No cost…

The sun sets on another day…

There are many perfect days. This was one of them. I am reminded of the movie Miss Congeniality where a contest was asked for the perfect date and she said April 25th because “…it’s not too hot, not too cold. All you need is a light jacket.” I smiled as August 12th becomes another perfect day, not too hot or cold and not even a light jacket was really necessary.

I was looking at the new cost of living for a moment. It seems everything is a subscription now. Pay per month for this or for that and there seems to be no end to the number of monetized mashups that slowly take away from you without giving you anything real. For 9.99 per month you can have more, and at the end of the day feel good for a moment.

Guess what? There are things that cost nothing and are more fun. A walk on the beach is free (well, for the most past) and you will gain magnificent memories or winsome waves washing along the shore. Holding hands or spending time with someone special is free (Unless you go to the movies, take out a load then) and the memories and feelings you get are priceless. There are lots of examples and I will focus on just one for a second.

Being nice to people is free (No special statement here). All you have to do is be nice. Not spend a lot of time, effort, or any money, but instead reach deep into your soul and believe that you can be nice. It’s not hard, it costs nothing and you can spread a little kindness in the world. Take a deep breath, feel it slide around you, and be a person that gives something free: kindness.

So as the sun sets on another day it is another amazing moment in a series of days that are all about you. After all, you are the most important person to you. Find a path that works well and takes others on that journey with you to open you heart, your mind, and your kindness so that everyone can see the world through your amazing eyes. Be the person that makes the world a better place, one person at a time, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and nicely nicely…

A dream within…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was better than better and full of light and life as I frantically chased the sun on my mower, trying to finish before twilight swallowed the horizon and darkness fell across the land. I could have said “I watched as it got dark” but where would the fun in that be?

I was remembering a series of dreams and thinking about the power of dreams in our lives. I find it interesting in a recent documentary I saw that all dreams are made from our memories. I thought about that a lot for a while, and somewhere in the midst of it all, I laughed and cried BS.

I have solved major problems in my dreams and built everything from supercomputers to LASERs. I have fought monsters that have no name, and been involved with situations that are beyond belief. I seem to be missing those memories. I have read dozens of books on dreaming if not more, and they all say things a little differently. In the end they blend the idea that our subconscious thoughts and desires are at work, and in the process we find a way to see these thoughts in the form of dreams.

No matter how you slice it there are good and bad dreams and I hope you find your good dreams, and that those dreams come true.

So as the sun sets on another day, I just reread this and ick, not much there. Let’s just say that your dreams are a window to your inner self and I hope you enjoy living them each day. Enjoy your moments and lets make every day a day that is better than any dream, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love deeply, and pleasant dreams…

The age of fun…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was spectacular as I watched from the back on a rocker. I spent more time watching the little birds vie for position on the feeders. After all, sunset is fantastic, but fun is fun.

I read an article today about fun. It was not well documented and had no link to any study data, so I took it with a grain of salt. The article said that out of a thousand people surveyed, a majority said that fun stopped at age 45. They took it further to say there is no concept of fun after 45, and that creativity and imagination peak at age 6.

Eeek.

I sat thinking about it for a few moments tonight as I watched the birds play and thought about how it would be fun to giggle and laugh on a birdfeeder. I thought about an article my work shared and how the aging workforce could be a way to solve issues; I thought about a book I am writing now and finishing the ending. Then I smiled.

The word “poppycock” has a particular meaning. It is as it sounds, nonsense. I thought about that word for a few moments.

If you believe you lose fun at 45, you are the problem, not the age. I know people who lost their idea of fun at 18. Many people will tell you their ex lost their idea of fun when they put the ring on. (Fun poke, don’t take it too seriously) but the truth is, fun is up to you. You make a choice every day to have fun or not to have fun, and in the process, you become your own gatekeeper.

Join me for a moment in your mind, young or old, and let’s fly away on magical wings, laugh at the birds, smile at the world, and have fun each day. We can do this and stay young at heart every day without regard to age if we stop letting the world decide for us. It is our choice; let’s choose to be spectacular.

So as the sun sets on another day, each day is a gift, and I wanna open presents! With that in mind, let’s enjoy the world and all the time we can spend each and every day. We can be young at heart well into our 90s if we remember to have fun every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and what a ride…

Time slips…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was full of clouds, and as I walked to the corner I watched the sky blend to darkness from dark. It makes it interesting to watch when the light is already gone and it is taken away some more.

Time is pretty cool, or is it? I am finding that often time gets away from me unless it is very carefully checked and more carefully monitored. Consider now I have several phone calls I need to make and have not, as each time I am free, it is far too late. Much of this is on me, but I will slap time for a moment and simply say, “Stop slipping away!”

Seriously for a moment consider all the time we have in a day, and how we spend it. What is most important? Are we focusing on that or on something less than important? Aren’t people the most important thing in our lives? Should they be?

