The sun sets on another day...
Sunset was spectacular, and again I was driving, again between one place and another.
Usually the day sparks a lot of ideas about what I write about. Usually the day can contain dozens upon dozens of good topics, then one where the words flow. This week I have a great deal of words lost in my mind as I struggle to understand the meaning of life, and the way of it all. I don't do this often as life is not a riddle that can be solved, but a series of permutations to an end. IT is not unlike an endless puzzle where as one box opens another is found. The only thing I have found for sure is there are few if any finite answers, and even fewer people who are willing to keep seeking and understanding more. More often than not I find people who find a hypothesis that fits their line of thinking and use convenient data to build a destination that is "figured out" and share that destination over and over.
I met someone last night and had an interesting discussion, which turned into me listening to them supply data point after data point. It had me thinking a great deal and in the end I was impressed and at the same time interested in talking more.
In essence the man was talking about masks. His explanation of the time of the Greeks and Hypocrites was good and I listened to learn and tried to incite and understand more. I am fascinated by the masks we wear daily. A Japanese quote states we wear three masks. The one we show the public, the one we show our friends, and the one we know beneath it all, our true self. I have found it is more complicated than that in this day and age and the essence of the quote makes sense, but the depth can no longer be a static item. After all, we are constantly in flux and constantly in a new social situation. The internet as a whole ahs created a new mask for many to wear, and beyond that the plethora of perilous paradoxes created by technology have created even more complexities. New drugs and alcohol create even more juxtapositions of junque (French? lol).
As I considered it all, there was a bit of sadness in me. I can see the point of the original mask quote, but now it seems as though many people are instead like the center of diamonds, surrounded by multi-layer facets of mask after mask hidden deep inside. People now have their online persona; their work persona; their gym persona; there home persona; their dating persona; their job hunting persona; their married persona and so it goes ad nauseum until somewhere we have lost the ability to know ourselves.
Want to scream yet?
Perhaps it is time to find out who we are first, and in our lone persona find out who we are, and minimize what we project to others, if at all. Is who we are so bad we cannot present it? Perhaps, but can we at least have just 2 personas, the persona that we know and the persona that we show?
As I considered this all I must state that I am probably there. After years alone and facing pain each day of my life, I have found who I am. I project and am what I am, but I also know that inside their is still the hidden ID so to speak, the persona I know and keep locked away . Which is the real me? They all are.
Ursula K Le Guin wrote a series called the Earth Sea Trilogy that explored one mans realization that each of us has at least 2 sides. Perhaps there the faces end and as the Main character, Ged, found the shadow is and always was/will be part of him and is able to tame the shadow and allow it to return to his very soul. The darkness inside was tamed by the light, and nothing else existed besides the two. Remember though, your darkness is as much a part of you as your light.
I know, I know, too much today, but I think about this a great deal already, and I could probably write a tome on the dynamics of internet personalities on their own. Instead I simply ask you, each of all of you out there reading, to ask yourself how many facets you have and to determine if you can simplify, consolidate, and become the ones you need to become. After all, being the truthful one all the time may not seem to be good, but you will never have to remember who you are for anyone as you will always be you.
So as the sun sets on another day, perhaps many people wear masks. Perhaps even you do. For me, I will be the one I am at all times as I will not remember the others, and in the process will either gain friends or enemies just from the interaction. Meet me there, be who you are, not who others want or expect you to be, because you are special each and every day. You are unique, you are able to be that one person that someone else wants or needs. Be that person, each and every day, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and be you...
The sun sets on another day...
Sunset was cloudy, and though the sun fought to show itself there was something else that was a focus, something spectacular.
Today I watched in honor as dozens of cheerleaders met at my sisters house to pay their respects to my niece. There was a lot of talking, crying, and heartfelt emotions as each of the young ladies stood in their turn and experienced the moment. Some were silently crying, some sobbed at their loss, and in the end it was an amazing moment that could have moved the most stoic of individual. At the end each of them held a helium balloons and with a prayer they released the balloons into the sky.
