ourselves over time. (Because sometimes the "whats" are just a pain in the bottom, we may lose sight of just how bad we are becoming with our "how". Some people see the "how" as of no consequence, they feel the "what" is more important, and it is those people that will spend their lives in penance trying to justify the "how" when the "how" could have been so much easier. It took me 10 years to deal with my bad "how" and I found the penance to eventually be overwhelming.
So skip it all, enjoy the sunset, live all you can, love all you can, and never let your how create a situation you will be sorry for, ever. (do what?)