The sun sets on another day...
The crows flew from side to side, dashing the darkness upon the color. As the sun set the sky was full of feathers and caws, but I may never know to what cause.
It was funny today as I worked on the end of the road, cutting grass, pulling weeds, and trying to make it all a little better, I watched cars fly by on the main road and smiled as I heard blips and bleeps of what was going on. The over the top radio blaring, the child crying, the pseudo fight and much more happened as I spelled of peppermint and spearmint from the wild patches growing in the edge.
Ever think of how people only see part of what is going on and fill in their own blanks? As I heard the car go by with music blaring, how would I know why? Perhaps he could not hear without it completely up, or perhaps she was signing at the top of her lungs. The child crying could have been the crying giggle that so many parents love to hear. A true cry of laughter and not sadness, or a mishap in the diaper. It proceeds. How can we know without seeing more than a blip. How can we assume without hearing more than a moment.
The answer is, "We can't". Unless we are with someone all the time, talking all the time, we cannot truly know much of anything. The magnificent couple in the restaurant could be the miserable couple at home. The sad man at the park, could truly be a happy man with a lot on his mind. Me, covered with mud and dirt, laughing at the end of a road with a weed eater, well, who knows. The crows, well, they are just hungry again and noisy, but that too is an assumption, maybe they want a spa day?
So as the sun sets on another day, we cannot understand what we don't know. We can't see what we are not there for, nor can we hear past the silence. (Scary thought) Maybe it would be better if we laughed a bit, cawed a bit, and tried not to decide lives based on moments. Maybe, just maybe, we should smile and caw, and pay attention to where we are going. I like that, and maybe I won't run into a swamp if I do so. Make yourself the best you can be, and enjoy your moments all you can, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and caw...caw...caw...
The sun sets on another day...
The sunset fired off rockets of color and light in hundred of directions as it reflected off the pristine clouds. I watched as the colors faded and soon were dark, and in the process saw both light and dark in front of me at once.
I am told I am too positive. I have been told I am too cheery. I have been told I do not focus enough on the bad, and look for the good too much. I have been told a lot of things. I try to learn from every one. Sometimes I get caught in the middle, and so do we all, from trying to do what is right, or prevent what is wrong, or change something we cannot change. So I sat tonight and considered.
A lot of people look for reasons for everything, and I am becoming more convinced that the only reason for most things, is in the mirror. We, at least, being people in general, are the sum of our experience. Our experience is the sum of our decisions, and our decisions make our lives what they are every day. It is true, some people have positive and negative effects on our life, but we decide how we will interact, and the decisions we make will affect the outcome and make our lives the way they are each day.
I am reminded of the movie "SpellBinder" where the main character makes a sweeping statement at the beginning and set up the entire movie to an end that is not positive, nor easily predictable. In the end, everyone's decisions made their lives what they were, and there was not other possible explanation. Our control in life is an illusion, but not as big of an illusion as our lack of control. (Yeah, I pondered that for over a year, the points of reference are off the scale). So what do we do? Are we in control, or are we not in control.
I put it to you, yes you, that you are in control of you, and it is you that sets up the positives and negatives in your life. This is not because you awesome master of control, maybe you are, perhaps you are not. It is because you decide what is positive and negative in your life.
Another movie, "Groundhog day" could be seen as depressing as the main character relives so many things that despair sets in, but it is only when he realizes that holding on is tearing him apart, that he find a pathway to enlightenment. Sure, these are movies, they are not real, they may even mean little, or even nothing, but I have found that the worst days of my life are my doing, and making the best out of the worst is not fooling myself, it is finding a way.
I am sure I am wrong a lot, but I am not always wrong. I am sure that no matter how bad the day I can find a way to overcome and find some positive in it.
So as the sun sets on another day, today is a ______ day. It is not for me to fill in your blank, it is for you to decide. Good, bad, terrible, fantastic is always up to you. Make good decisions and find a way but be happy with you, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and hold on to the best you can....
The sun sets on another day...
I wrote two posts tonight. The first I set aside thinking it is for another day while I (Uncomfortable pause here), I took the road less traveled and decided the choice made all the difference.
I sit here thinking about the edges of life, and all the things that happen to put us on the edge. We find ways to get by, true, but sometimes what people see is just the edge of what is happening. Imagine a quarter and you are looking at it from the side. It goes round and round and as you watch it not only seems the same, but appears both fluid and congruous. Turn the coin up, and spin it and you see the details, heads, tails an a lot more. What is more telling is you still can see the entire edge as you rotate the coin, it is just no longer of consequence.
Now look at people and what they show you. What you see. I am sure you see happy families, excited people, sad people, lonely people, but you are only seeing the edge. The person who seems happiest could be spending their nights crying asking why. While another person who seems to be happy could be locked in a prison of their own creation. The person who sits quietly in the corner, they may be happy, lost in the moments and not willing to engage in the contest that seems to lurk all around us. So what do you see? What is that thing in you that you can change and make better, or how can you change your life to make your life the life it should be.
I am amazed always at how many people look to others for solutions. How they look to others to lift them up, or to others to put them down so they can feel up. There are dozens of permutations, but the truth is, find a way to be happy about yourself. No one else really matters. Looking for redemption, give it to yourself. Looking for punishment, set it aside and find something more positive, but in the end, find a way to a happier place.
I would love to say I have all the answers, but every day there is a new question. I try to ask myself daily "how can I be better?" Take a moment, ask yourself the same thing, how can you be better. Maybe you can start by believing in yourself, and believing in your decisions. Somewhere along the way, find a happy place, and put yourself in it. It is there you will find your way, no matter what.
So as the sun sets on another day, the edge is not the sum of it all, it is just the edge. Look inside, learn yourself, and look at others more closely before you assume anything about them or their lives. Life is full of complexities and maybe your problems are not as big as someone else's. Maybe you have a lot ore to be thankful for than you think. Hold on to that, and make the world a better place because you are in it.
Sleep sweet, remember true, and love to the moon and back and the stars beyond...
The sun sets on another day...
Er, the rain falls on another day...
Er, the rain in Spain falls mainly on the plain...
You are who you are but are you who you want to be?
Think about it, don't just say, "Why of course, and pass the Grey Poupon."
Consider. Are you who you want to be. I know I fall short sometimes. I take on too much, push too far, go even further, try to make everyone happy and end up not thinking about myself until I am too late. Not exactly who I want to be there, but I have lots of qualities I like in me.
Consider. Are you being the person you want to be, with work, with play, with others, with family, friends, and truly, with yourself.
Somewhere inside of you is a person you want to be, the one who takes the high road, or the low road, who takes chances, or who avoids those chances, who is it you want to be?
Consider. There are a lot of people in the world and you need to be the best you can be for you each and every day. To grow, to heal, to live, to love and so much more. Not for everyone else, but for you. On this rainy day I simply ask you to consider. Be who you are and who you are proud of and it will get you far.
I watched a movie (It was funny and fun) and one of the key points was "I like who we are here" and the answer was simply "Then let's be like this every day". I sat thinking about this for quite a while recently. Are you who you want to be? Are you who you are? If so, you are amazing, if not, be that person, not just for a moment, but for every day!
So as the sun sets on another day, consider, not just for a moment, but consider all the time who you are, who you want to be and where you want to go. Consider it all, and find a way to be that person, not just for a moment, but for all the moments you can, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and consider...