The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was, well, cloudy with a chance of good food. Winter in Michigan is often a series of days filled with clouds, and nights filled with a warm fire and view of glowing snow in the dark of the night.

I thought a lot about the postures and positions we take in life and as I did I was amazed at how mine have changed over time. I smiled at the fact that I used to be so tenacious that I would not back down from anything, and that my world was built on pure conflict. To face me as I was then would be to face relentless powerful pressures until there was little choice but concede or walk away disappointed. The discussions were good sometimes, but I learned little and in the process was less than who I should have been.

In the mid 80s this began to change. I found that winning wasn’t everything and instead wanted to learn. I coupled that with the communication skills I had learned and added in a little bit of extra patience and began listening more. I have found over time it is fine to have a position if you believe in it, but you need to know more each day and your position should grow with you. This is something many people can’t do. Many people are so lost in their interpretation of anything that they can’t see there are other perspectives, or are so against something or for something that they discount anything that denies their narrative. Often in my 30s I would listen to people engage and in the process add small items to learn their opinions only to review them later in my head and consider their validity.

I pretty much owe this shift to years of good discussion in a van wandering across the Midwest looking for computers to fix and people to interact with. My traveling partner became my friend and I was always impressed with his patience in understanding he was not always right, and that sometimes the world was a funny place. When a prominent person was arrested he watched the trial diligently and was near obsessed with the ways people presented data from different perspectives while seeking a hidden truth. Even in that, the truth stayed hidden and opinion reigned.

As I sit here tonight, and after reading another book, I find myself lost in numbers, the only really pure science, as I consider the age old question: What is truth, and what is opinion? The answer that keeps returning to me is the moment you state you are sure of the truth, you are most likely wrong and discussing opinion. It is an odd statement but what truth is there outside of math? What reality outside of what we can prove and no one can dispute? If one person, just one, dissents, how can it be truth? With that in mind I consider my positions and postures carefully, and only discuss them with people I trust. Even then I wonder. After all, if a group of blind men cannot describe an elephant, a finite object, how can a man describe something he cannot feel, touch, see, or know. Instead, like Don Quixote, Perhaps we need to continue on our quest for knowledge knowing there may be another windmill ahead, but we will face each one and learn from it.

Welcome to rantings 101. I am obviously your host today.

So as the sun sets on another day, I know my position will change because I know that in my heart and mind I want to grow each day. Without growth there is nothing but a mind staggering and trying to see beyond itself. As the sun passes I remember my litany from long ago, and know that to understand the way, you must first understand the way of the mind. Perhaps on my last day I will say “ahh, 42!” and realize the asterisk applies to everything, good and bad and that for all my musings, the truth was the world is a series of interactions that built who I was, and made me me. Keep growing and be who you are, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy every moment…

To Blave…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was full of wispy snow, covering everything with fluffy flakes of icy goodness. (Or covering it all with ice and snow and need to plow). In the end though, it was pretty driving in the equivalent of a starfield from Star Wars.

I like watching people interact. Not in a creepy way like you would see in movies that make you wonder about the world, but in ways where you see the best in people. Believe it or not, there is still good in a lot of people. Tonight I watched people interact and laugh and smile, and as I did I saw the things that make people so endearing. The elements of passion, pride, power, and prudence that that us all strive for more, and look for more out of life.

Somewhere in the midst of it all I started thinking about how people express themselves to each other. In the middle of all of that I thought about how love manifests with us all.

It is different to many. Obviously some people use love as a weapon or a negative. Pushing and pulling others for the sake of control. Equally as obviously, some people do not understand love, and in the process do not make good decisions that inspire and impassion others. There are those though that understand parts or more of love, and in the process inspire others, comfort others, excite others, or share in a love with others.

The idea of true love, well, it is tough. As I see it love it is a series of interactions that continue as two or more people interact with intent to improve someone else’s life or position or passion without regard to their own. With that in mind true love is taking that further and both people giving the same and both giving of themselves, and receiving at the same time. In that mindset being in a one sided relationship is not true love because it can’t exist without all parties being engaged. A note on the internet says similar with the definition being ” a strong and lasting affection between spouses or lovers who are in a happy, passionate and fulfilling relationship.” Funny how sometimes I get something right.

If you are on a seesaw, you are not loved truly. If you are holding back, you are not giving true love. Only when you let go can you have that pure feeling that enables more than just a minute minute of minimal measure.

