The sun sets on another day...
The sunset was a window into color tonight. Not good, nor bad, hidden away by the clouds it just was stunningly sublime.
I have been writing about a post a friend made with rules for a daughter, I have been modifying it for children, and discussing it a little. Tonight's thought is: "Fake it til you make it can get you through sometimes"
I thought about this for only a short time as I normally don't like fake, the word fake, being fake, faking it, fake laughs fake other things or just in general things that are not real. Then I reconsidered the point of view and realized the more effective way of looking at it was to approach items with confidence. So I would rewrite this a little as "don't let anything keep you from trying, press the envelope, expect more from yourself, and find your way there" or something like that.
In reality we all "fake it til we make it" if you look at it a certain way when we are parents. To this point I am not aware of a book that is truly a "guidebook for addressing all hings you will encounter when raising a child" and by the same token there isn't a reference manual for "getting through teething years with young children in a consistent manner" or "surviving the teen years of any child as they go through puberty". Why? Well, it is not predictable, so maybe when addressing an item that is not easily predictable, we should "fake it til we make it" and press the envelope to make things happen, even if we don't have a perfect plan.
So as the sun sets on another day, when you look at some things and feel overwhelmed, take a chance, press harder, make it work, even if it is not perfect. Find the edge of it all, and make yourself the best you can be with what you have, it won't be fake, it will be real, and you will set a higher bar every day, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy the eve...
The sun sets on another day...
Wow. The world is a complex bunch of goop and the sun still rises and sets with absolute grace and beauty. I know I know, it does not try, but it works and in the process the idea of the sun setting with grace is just amazing. No matter how you slice it an amazing sunset should make you smile. Lots of people gather right now and watch the sunset, and most of them are smiling.
I have been looking at a list that is slowly being reviewed and revised that is for a child or children. It was meant for a daughter but I am revising it to fit either way because, well, it should not be much different. That reads, should not be. Today's message is: "If you can’t smile with your eyes, don’t smile. Insincerity is nothing to aspire to."
I considered this for quite a while last night when I had finished writing, and considered it more as I was working on my latest book.
Smiling with your eyes can be one of the most amazing gifts to someone you can ever give. Someone who truly smiles from inside will always be seen as sincere, and there is no easy way to fake it. Happiness, sadness, passion, despair, they all show in the eyes and as they do the people around you see more than just what is on the surface. They can see the mirror to your soul, those things called eyes in your head. It is important to let people know how you truly feel and not mislead them by mixed signals, and in doing so, find a way to make their day and your day even better. Sound easy?
Well, some people just don't realize how they are really feeling inside. In spite of their happy demeanor their eyes can show a terrible toll. Maybe we just need to let a few things go and try to enjoy what life we have each day? Maybe, just maybe, we can let some of the other stuff go and our heart can sing each day land our eyes can show it.
So as the sun sets on another day, smile when you can, but really smile. I was once told to only do something if you mean it, well, find a way to mean it, and make each day your own, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and smile a little...
The sun sets on another day…
Ever notice how clouds seems to make the sunset even better. A clear sky is beautiful, but sometimes the clouds seem to get in the way, only to brighten the weakest light and make the sunset even more amazing. Clouds add color, and depth, and excitement, but alone, they are just clouds with the sunset, they are limitless.
I have been spending several days going down a list of items a friend noted for their daughter. I was intrigued by the list because it said something special, but I am adapting it to either a daughter or a son, mostly since I have both but partially because it is not just a one sided pony, but a three dimensional world.
Today’s message was: “Hold your heroes to a high standard. Be your own hero.”
I considered this carefully. Hero means a lot to me. Someone a long time ago told me about heroes and it meant more than they thought. I had one hero for a long time, my father, but I always looked at what I wanted to be as a person, so perhaps I could be a hero. It fit with this statement.
We have to hold our heroes to a high standard, because they are a guide, perhaps even a light in our life. We should make that standard as realistic but as lofty as we can not because we want them to be better, but because we want to be better through them. In the process, we truly need to consider all the possibilities for a hero, as a hero, and to be a hero and apply that to ourselves.
Sounds easy huh?
Maybe it is, but more likely it is not. I feel my father was always a hero, but I know he did some things that were not heroic. At the same time, I have been similar. I have always strived to be a hero and take a higher path, but have often been less than perfect, perhaps far less.
Does it matter?
I don’t think so. My opinion is that by challenging ourselves to be the very best we find a way to be better, and by making our days push towards being a hero, perhaps we are the hero to ourselves we need to be. We cannot always be a hero to the world, but we can strive to be a hero to ourselves.
So as the sun sets on another amazing day, there is heroism in the air, and it is for you, and you, and you too. All thousand or so that will read this. The world can be better because you are in it and holding the standards of your heroes high and holding the standard for yourself higher. Be your own hero every day, make those decisions that others would be proud of too, take the higher road when others take the low road, live for a positive way even when negativity abounds and in the process, well, be an example for those who need it, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love to the moon and back, and take some stars with you too…
The sun sets on another day...
The sunset was seen by many tonight. The cool breeze and the light clouds made a less powerful sunset, or was in=t more powerful? The hues were stunning as people were mesmerized by the slowly setting orb, and then it was gone, only a memory remained.
Tonight I continue to write about the list published by a friend. At the end I will post the republished, revised, and exciting list as a reminder of all the things we can leave our children. Tonight's message was: "Can't is a cop out."
It is simple, elegant, and says a serious amount without going into any detail. It is also true. Can't is a cop out. It is an excuse to avoid something, to set it aside. As people we have the will to do anything and the ability to back it up if we try. Sure, you can say "We can't fly" because that would be silly, but it seems we found a way or you could say "we can't grow another arm " or something silly to throw the idea off, but you would be missing the point. All too often we say "can't" for the smallest things and it is those small things that make the biggest difference sometimes. "Daddy can you read to me?" "I can't I am busy", "Honey can you take off tomorrow" "I can't I am too busy" and so forth are minimal examples of the cop outs we create. somewhere in the midst of it all we apply it to gym memberships, visiting friends, family, and dozens of more interesting items, but in the end it is our choice.
Now don't get me wrong, there are things that interfere with life. Work can play havoc on life, people can mess up gym time, friends can be hard to reach and a myriad of other exceptions, but the truth is we can find a way and at least try. That is the important word, try. It isn't that I can't, it is that I tried and I did not succeed, that means I will try again and again until I do succeed. Right?
So, as the sun sets on another day, let's discard the word can't for a while. Instead let's use "I will try" or set goals and reach for them. After all, in the "Impossible Dream" you have to be willing to march into hell for a heavenly cause, right? Let's take a moment and make sure we start walking when it is time, and try to do the impossible, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and live it with passion...