Just be you…

The sun sets on another day…

At sunset tonight, I considered the colors as I arrived a few moments late. Still, the sunset was stunning, and I enjoyed watching people as they walked away and went on with their lives.

I have a news flash for you. You are special. I know this sounds contrived, or it sounds like something someone has to say, but I don’t have to say anything. You are special.

Take a step back for a second and think about all the people that tell you things. Some have ulterior motives; some are being nice, southern nice, New York nice, or even West Michigan nice. I really am not worried about all of them. If you meet me in person, I will look for the best in you if it is there. If you meet me in person, I will tell you something special about yourself right away. If I don’t, I’m seeing something a little different and not being shy. I will likely tell you that too. The point is that even if it is good or bad, you are special, and most likely, it is something good.

Take a second and take inventory with me. Suppose you can look in the mirror and feel like you’ve done one thing positive today, then you are doing super. Hold on to those positives and realize that you are a good person. Keep being you, just be you!

So as the sun sets on another day, take a second and believe in yourself. Take just a second and drop all the negatives while you consider the positives. Take just a second and realize how special you are, and your day will be fantastic, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and be you…

Surrender..

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was stunning. The evening sky was colored with pastels that warmed the heart, then the sun was gone, swallowed by clouds that foretold of rain or just a little darkness.

Sometimes the world seems like it’s a little bit too much. We get overwhelmed by people, places, and things that don’t align with what we do every day. Sometimes people are the most significant part of it as they don’t realize the effect they’re having on us. The natural move is to fight and try to hold on, but sometimes we need to surrender.

Now that doesn’t sound very nice. Giving up on something? It makes me want to scream just thinking about it. I have the ability to fight almost anything, and I have to surrender? The answer is sometimes yes. When dealing with people, you cannot get them to see your point of view. It is up to them. You cannot make them think the way you think, given that we are all made of our experiences. There are no two people exactly alike. There is no way to make someone like you. The world would be full of happy couples and content families if there were. The only thing you can control is yourself.

A long time ago, in a galaxy far away, I felt very deeply for someone and found they didn’t feel the same way for me. I begged and pleaded and made an idiot of myself as the knife delved deeper and deeper into my back. They didn’t care. They cared about someone else. They didn’t feel like I did. They didn’t even have a concept of how I felt. Ultimately, I walked away and was better for it but not before making a bigger idiot of myself. As I have grown older, I’ve learned that sometimes walking away earlier and faster is OK. If the person is interested, they will return. If not, it isn’t worth the time and pain to consider. That doesn’t mean it won’t still hurt. It just means did the nagging day-to-day pain will be less.

Equally as long ago, I made a similar mistake. I found someone who cared about me, but when an ex came back, I thought it was better to go with my ex. I devastated someone who cared about me because I thought I was doing the right thing. Looking back, I was an idiot there as well.

Worrying about the past is a waste of time, but sometimes we can learn about ourselves and our future from lessons we have experienced. I hope you can take this from me and realize that surrendering in a situation does not mean giving up on yourself. You always have you, and can believe in you all the time, even when it hurts.

So as the sun sets on another day, remember that some people will never see your point of view. Remember that some people will never realize how important they are to you. Remember that some people ignore your needs in favor of what they think you need. Remember, you are stronger than all of that. Take a deep breath and find your way every day. You can overcome anything if you want to. Make your quest one that keeps you safe and makes the world a better place, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and love deeper…

States…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was clear, and the globe before me devoid of colors until it passed to the horizon. Unbridled, the sky then lit like pure fire.

We are in a constant state of change. If you go by the riddle of the Sphinx, we only have a few states. The riddle is wrong and does not cover the weeping, the strength, or the crawling on our bellies like a reptile.

I consider all the states of man, and keep being bombarded with the religious. Most religions note four states of man, but there are some that offer five or more. Some note a cycle, and so it goes.

As I sit here pondering the unponderable I wonder if anyone has even considered the variability of the human condition and the malleability of our lives.

I know, I know, if this is boring to you just bear with me for a moment.

We are, as a species, continually aware of time and bound by it and all of the chains that come with it. We are also bound by our bias, environment, and something deep inside us, whether it be ID or something different. This series of items seems to guide us into a variety of states. In my opinion, these are driven by intellectual, emotional, physical, and spiritual needs. We can be the best people we can be as well as the worst people we can be as we travel from state to state becoming a different person. Somewhere in the depth of it all is a question that I’m not even sure we’re aware of.

The question has to do with “is there more?” Some people never make it to this question, and those people sit on the side of the road and don’t pay much attention to the world as it goes by them. Some people miss the point of the question, and instead of focusing on whether there is more or not, they focus on the malleable and not necessarily attainable. Imagine that person trying to be a billionaire and reaching the goal only to find that it wasn’t that important after all. (but if you have a billion dollars to give me and I’m all in) Some people push the envelope and want to squeeze every moment out of life. Then there are millions of variations of those particular items.

