The sun sets on another day...
Storms, heat, storms, sun, blue sky, and more from moment to moment. I watched a lot today, listened, talked, and enjoyed the moments I could, some with vigor, some with excitement, some with laughter.
I find people are good mirrors sometimes. There are of course a lot of exceptions, but for the most part good to great people are mirrors of what they are given in that if you are nice, they will be nice, and if not, well, they won't. Now this has been true a lot in my life and I have found it easy to not be the evil person who will decimate the world and instead be that person that will find the positive when possible, or use the negative if necessary.
Ohh, sounds scary. It isn't.
As I considered all the patterns in the world tonight I was at peace for a moment considering all the patterns in the world. Yes, that is a paradox within itself, but sometimes you find good people in your life, sometimes bad, and sometimes it is you that needs to consider who you are in the mix.
Perhaps the perfect people for you to be around are mirrors to you. Not identical, but able to see your strengths and weaknesses, and be that thing that shows you your true self, allowing you to maybe, comb your hair, laugh at a joke, and generally be a better person. Wouldn't life be better if we could focus and instead of looking at ourselves, look to others and trust they will look to us? Is this done? Does this even make sense?
I know a few people who would not put any barriers on who they are and who they want to be, but it is a few. Perhaps we all need to strive to be that reflection that we see in ourselves, and find a way to make someone else's life good along with our own.
So as the sun sets on another day, why not enjoy life. Why not make life that much better, and why not take someone along for the ride, someone who wants to be there as much as you do. Someone who is in it not just for themselves, but for you as well. Push for it, make it real, and love the moments you can have, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and be the wow in the world...
The sun sets on another day...
Storms roll in and out like silent ninjas stealing the light. Moments pass and there are amazing shards of sun, followed by equally amazing shards of rain. It seems as though there is nothing in between right now, the shades of grey replaced by simple black and white.
I have been enjoying spending time with my son. He is an amazing young man, or perhaps now an amazing old man, or something in between. As I have sat talking to him this week I have found that his view of the world has been shifted by the world. That is to say he sees the world based on a very different world than the one I grew up in. Where I saw hundreds if not infinite shades of grey, he sees only a few and in many cases just black and white. A verifiable amount of positive or negative, with minimal outcomes outside his self defined parameters.
In the end, I am amazed as many things do fit his formula, but I worry that some are far more complex than just a few outcomes and those become far more difficult to narrow to a few choices.
So where is the world now? I find a lot of people see things in black and white now more than the variety of potential outcomes available. A lot of people see the world as this or that, and not a combination of the two. A lot of people set aside any opinion other than their own, a lot of people find themselves being judge, jury, and executioner, even if it is of themselves. Why? I am not sure.
Perhaps we need to see things from more than just our point of view. Maybe for a moment we need to realize we that every person has a variety of experiences, and we are maybe seeing just a slice of a little bit of one. Maybe, just maybe, we have to start admitting when we are right, and when we are wrong, and in the process, opening our mind the change. Maybe, It is a shade of gray. Ho0w do you feel? Is the world black or white? Are there only a few choices for each oputcome? Are there a multitude of possible outcomes with everything we do? Only you know for sure how you feel.
So as the sun sets on another day, open your eyes, see the world. See it as it is. Look past what you know and take in everything you can, and in the process, enjoy every minute you can finding your way to black, white, or an amazing series of grays. Be that person who sees more, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy every shade you can.
The sun sets on another day...
I reread my post from last night and it could be read as "oh how insightful" or "or what a downer". Either way it was a journey into a long winded way of saying it's your life, live it.
So today I will be light and for the sake of a moment say, I like my life. Do you like yours? Check one?
It is funny. Today I thought a lot about key decisions in my life, and how 2 simple decisions in high school would have made me a completely different person. There is a but there, and it is a big but, I cannot lie. If I had chosen a series of different paths, I would not be who I am today.
I guess the endgame in this supposedly short post is, be happy with who you are because, well, it is who you are. That's it, short, sweet, to the point.
So as the sun sets on another day, enjoy the day, be ok with the person you were, be who you are, and be who you want to be, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, grab life and squeeze every great moment out of it, and love so deeply it scares you...
The sun sets on another day...
I have written about similar too many times to easily state, so I will focus on a slightly new twist.
The sun tonight shone through the brilliant storm clouds. It was a testament to the sunset I could see it at all. I have recorded it, but will share it another day when I am near my computer.
I think a lot. When I drive, sot, laugh, do mindless things, do not so mindless things, and a hundred other times I could not easily describe, with a thousand other times that are sublime to a point I could not explain them.
Honestly, I think everyone thinks a lot, but I seem to never shut down.
Over the past week I have considered the paths in life we take, and all the strangeness that surrounds those people who think "things happen for a reason". I thought about it, and realized that is one of the more slighted statements out there. Trying to explain good or bad things with a blanket statement, or worse, trying to excuse our complicity in anything good or bad. So I offer this alternate statement.
"Things happen because we allow them to happen."
Now before you beat me up with murderous rage, or talk about the really bad things that happen, know that those are those golden exceptions. Those are the things that are way out of our control. I will be focusing on the core of this statement and it is there we will see maybe some positive ideas flow.
I thought about this for more than a little while as I drove today. You may ask why. Well, I find it hard to believe that good or bad happens because of something as inane as predestiny. Some people think their lives are all planned out and that it all just happens, but even in the most liberal translation of most doctrines, we have a choice, which invalidates most thoughts of predestiny. (I will stay away from the theology here and move on). The point is, things happen because we allow it. Want something food? We have to put in the effort to make it happen. Something bad? We set aside the effort. Someone does something bad to us, did we set ourselves up to allow it? Sure, there are situations where we can say ":I did not allow this," and I agree, there will be some exceptions. You may believe in something more than anyone else could, and have it taken away from you, or find the love of your life, and you not be the love of his or hers, but you still allow some semblance of the situation to happen. You put yourself out there, you work hard and try to do right, you chose an incorrect path from the top of the hill, all of those items are controlled in some part by you.
It could be, as I consider it all, a much more complex problem. I am thinking Things happen because - Rnd*Choice/Rnd simply because it is random if choice will affect us or now, and random whether it will be reduced or increased by those choices. It is all a good thought, but maybe in the end we should just do the best we can each day as we see it, and deal with whatever comes. Maybe. Still, there are times that it seems so obvious we should have held on tighter, or walked away sooner just for what was best for us. I know I am guilty from time to time, but change always puts me at my best.
How about you? The world has handed you something amazing? Do you sit back and enjoy or fight for more? The world has taken something away? Do you consider it a loss, or a chance for something new? So many questions and maybe the answer is simply 42. (Read Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy if you don't get that)
So as the sun sets on another day, I need more tea, well, maybe. We need to pay more attention to every day, and as we do we need to make certain we are guiding our paths in the way we should. Finding the positives and holding on, and leaving the toxic behind. We have some control in this really random world, let's take that control and make our days better each and every day, no matter what. Sorry for the long wind, but enjoy your night.
Sleep sweet, love life, and wow...life is good...