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The sun sets on another day...

Perhaps I should say the sun sets on another year. First, I have to say Happy Fathers Day to all of those fathers happy enough to feel happy on this day. Think about it, it will make sense. If you are happy you are a father, you have done well with your son or daughter.

Personally, I am very happy to be a father. My children are happy and successful, each in their own way. Some have traits I can say "Wow, that's like me" and some are a bit different marching to the "beat of their own drum". That's OK.

I often think about my father who has now been gone 16 years. As I do I am happy and impressed with the time I had, and saddened by all the time I did not have with him. Each of us may have our own story, but I looked up to my dad up to the day he died, and his death was not expected. Perhaps it was due to cancer that he had fought and overcome, or perhaps to a dozen other things, but in the end he left behind big shoes to fill each day, and a legacy for me to follow as much as possible.

If your father is alive, take a moment and cherish the good moments you have had with him and those that you can still have with him. Make the time as much as you can to show him his importance in your life. Find a path and a moment and a series of moments to show him his importance. If you are a father, make sure your son has someone to look up to each day. No, you can't be perfect, but you can be that parent that listens, that hears, and that finds a way to help. Give the biggest gift of all, time.

As I sit here today patiently paying attention to the past I set aside almost every day I ponder for just a moment, I know that one more day with my dad would be amazing, a week even more, and sometimes I would settle for an hour. In the end, it is something I can never have, but something that I always have as long as I hold on to his memory.

So as the sun sets on another day, sorry for the somber post. Fathers and Mothers alike need to be honored, cherished, and loved each and every day. Make the effort be the son or daughter that makes your father proud and if you you are a father, make a difference in your child's life, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and happy fathers day...




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The sun sets on another day...

I wrote about similar here.

The sun sets on another day. Tonight the clouds kept the sunset at bay, but it was a glorious battle, filled with moments going back and forth and back and forth. You could see the sun as an outline in the clouds, then it would be gone, swallowed by the darkness.

I like to tell stories of people and places that both exist or do not exist. When I do I am lost in the moment and find the days being quite amazing. I like to read, and as I read I feel transported into different realms of fantasy and reality. In the process I feel overwhelmed with the power of the writers words. I like to watch movies and get immersed into a script that works is a journey of mind and heart. Yes, I like these things, but I also like to listen, and to hear people and who they are and how they are in life.

Listening is often easy. Parent and children both listen, but some do not hear. Friends listen and some hear, some do not. It is inherent in who we are to listen, but often we just sift out key points without paying attention to a complete series of thoughts, phrases, or actual experience. Hear, it seems easy, maybe it is easy.

I find myself on unique ground right now. There are so many things I have learned over the year but I know less than nothing in the context of a global whole. Still, I like to think I hear, but sometimes I don't hear all of the nuances. Sometimes the world is a bit bigger that I think, or a bit smaller, and as I listen I overhear. 

Maybe in the end it doesn't matter, but it is my opinion people should hear and listen and hear some more, and pay attention to the depth of something being said. After all, something that appears to be insignificant because it means nothing to you may be insurmountable from another persons point of view, because it does mean something to them. Funny how that happens. Someone makes a few off the cuff remarks about someone they think are unimportant, and it becomes a life changing experience.

Something to think about.

So as the sun sets on another day. There are people talking all the time, are you listening? Do you know what is important to those close to you. Do you know what is important to those you want to be close to you or those you want to not be close to? If so, you are hearing. If not, well, listen more closely, pay attention. Set aside what you think you know, and pay attention to all the things that are important, and in the end, enjoy every moment, no matter what,

Sleep sweet, listen close, and hear the music...


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The sun sets on another day...

There is was, a great sunset in the works, the clouds were set for the sun to drop underneath them and light the evening sky, and then it didn't, just like that. Still, it made me smile thinking about all the wonderful things the sunset brings and the beauty that could have been.

Could have been. that is a tough statement. I remember kids playing and they would have a disagreement, the words "I could have been your friend" was a weapon of mass warfare. It stung people and changed everything in an instant. Then there was more banter and negotiation. It was used as a breaking series of words, and it made kids consider their next moves more carefully.

As adults you would think we outgrew the same, but there is still that same desire to be liked, to be right, to be in charge, to be something, and if that is challenged it creates action. We could have done great things together always leaves someone thinking, like what? I could have been more promotes weakness, and I could have been nicer begets the question why weren't you nice to begin with. My lack of a point here is that I could have been more clear at the beginning and just said don't wait for a time you could have been, do ti ow and make it real.

Does that work?

So as the sun sets on another day, "could have beens" and "would have beens" are missed opportunities. Build your expectations and the expectations you have of others and make your dreams a reality all the time. Waiting for one minute is a minute lost that can never be regained, and trust me, doing what you think is right for someone doesn't always work. Make your could have beens I did, and your days will feel more complete, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, bark at the moon, and live for the stars...

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The sun sets on another day...

The sunset was brisk but powerful. The day started cold, wet, and nasty but ended with bright sunlight and a stunning sunset. It could not match the rest of the day.

There is something to be said for subtle discussions and mundane activities that turn into realizations, revelations, and recharge you to a point of positivity. Today was one of those days, where moment to moment was better and better, and the lack of a focused day made the day even more memorable.

Sometimes the best days are the days not planned. Sometimes the moments lead to other moments, and a plan becomes a series of unexpected twists and turns. A drive becomes a trip in a countryside, a few hour tour becomes an adventure on a desert island. The point is, if we are trying to plan out every moment, we can sometimes lose the moments that should be there. This about it, for just a second, then live your life.

So as the sun sets on another day, the day most loved is the day least planned, the passion most felt is the passion unchecked, the life best lives is a life that is lived, or that is at least a good start. This about it, enjoy it, and have a little fun along the way, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy your moments...