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The sun sets on another day...

Sunset was amazing and awesome, and I sat in awe of the not quite spring day that unfolded around me. In the end, beauty has an affect all the time.

I have thought about the past a little too much in the past. I try not to dwell on it anymore. After all, its in the past, but it still may smack you in the head from time to time. I remember the goals I had in life though, and was determined to determine why I made the determination not to make them. It was a good thought session and in the end I found:

  • I cannot change other people. Having a good relationship takes two
  • I cannot gauge what will happen daily and sometimes decisions have to change for good reasons
  • Sometimes making money means helping other people or spending it i a different way
  • All I can ever do is show how much I care and let the cards fall as they may
  • Sometimes after all the thought in the world you make a stupid decision

Yeah, I have hundreds of learned items, but these stuck out. Now I lay them down to sleep and now I enjoy my day and week. 

Funny, huh?

So as the sun sets on another day, don't forget your goals, but don't spend too much time living them again. Instead find some happiness in all you do, and make your goals more fluid, so they can run over into next year if necessary. Your happiness is most important, and make each day you live as happy as you can, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy the ride...

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The sun sets on another day...

One of the things I thought was fun inn my first book, Vengeful Son, was to name the chapters uniquely. Well, at l;east I saw it as unique. Each chapter ended with the "shun" sound and I ended up with each "shun" sounding chapter being about that work.  Exhilaration, jubilation, tactician, all became thoughts that congealed in the words I wrote.

It was a fun plan, but after talking to dozens of readers, no one noticed. Well, no one I have talked to so far. It is funny when you are trying to write and you note something that means a lot to you, but not so much to the people who read it.

Ever feel that way?

I spent all this time doing X and thought someone would notice, but they didn't. I spent all this time trying to make Y better, but no one ever thought about Y.

Well, I did. I thought about X, and I don't know Y but I thought about it, and along the way I just enjoyed myself and tried to notice all the things I could.

My point is, when you are looking around the room and you notice the baseboards have been wiped down, or when you meet someone and they have gone out of their way to make you feel comfortable, or you are doing a job and someone makes it easier, well, notice. There is very little better than being noticed for doing a good job, especially when you weren't expecting to be recognized for it.

Hmm, an easy way to make someone happy, being nice expecting nothing, or acknowledging people who were being nice and expecting nothing. Sounds fun.

So as the sun sets on another day, it is a great day, keep making it great, and along the way, maybe notice a few more things and be impressed by everything. It might open your eyes to a lot of fun. Be that person who is good just for being good, all the time, every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, be happy, and spread it around...


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The sun sets on another day...

Another sunny day, another day, another moment, and a lot of fun!

I was thinking today about how it can be so easy to get caught up in the details that we lose sight of the tail. Well, no, it should not exactly be worded that way, but I think you can see what I mean. Sometimes we are so involved in our opinion  that we lose sight of what is actually happening. Ahh, I see, we need an example.

If you are say talking to someone about their life, and they tell you how they made some mistakes when they were young, but overcame them later, would you judge based on the mistakes or on what they became? Do the mistakes matter? If it was speeding versus drug use? What about other items? Where is the line? That line is where you are splitting hairs. You set yourself in the beginning that one right or wrong is ok, you just qualified it. It is a bad example because it is wide, but there are times we make such subtle distinctions we have to question why?

My thought is that we have limits and lines and they are very fine. Businesses use it on people all the time, the sale is 9.99 instead of 10.00. Why? Because no one will buy for 10.00 but they will for 9.99? IS this splitting hairs when you quibble about a penny? I say it depends.

Years ago I was buying a car. We walked in and asked for a particular car and said here is another car and this much money. We want to payment to be 299.00. A short time later the finance man came out and said they got it down to 306. I looked at him and said we were leaving. His statement was "We have what you want, are you going to let it slip by for $7?" to which I replied, "No, you are." We left. Who was splitting hairs?

So what? Well, I think we need to carefully consider what we are doing and move on as we need to move on. We need to be those people that don't get lost in the trivial, but instead look at the bigger picture. That picture may very well be that we only have 29000 sunsets left, and as we progress, do we really want to waste time on the trivial? Do we want to argue over $7, or just buy or find someone who cares? Do we want to live a life that is happy, or worry about the unhappy? I can say I am sometimes not sure, but I am not going to get lost in small details when the day is going so good.

So as the sun sets on another day, enjoy your day. Stop worrying about the trivial petty things in life and start worrying about, well, just stop worrying. Find a path that you can traverse that gives you happiness each and every day. Along the way take a few people with you and let's be happy together, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and live well...

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The sun sets on another day...

I think the word spectacular may have fit tonight's sunset. It was cloudy, and there were no meatballs, but the sun hung down and slowly set in the western sky, and lit up the world like a red Christmas tree.

I remember in grade school playing the game who stole the cookie from the cookie jar. It is a cute game that teaches you other peoples names. You would have to choose someone else after you were accused and a nice jingle went with it. No one wanted to be caught not knowing someones name so it made people learn in a rapid manner. It also had a lot to do with trust and blame.

Do you remember people? Are you remembered? These are important questions we consider each day. Do we know this person? Who are they? How do I know them? Normally we have answers back right away, but sometimes we have to think for a moment. Sometimes we don't know. It is there, it just needs a little reminding. Why do you remember people?

When we meet people we greet, laugh, and interact, and we have to wonder, why do people remember us? Why do you think people remember you?

I have said often I have no social conscience. Those who know me probably agree. I enjoy talking to people and am not afraid of talking to anyone. I am told people remember me for that, both good and bad. Sometimes though I sit and listen and learn, not affected by anything, and enjoying the situation the best that I can.

In the end, part of our lives is our relationships. I strongly suggest you try to remember people, or try to create situations where they remember you.

So as the sun sets on another day, no I did not steal the cookie from the cookie jar. Instead I laughed and tried to remember everyone, and had fun along the way. Enjoy the people you meet, and hopefully they will enjoy you. Make each day memorable, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love, and love a little more...