I could go on for far too long. Perhaps true love is also sacrifice and change. Sometimes if you truly love someone, you let them go to find their way, and in the process your love becomes different for them. Perhaps you grow and understand love more from that loss than from any other. A lot to consider.

So as the sun sets on another day, life is full or passion, pain, and somewhere in the middle is a little more. Find love, and remember, to blave may mean to bluff, but in “The Princess Bride” it was had a path to true love, if only for a joke. Find your passion, make it real, and love like there is no tomorrow. No matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and live deeply…


The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was, well, almost as bright as a dim sky could be. You could tell it was trying, but knew the clouds were just too thick. Still, it was good knowing that high above the sun was setting with a colorful cascade of curious colors.

I have a rather lofty goal of reading this year, and writing as well. I am doing well on the reading, but not as well on the writing at the moment. I intend to change that. Writing and reading are a passion, and somewhere in between is mathematics, calculus, and a variety of other strange hobbies. I was cruising through a morning round of Goodreads and found an amazing person with a quote I already live by: “reading the types of books that I have read has made me aware of the world around me”.

Isn’t it true? Before I traveled the world I had already traveled the world by book. Before I flew I had flown over and over by book. I was able to see cultures and people in a different way, because of books. I laughed hard with books, cried with books, and found other worlds and considered far more than I could see, yes, with books.

I am proud of everyone who reads. I am very proud of those who branch out and read beyond their confines, seeing more. Doing as it should be, expanding themselves to understand more than any, and I do mean ANY, book can relay.

The world is a special place, and as we cross through life I can only hope we find the presence to see the world through another’s eyes. To me, and to many people I know, it is worth it.

So as the sun sets on another day, live life with passion and see beyond your personal thoughts. Books can open your mind, your heart, and your soul to more if you let them. I hope to see you between the pages, in another place, another time, and living a wonderful life, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and keep reading…

Running with scissors…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was cloudy with a chance of chances. The cold had close din and sealed the snow into exciting ice sculptures and a slick driveway. Still, it was a good weekend, and a good day on this fun Monday.

You ever consider all the good advise we get and do pay attention to? Like running with scissors is something we should not do, and it makes sense, because, well, somewhere somebody did it and it wasn’t fun. Ooops.

I have often thought about all the advice we are given and I was given, that ended up making sense after the fact. I don’t want to say, “remember when I said…” but sometimes you just have to do it, and sometimes you laugh a little about it and say “see”.

My daughter and son told me that sometimes “we just have to see for ourselves” and that means that for a while, the hand on a hot stove is a lesson, but it is one that could have been avoided. I can only hope that in the future lessons learned do not have to be burned hands.

What is the lesson you wish you would have learned before doing? What is that special task that you wish you would have listened to someone about? Why don’t we listen?

So as the sun sets on another day, don’t run with scissors, or put your hand on a hot stove. Instead enjoy your day and maybe there are people who have done it first. Make good choices each and every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and carry forward…

Sundays are for book reviews: Week Ending 01-16-2022

A week in review in this strange year of challenging myself.

The books and ratings from this week:

7 Seconds to Connect: 3 Steps to Engage Your Audience with Confidence : ****

Sex, Lies & Pearls (Sex and Lies Book 3) : *****

Tinderella Diary Volume 2: Going Deeper : *****

DreamWalker : *****

A is for Alibi (Kinsey Millhone, #1) : *****

Unwind (Unwind, #1)

Unleashing Your Greatness: Five Keys to Being Extraordinary : ****

Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams: ****

Turn the Ship Around!: A True Story of Turning Followers into Leaders: *****

Sex, Lies & Leather (Sex and Lies Book 9) : ****

Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It: ****

Guardians of the Galaxy/All-New X-Men: The Trial of Jean Grey: *****

Guardians of the Galaxy, Volume 1: Cosmic Avengers : *****

It was a good week with lots of fun reads. What I have found is some series have to be read in order, and that authors grow as they write a series. (I knew this but it pointed it out heavily)

I also found (That I knew already) that many “self help” or “inspirational” books do not offer much new, they just try to point out things you may know already. I find that most books mean something to me and I don’t like leaving less than 5 stars as there is a redeeming quality in most.

Enjoy your week!


The sun sets on another day…

Yep, the sun set and it was a good time. I enjoyed every moment as I spent time with my son. It was all good.