I am sure someone was thinking this was a bad idea, that a plane or something would have an issue with the balloon or some other craziness but none of those people were there, instead we watched the balloons rise together as a unit then swell and contract taking on many shapes as they rose. It was as if a living thing had been released into the sky and as others moved on I watched the balloons shift shape, and smiled at the gesture. Soon they were out of sight and it meant something to me.
We all go through life rising further and further. Sometimes were are cohesive, sometimes not, but we continue to rise until that point that we can be seen no longer. There was nothing but unique shapes and sizes as the balloons rose, and the sky was adorned with a life of its own. We need to remember that, and remember that each of us is unique, and rising with a life of our own. Make it amazing, I know you can.
So as the sun sets on another day, life is spectacular, and the world is an amazing place each day. Look at everything in wonder and see past the mundane and into the amazing. Find a way to see more each day with all you do, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy your day...
The sun sets on another day...
This will be a short post. Sunset was amazing as always, and so was the day.
I find today I have much to say but not the defined time to say it. Instead I can only give this advise. Love each other as deeply as you can, and enjoy your day every day. No matter what.
Sleep sweet, be amazing, and find an amazing path...
The sun sets on another day...
I will warn you now, this will not be the normal post I write, read on at your own risk. I hope it will be uplifting, but it may be a little sad as well.
This week my niece, Haley Sue Pearson passed away unexpectedly in a terrible accident. Many will stop there and set it aside. To me it was a lot more. This week my niece Haley Sue Pearson passed away unexpectedly being the person she wanted to be and trying to help someone in need selflessly. This is only part of a larger story.
Almost exactly 25 years ago I held a 3 pound baby who could easily fit in the palm of my hand. My sister and brother in laws pride and Joy, Haley could only be considered a leader and a fighter. As this young lady grew up she was destined to be in the limelight at all times. She loved making people happy, making people laugh, and being that young woman who was not just there, but THERE. I remember often when I saw her the hugs she gave me. I was monumentally massive but this young lady would always hug me with all her might and perhaps a little more. She did not jus hold me but she made sure I knew she felt with deep conviction, and that she was there with me in that moment. As I watched her grow up I continually saw that young woman who would lead, and bring others with her along the way. A song became a concert and it was not just her, but her inspiring others to join her. A few moments of laugher became joke after joke and her eyes sparkled with a life that only a few could understand. Haley truly saw every moment as an opportunity, and every opportunity as a gift.
I remember her leading a small group of children and inspiring them to act and play and be interactive. People were drawn to her and she made the best out of them. Their goals became attainable as she encouraged those around her, and helped them understand that moments were important, and friends were more important.
A talented and inspiring actress I sat in many plays and now am saddened I will not see more, and did not see them all. Her portrayal of the parts she was assigned with not rigid or filled with lines, she found a way to impart the emotions of the character to us all, and in the process found herself inspiring everyone to be more, see more, and feel more. I was often on edge waiting for her to return to the stage, not because I was a doting uncle, but to see what twist she would have on a character, or what she would add of herself to every role.
This summer she and her family spent some time at the house. In the midst of it all I took pictures as we all watched the sunset and saw this woman who was once an inspiring child see the sunset and be lost in its grandeur. It seemed as though the moments were forever, and that she would achieve, overcome, and build a better world just by being in it. That journey ended this week as she tried to reach a friend in an accident, and in the process lost her life. I cannot imagine a world without her and long for more time, but I know that the world is a better place for her being here. She touched so many, and as she did, her life may serve as an example to us all.
So as the sun sets on another day, find the highest peak and climb it, just because. Yeah, we could do that. I have an idea though. Find something that needs to be corrected and work to correct it. Make it better. Make it yours. While you do that accomplish something, then a little more. When you are done find a new goal, and I know you, I, we can make the world better. Do something each day and life will change for the better, and remember Haley if you knew her, she was a great person.
Sleep sweet, love with all your heart, and make the world a better place...