That’s a lot of questions, and I wish I could say, “This is the definitive answer!” Instead, I can only tell you that time will keep passing as we decide our answers, and in the process, we will hopefully make the best decisions we can. For me, I will try to reach out more effectively and push not to be that person who can’t find the time when time is there right now, as it was all along.

So as the sun sets on another day, consider well the implications of time on your life. Reach out and be a part of the lives of others, and find a way to manage time in a way that benefits you, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and tick tick tick…

Hidden motives…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset is up there somewhere. There are clouds and rain and lots of fun floating around, and far above, the sun is setting slowly in the western sky, cascading colors above the rain-filled clouds.

I listened well today and found another person with a story, another person who is looking for more and finding more by opening their mind to, well, more. Too many “mores” in this paragraph.

Listening let me hear a story today. It was a story I have heard often. It is a story I have lived before. A person lost someone special, and as they lost that person they were coerced by another person into an fantastic relationship that could only be described as perfect. As the relationship matured the level of negativity increased, until it was no longer a good relationship, at all.

The idea of a narcissistic sociopath is not new. It is a person who manipulates everyone to get what they want. As they do so it becomes apparent that often they are not sure of what they wanted to begin with, and often it ends painfully.

With this person today, they walked away and have not looked back. They have found a new lease on life and a new series of wins that will allow them to be complete. This is the most favorable outcome of any bad relationship. For both people to find their center and to become better people. After all, if we hold a grudge forever, we only hold on to our pain.

So as the sun sets on another day, I am glad I met this person. Not because of the pain they went through but because now they will find their way and make their world more complete each day, no matter what. Do the same, and let’s find a way to happiness!

Sleep sweet, love deeply, and don’t be afraid to love again…

Measures…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was a winsome whirlwind of light. It was an end to a day and the herald of a walk into another. The twilight sky was sprayed with color, and then the dark of night crept in, blanketing the sky with ebon darkness, but there was light as the half moon lit the horizon.

Today was filled with no so quiet reflection. I was at one of my favorite venues in Holland, Michigan and the way was off to a superior start until the food truck started the generator in front of us. Chances of talking to people cascaded into nothingness. I believe now much of the day was lost as people wanted to avoid the chewing noise of generator machinations.

The day had its highlights and observations. The people are always the best part of every day. I knew the authors of the day and they, as always, we full of light and life. Spending time with authors is an opportunity to see inside the minds of those who have imagination and think for more than just a moment.

I also met two fantastic people today who outline how we should all define friendship. Two young women were there, and as always, I stuck my foot in my mouth first thing. One young woman seems to be forged in fire with the power of the gods coursing through her veins. She took load after load to their booth, which was well placed but in the center of the event. The second young woman seemed to help as she could, and I stated “Wow, she is pushing faster.” only to find that the second young woman had just undergone surgery. I was reminded of the only time I have been embarrassed in my life, but I was not, and we talked, and I saw separate power and symbiosis in the two of them. It was apparent the first young woman could do more and did so with an incredible smile on her face, but it was also evident that the second young lady was pushing hard and making a difference. There was no measure given, nor expectation, but these two were fantastic examples of how people can help each other and do not just what they can, but more.

Can we do no less? When people need us, do we help? When we help, is it a chore or a pleasure? Can you find a true friend when one only gives or one only take? Is the essence of life seeing past the surface and knowing when people are fantastic, knowing when people are true?

I believe these two powerhouses are an example of the future. They are an example of two people who like and care about each other, and I am sure based on talking to them that they will help each other all they can, and with that, there will be a success. After all, in a world filled with negativity, today I saw two people who were positive in their interactions and truly defined a team.

So as the sun sets on another day, I went home and smiled, well, I smiled more after two large Chick-Fil-A teas. (It was hot out there) Life is filled with beautiful lessons if you look, and I enjoyed today’s moments. Help people when you can, and when you need help, don’t be afraid to ask. The world will be a better place because of it. Oh, and read more books daily to see into another world, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and hold tight…

It wasn’t me…

The sun sets on another day…

I looked out over Muskegon Lake and watched the sun set slowly in the western sky. The clear day had given way to an amazing sunset and much reflection.

After talking to someone a short time ago I thought about all of the things that were holding me back. Whether it be pain or other I was not being me. I considered for a moment and then stopped considering.

How many times do we focus on our limitations and not the unlimited person we can be? How many times do we sit back and allow ourselves to stop ourselves?

I’m not going to say that pain, both physical and mental, don’t hold us back. They do. I am going to say that we have an opportunity every moment of the day to be more and to do more. We have an opportunity push past and focus on the good and make it real.

With that in mind I will find a way past and I hope you do too. Set aside the things that are holding you back and find a way to be who you are and not what external forces are shaping you to be.