OK, so this will be a weird post. Tonight my son said the words, “Will you watch a movie and just watch?” and we did, only to have one of the campiest movies ever play out before us. A strange movie with a big name, but you should watch it just so we don’t have to suffer alone.

The movie name: “Willy’s Wonderland”. Nicolas Cage stars and that is an appeal, or is it?

So as the sun sets on another day, have fun in this campy rendition of a movie short, and look for the deeper meaning. I know I did.

Sleep sweet, love life, and keep cleaning…

Good moments…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was cold. Yep, cold. It was 20 degrees outside, and that is cold, not too cold, but cold nonetheless. Still, no cold could break the warmth of my heart.

It should make anyone smile that life is full of positives if we look for them. It should make us smile more when we look at some of those in our day and realize that the moments are more measured than we considered, and that sometimes we have a moment or two that make us feel amazing.

Close your eyes, well, after you read this not before. Are you back with me? In a few minutes close your eyes, consider the day, realize the positives you have seen today. Pick the best one. Got it? Now hold onto that thought. Use that thought as your positive of the day and let everything else fade away. It will be worth it.

It is amazing how a single positive has the ability to overcome a slew of negatives. Maybe we just need to stop giving the negatives or forethoughts and instead realize today is an amazing day. We are that person that overcomes bad thoughts.

So as the sun sets on another day, it is a super day. My positive of the day is family. Tomorrow will be something new. I hope you find the perfect positive for you and make it yours today, then find a new and exciting one tomorrow as well. You can make each day a positive journey if you try!

Sleep sweet, love life, and don’t move my cheese…


The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was under cover again today! It was a cool day though. Filled with fun and sun!

I was watching people online and thinking about all the things people are saying, and all the things people were blaming. I smiled.

Do you know who is responsible for how people feel, or better yet, do you know who is responsible for how you feel? You. It is an easy answer. We should all understand that sometimes people are horrible and awful, and those selfsame people try to make us miserable. The reality is that we have a choice to be miserable or not each day.

During the winter in Michigan there are a lot of cloudy days. Not a few, a lot. We have a choice to complain about them, or to enjoy the sunny days when they come and move on. Each day there is something new for us to consider. Something to slow us down or hurt us. Something to make us sad. We can let it, or we can say we will overcome it.

So as the sun sets on another day, don’t let you make you less than you need to be. Instead, find a way to have a good day each day, in spite of you. I think you are awesome, so you be you, I’ll be me, and do be do be do, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and live it…

Warming trend…

The sun sets on another day…

No, I am not serious. Yes, there is a warming trend right now, but it is a cold line in a warm trend. Still, it is nice to be above freezing for a few.

See, a warming trend can be a good thing. If you take the time to look at it, there is a positive here in that it was getting warmer. Still, since it was very cold you can either look at the warming trend, or you can say “Wow its cold”. Mainly because it is cold.

Standing here though, feeling a little bit warmer, I can only say it is nice for a brief break in the cold, and to enjoy the moments.

So as the sun sets on another day, look for the warmth in your life, and have a little fun along the way. The world can be amazing if you look at it right. Make each day yours, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and carry it forward…

Reading is…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was amazing. I wish I had been on the beach as it set and I saw the lightshow was spectacular. There can be no better sunset than the one you see except perhaps the one you imagine.

I am reminded about my past today. There are a lot of things I don’t think about often, some of my past is on that list. I am reading almost as much as when I was in my teens now. We did not have the luxury of a close library so I read everything in the house back then. A lot of history, war, mystery, and thrillers that were in the house. I then used the school library all I could. A lot has changed.

With the advent of e-readers I now have access to virtually unlimited books. I have found this to be an amazing experience and wish I would have had such growing up. Still, there is nothing like holding a book, and I ordered a copy of a series I am reading today, and a few others recently.

What am I reading? That is what is strange. Self help, romance, sci fi, drama, mystery, and a slew of indie authors, both good and not so good. The journey is awesome and I wonder if I will make my lofty Goodreads goal this year, miss, or exceed it. We will see.

Anyway, when I was younger I was considered a freak for reading as much as I did. In the long run I gave up this pastime in favor of work, and more work. Still it was in my heart and now I am running a little rampant again. We will see how it goes.

So as the sun sets on another day, do books inspire you? Are you lucky enough to see into someone else’s experience or imagination? Do you see past your limitations and open your mind to new possibilities, not from reading short paragraphs on partially digested sites, but on the totality of an item? Open your mind and see there is more to reading each day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and keep reading…