The sun sets on another day...
Storms roll in and out like silent ninjas stealing the light. Moments pass and there are amazing shards of sun, followed by equally amazing shards of rain. It seems as though there is nothing in between right now, the shades of grey replaced by simple black and white.
I have been enjoying spending time with my son. He is an amazing young man, or perhaps now an amazing old man, or something in between. As I have sat talking to him this week I have found that his view of the world has been shifted by the world. That is to say he sees the world based on a very different world than the one I grew up in. Where I saw hundreds if not infinite shades of grey, he sees only a few and in many cases just black and white. A verifiable amount of positive or negative, with minimal outcomes outside his self defined parameters.
In the end, I am amazed as many things do fit his formula, but I worry that some are far more complex than just a few outcomes and those become far more difficult to narrow to a few choices.
So where is the world now? I find a lot of people see things in black and white now more than the variety of potential outcomes available. A lot of people see the world as this or that, and not a combination of the two. A lot of people set aside any opinion other than their own, a lot of people find themselves being judge, jury, and executioner, even if it is of themselves. Why? I am not sure.
Perhaps we need to see things from more than just our point of view. Maybe for a moment we need to realize we that every person has a variety of experiences, and we are maybe seeing just a slice of a little bit of one. Maybe, just maybe, we have to start admitting when we are right, and when we are wrong, and in the process, opening our mind the change. Maybe, It is a shade of gray. Ho0w do you feel? Is the world black or white? Are there only a few choices for each oputcome? Are there a multitude of possible outcomes with everything we do? Only you know for sure how you feel.
So as the sun sets on another day, open your eyes, see the world. See it as it is. Look past what you know and take in everything you can, and in the process, enjoy every minute you can finding your way to black, white, or an amazing series of grays. Be that person who sees more, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy every shade you can.
The sun sets on another day...
I reread my post from last night and it could be read as "oh how insightful" or "or what a downer". Either way it was a journey into a long winded way of saying it's your life, live it.
So today I will be light and for the sake of a moment say, I like my life. Do you like yours? Check one?
It is funny. Today I thought a lot about key decisions in my life, and how 2 simple decisions in high school would have made me a completely different person. There is a but there, and it is a big but, I cannot lie. If I had chosen a series of different paths, I would not be who I am today.
I guess the endgame in this supposedly short post is, be happy with who you are because, well, it is who you are. That's it, short, sweet, to the point.
So as the sun sets on another day, enjoy the day, be ok with the person you were, be who you are, and be who you want to be, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, grab life and squeeze every great moment out of it, and love so deeply it scares you...
The sun sets on another day...
I have written about similar too many times to easily state, so I will focus on a slightly new twist.
The sun tonight shone through the brilliant storm clouds. It was a testament to the sunset I could see it at all. I have recorded it, but will share it another day when I am near my computer.
I think a lot. When I drive, sot, laugh, do mindless things, do not so mindless things, and a hundred other times I could not easily describe, with a thousand other times that are sublime to a point I could not explain them.
Honestly, I think everyone thinks a lot, but I seem to never shut down.
Over the past week I have considered the paths in life we take, and all the strangeness that surrounds those people who think "things happen for a reason". I thought about it, and realized that is one of the more slighted statements out there. Trying to explain good or bad things with a blanket statement, or worse, trying to excuse our complicity in anything good or bad. So I offer this alternate statement.
"Things happen because we allow them to happen."
Now before you beat me up with murderous rage, or talk about the really bad things that happen, know that those are those golden exceptions. Those are the things that are way out of our control. I will be focusing on the core of this statement and it is there we will see maybe some positive ideas flow.
I thought about this for more than a little while as I drove today. You may ask why. Well, I find it hard to believe that good or bad happens because of something as inane as predestiny. Some people think their lives are all planned out and that it all just happens, but even in the most liberal translation of most doctrines, we have a choice, which invalidates most thoughts of predestiny. (I will stay away from the theology here and move on). The point is, things happen because we allow it. Want something food? We have to put in the effort to make it happen. Something bad? We set aside the effort. Someone does something bad to us, did we set ourselves up to allow it? Sure, there are situations where we can say ":I did not allow this," and I agree, there will be some exceptions. You may believe in something more than anyone else could, and have it taken away from you, or find the love of your life, and you not be the love of his or hers, but you still allow some semblance of the situation to happen. You put yourself out there, you work hard and try to do right, you chose an incorrect path from the top of the hill, all of those items are controlled in some part by you.
It could be, as I consider it all, a much more complex problem. I am thinking Things happen because - Rnd*Choice/Rnd simply because it is random if choice will affect us or now, and random whether it will be reduced or increased by those choices. It is all a good thought, but maybe in the end we should just do the best we can each day as we see it, and deal with whatever comes. Maybe. Still, there are times that it seems so obvious we should have held on tighter, or walked away sooner just for what was best for us. I know I am guilty from time to time, but change always puts me at my best.
How about you? The world has handed you something amazing? Do you sit back and enjoy or fight for more? The world has taken something away? Do you consider it a loss, or a chance for something new? So many questions and maybe the answer is simply 42. (Read Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy if you don't get that)
So as the sun sets on another day, I need more tea, well, maybe. We need to pay more attention to every day, and as we do we need to make certain we are guiding our paths in the way we should. Finding the positives and holding on, and leaving the toxic behind. We have some control in this really random world, let's take that control and make our days better each and every day, no matter what. Sorry for the long wind, but enjoy your night.
Sleep sweet, love life, and wow...life is good...
The sun sets on another day...
Perhaps I should say the sun sets on another year. First, I have to say Happy Fathers Day to all of those fathers happy enough to feel happy on this day. Think about it, it will make sense. If you are happy you are a father, you have done well with your son or daughter.
Personally, I am very happy to be a father. My children are happy and successful, each in their own way. Some have traits I can say "Wow, that's like me" and some are a bit different marching to the "beat of their own drum". That's OK.
I often think about my father who has now been gone 16 years. As I do I am happy and impressed with the time I had, and saddened by all the time I did not have with him. Each of us may have our own story, but I looked up to my dad up to the day he died, and his death was not expected. Perhaps it was due to cancer that he had fought and overcome, or perhaps to a dozen other things, but in the end he left behind big shoes to fill each day, and a legacy for me to follow as much as possible.
If your father is alive, take a moment and cherish the good moments you have had with him and those that you can still have with him. Make the time as much as you can to show him his importance in your life. Find a path and a moment and a series of moments to show him his importance. If you are a father, make sure your son has someone to look up to each day. No, you can't be perfect, but you can be that parent that listens, that hears, and that finds a way to help. Give the biggest gift of all, time.
As I sit here today patiently paying attention to the past I set aside almost every day I ponder for just a moment, I know that one more day with my dad would be amazing, a week even more, and sometimes I would settle for an hour. In the end, it is something I can never have, but something that I always have as long as I hold on to his memory.
So as the sun sets on another day, sorry for the somber post. Fathers and Mothers alike need to be honored, cherished, and loved each and every day. Make the effort be the son or daughter that makes your father proud and if you you are a father, make a difference in your child's life, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and happy fathers day...