So as the sun sets on another day let’s find a way to enjoy this. Not because of anything else except to be the person that we can be and we want to be each and every day. I hope you find the fortitude to make this day yours and as the sun rises in the morning make that day yours as well, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love with passion, and you got this..

The path forward…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was wonderful as a ball of yellow light slowly descended into the west. There was an absence of clouds and the world seemed to be at peace. I found myself lost in that orb for a moment and considering the world.

There is an old movie called “Short Circuit” that got lost in my head for a moment. In the movie a robot becomes alive (Just go with it) and at one point the main character if guiding the robot. She does this by saying “Forward” over and over and it is a funny scene that get to the right place.

Somewhere I was lost this evening in the idea of always moving forward. The idea of “Semper Dienceps,” finding a way, and worrying about continuing and not the past. I have said over and over that we should not whine about the past or pine over the future and, in doing so, define ourselves each day, but in that definition, we should always push forward. After all, forward gives us momentum and forward opens our minds. Forward takes us somewhere, anywhere, and everywhere.

Are you considering a forward path? Are you waiting for something to come to you or are you finding something all the time and making the world a better place? Do you see the world as a place to explore and learn from, or is the world just that place that stores your place?

I would like to think we can all learn each day. I would like to think we can explore each day, and I would like to move forward. I was supposed to be in a new city tomorrow and a conflict took that from me. I sit now considering how it would have been a new series of experiences, a new series of people, and mostly a path forward as I always push for. I will find a way to get there and keep learning all the time.

So as the sun sets on another day, consider well the direction you take. Consider how you find your way, and push forward each day to new frontiers, new experience, and new friends, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and forward…

Infinitely finite…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was a surprise. The day was filled with rain and storms. Suddenly the skies cleared, and there was color everywhere. To the east, I am sure rainbows found their way to the sky, but I was thankful for the glorious end to a magnificent day.

Consider with me for a moment. At the end of the day, your day ends. At the end of your life, well, what now? There are of course a lot of things said, and a lot of beliefs. I will not add mine to the confusion that most people feel. Instead I can say with most certainty that at the end of our life here we are no longer here as we are here now. (You can spend some time debating that with yourself, but I chose the words carefully to cover virtually all religions and thought processes. Even the ones with icky worms and stuff)

The thought behind 29000 sunsets is that our days are finite. I chose the 29000 to represent the average lifespan in the USA, but there are no guarantees. Every day is a possibility for anything. With that in mind, if tomorrow was to be your last day as you are, what would you do differently? Why aren’t you now?

Easy isn’t it? Why aren’t you now?

I talked to someone who was going through a horrible time. Most cannot imagine the horror and pain of cancer, and if you can, I feel for you. The number 1 regret, according to 1 source for people at the end, was “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” Think about that for a moment.

If we are to accept we are finite, perhaps it is time to break that chain and become infinite. If we are to assume that we are the creatures we should be, we need to be true to ourselves each day. Sure, there are many other things to consider, but for the largest, we must consider that we should be true to ourselves. Even Hamlet was told this, but I often wonder if it was part of an elaborate farce considering the source. (Another time)

Are you true to yourself? Can you find that life that is true to who you are? Just think about it and consider.

So as the sun sets on another day, I try to be true to myself each day. As I do so, I feel good about the life I lead and good about where I am. I am not perfect, but I am true to myself, and in doing so, I offer the best of myself that I can to others. After all, to be true to others, you have to be true to yourself. Consider it well, and find a way to be happy with who you are each and every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and who makes up these rules anyway…

Right and wrong…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was in and out of the clouds until the pink splashed along the horizon and made me smile. I laughed a the fun of it all, and smiled even more as the colors slid across the horizon.

You’re sitting in a room with an all southern view. A bear walks by. What color is it?

Seems pretty straightforward, but maybe there is more information necessary. After all, are there windows on all four walls? Can you even see the bear? Does it matter if it is a big bear or a little bear? What if it is a teddy bear?

Dumb questions if the room is a glass box, then you have to be in the North Pole, right? So the bear is white? Makes sense, but right and wrong do not always apply. Right? Or am I wrong?

I find myself in a curious situation sometimes where I question right, wrong, and various other grey areas. The basics of right and wrong are pretty clear, well, as clear as they can be, but there are other options. After a discussion today I saw a series of secondary events that redefine right and wrong. Perhaps right is living a positive moral code and wrong is not. That seems easy enough, but where do we draw the line? That is the question I am considering now. If you have a good answer, I would love to hear it. My answer for now is if you hurt someone else or yourself it may be wrong, if you do not, it may be right. Wow, that leaves a lot of gray. Think about it.

So as the sun sets on another day I think I will consider the moments for a while, and enjoy the idea that right and wrong are finite. Otherwise I may be stuck in an infinite loop of possibilities. I hope you have a clear answer, and try to do what’s right, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and what?…