I hope you’re not expecting something ridiculously enlightening here because I’m not sure I have the answer yet. I know the answer isn’t 42, but the idea of everything is 42, so maybe it is. There is just too much encompassed in that 42. It is likely that for every person, the journey to find more is different as more can be defined in various ways. For me and potentially for you, all I can suggest is to keep searching for that thing that is just out of your reach. If you ever find it keep reaching for the next level, and so it will go until you find everything. After all, there has to be more to life than working yourself to death, retiring, and playing yourself until you die. I want to think that passion is more important than price, I would like to believe that beauty is more important than ownership, I would like to think that peace is more important than power. I would like to believe that a slow unending kiss is more important than a million posts on social media.

So as the sun sets on another day, I hope you find your way, and maybe along our paths, we will meet after all. If you’re looking for everything, and so am I, our lives are bound to cross. Yeah, I know this is a weird post, but I have been thinking a lot about what goals are real and what goals aren’t. Find your perfect state, and keep changing for the better, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and deep thoughts…

There you are…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was understated but amazing. Storms rolled in and out all day and the end of the day was a piece of time that seemed to be both in and out of the sunset.

I watched a conversation unfold today about moving away to find like-minded people. It was an exciting conversation and rather rapidly became opinionated. There’s something fantastic about finding a place where you belong; you do have to remember, though that an old movie said it best ” no matter where you go, there you are”.

As I watched advice fly at this young person like gnats on a rotten Peach, I was saddened by the approaches and the rationalizations of people. The young person mentioned was considering a move that could have cost her significant money and had no natural way of guaranteeing a potential outcome. This person spoke about their books as a motivating factor, but in today’s world, our only limitations are those we place on ourselves. When Sputnik was launched and the Space Race began, there were the beginnings of the internet today, but no one could have seen how small it would have made the world. You can be everywhere with minimal effort if only you take the time.

My advice to anyone looking for a new world somewhere else is to make certain that your reasons for going are sound. Not that I’m not for Adventures, as I have been all over the world, but more for making sure that we find our way to what could be home without reservation or prejudice.

And for everyone who has a bias about locations, just remember, if you have a bias about anywhere, then the bias lies with you, not with the place. We are a people who could be of any particular type no matter where we are and often, moving trades one problem for another. It’s just a matter of timing.

Funny though, with the world as it is today, live where you want to, and pick a place you will like to live, the people will connect with you from everywhere. It is just finding those people.

So as the sun sets on another day, find your life, and don’t listen to me, or anyone else if you find what you want to do, just be sure you live every day with all the passion you can, and make the world the best place it can be, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and there you are…

Through the weeds…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was amazing as deep clouds clashed with fiery moments. It gave the sky a pink hue as the clouds seemed to jitter with excitement and color.

Last night I was talking to someone as I waited for an order. They were young and I asked how they were doing. The were happy but proceeded to tell me how they would rather not be there and that there were far better things to do. They then began to tell me about how they were there for money, but had money but wanted more money. When asked how much money the answer was just more.

I know perhaps “more” is not a good answer. Perhaps we need to look at a bigger picture and realize if we are not happy, more is never a good answer. Maybe, just maybe, we should consider the world as an amazing place that is full of light and life, and enjoy the ride for a moment. Just a thought.

So as the sun sets on another day, I think I want more: life. Now I just need to define what life is. How about you? What more can you have that will make you happy? Find your way, make a path, and as you do make sure happiness come with it each and every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and have some more…

Who you be?

The sun sets on another day…

The wind and wave were intense, and the cold was still there, and you know what, it was all good because I had warm thoughts running through my mind and good friends at a movie. So I used a photo that made me feel warm from last year!

You know, I saw a movie tonight. I will pause here for a second while many of you say, “What else is new?”. Anyway, yes, I know I watch a lot of movies, I enjoy watching movies, and I consider movies a delightful repast in the late night when others are asleep. Tonight I saw “Fighting with my Family” with friends (You should say that three times real fast) and really enjoyed it.

You may ask why. Well, if you didn’t, I will tell you anyway. The movie pulls at the immortal statement, “Be you.” Now, I know that sounds simple, but so many people set it aside like cheap dishwater, umm, well, dishwater may be free, but you know what I mean.

Now, I have spent my life being me. Sometimes that has been good. Sometimes it has been not so good. Many people would rather you be who they want you to be, not who you are, and that is a shame. I firmly believe it is our diversity that makes us strong, and I really really believe that we can be far more amazing as a group of individuals than a group of semi-similar clones.

So wear your hair funny, be original, be a little outspoken, be a little soft spoken, be a little spoken, but be who you are, not anyone but you. Don’t model yourself after anyone but maybe your hero, but only if your hero is YOU. Sure, you may not think you are all that and a bag of chips, but perhaps you are all that and some kick-butt mac and cheese. Maybe you always were.

I have been considering a lot of memories. In high school, I was a bit of an outcast. I was quiet sometimes and sometimes not. I wanted to fit in sometimes more than I wanted to excel. I made decisions that were not who I was, and I still think about that a lot. In the grand and glorious what-if game, I genuinely wish I had been myself more and less of what everyone thought I should be.

So as the sun sets on another day, who are you? Are you that person who takes it to the next level because you believe in yourself? I hope so. Take the time, be your own hero, be you, and keep being you no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love furiously, and believe in passion every day…