Take 7

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was wet, wild, and wonderful. I reveled in the moments while changing my plans for the night.

I was supposed to go to a magnificent show tonight with friends. That changed due to circumstance and probability.

Tonight I have written numerous items on choice and decided to leave that alone for now. Why? I simply would stoke everyone’s fires without context and tone. Instead I will say, believe in your voice, and make it heard as your voice. Not a minions voice of a primary color, but instead be you. I belive in that.

So as the sun sets on another day, find your voice and don’t let it fade. Be you always, and enjoy the moments, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and be spectacular..

Just a picture…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was somewhere beyond spectacular and I enjoyed every moment as the sky was lit up with solar fireworks.

I’m going to take just a moment today and let the pictures speak for themselves. Take a moment to yourself and realize how wonderful you are. Then believe in you because you are amazing.

So as the sun sets on another day, keep believing and enjoy every sunset that you can, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and be amazing…

Reality check…

The sun sets on another day…

I watched sunset slowly sink into the Western sky as I crossed new horizons and readied myself for another change in the world. It seems there is always change in the world.

I was talking to a friend today who was having a particularly bad day. As we talked they made the statement that they know I am positive all the time but I have to admit that some people suck. I laughed to myself for a minute.

Each day as I sit down and write I try to make sure I am staying positive. There are hundreds of posts that go awry and I either have to delete them and start over or I save them and start over and consider writing about the issue later. The world is not always positive but how we see it can be.

I want to say wholeheartedly that there are a lot of people who suck. People whose minds are closed and cannot see beyond themselves. People who only consider others with like minds as valid points of view. People who purposefully hurt other people or take advantage for no cause other than their own twisted pleasures. People whose hearts are full of hate and want others to feel their hate. All of these people and so many more suck.

It’s kind of a funny word but it’s very accurate. Negative people suck the life right out of you. They suck the positivity out of you. They suck the potential for good feelings out of you. Mostly they suck away your chance of having an amazing day.

Yes, I agreed that there are many people that suck but I’m not going to let them take my power away. I don’t mind because they don’t matter.

Tonight you will be surprised to know that for a few moments I became excessively angry with the advent of a situation where someone thought they were being cute but obviously didn’t remember the depth of their past transgressions. It didn’t last long simply because I was aware that they probably weren’t aware (due to poor memory) and in that I was giving away my power to enjoy a happy moment. I set it aside and spent time with my grandson. That always makes me laugh.

So as the sun sets on another day, some people suck but I will not let them suck the life out of me. I hope you find a way to feel the same. Set aside the negativity of others and let’s find a way to have an amazing day or at least a highly tolerable day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and find a better path…

Take my breath away…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was cool and crisp and covered in colors. I was at an open mic night and saw it from a distance but enjoyed every instant.

It’s nice when you hear good things and even nicer when people tell you good things just because. Tonight while at an open mic night in Grand Rapids I read a story from a soon to be published book. The story was about a woman who was trapped at the bottom of the lake and was trying to figure out how to get out of her sealed car and not drown. The story is tense yet funny and explores fear with a great deal of imagery and the look inside of the mind of someone facing death.

My two great things for today was the person after my reading to walk up to me to tell me they found themselves holding their breath as I was reading and the person who has listened to the audiobook for Vengeful Son and loved it.

It is spectacular and amazing when people recognize you for your work. It’s even more spectacular when you can touch a heart with either positive patience or other emotions, like fear and apprehension. I only hope I can continue to move people in one way or another.

So as the sun sets on another day for anyone who has made my day thank you and for all of you just reading you make my day, everyday, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and be amazing.

An ask for help…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was once again wet, soggy, and mostly pretty messy. Ick. The wind whipped by and slapped my face with cold pellets of rain, and for the most part I laughed as I walked through the woods.

Stay with me for a few. This will be short. Years have passed but I will never forget a time when I was too proud to ask for help. It did not work out well for me, and in the end it became a spiral trap into doom, gloom, and despair as I fought to find my way. Somewhere inside I had been programmed that asking for help was not a good thing.

Many people are like that. Help is hard to ask for, and it is difficult. With that in mind please remember that it is not bad to ask for help, nor bad to help someone in need. If not for a few good friends I would be in a bad way. from my past.

So as the sun sets on another day Please remember to help the people you can and ask for help when you need it. After all alone is no place to be in a world so crowded.

Sleep sweet, love deeply, and be you always…

Your choice…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was a wild ride. I was not sure if it would be a good sunset or not as the day was filled with clouds. In the end I missed for the best of reasons, hanging a decoration.

I was sitting tonight in relative pain from cleaning up dead trees today. Well that and a bunch of other things. As I massaged my shoulders I thought that it was unfair for half a second mainly because when I was younger I could split wood with an axe for 10 hours straight. I guess I’m not 17 anymore.

I set those thoughts aside rather rapidly simply because it was my choice to push so hard. I know it’s really not fair to say this but for the most part how we feel is our choice. We are the root of our own positivity or we are the root of our own evil.

If we’re sore from a workout it was our choice to do the workout. It will be better for us in the end and eventually the workout will not hurt. With that in mind it was our choice to stop working out to begin with. It was our choice to have too many cheeseburgers. It was our choice do not listen to ourselves or others. It was our choice to go down every path that we went down. To say someone else was responsible is an illusion as we had a choice.

I guess that’s something at the core of 29,000 sunsets or at least the idea of 29,000 sunsets. If tomorrow was going to be the last day that you would be here, what would you do differently? Why aren’t you doing it now? You also have to remember that that 29,000 sunsets doesn’t just apply to you. if you are friends with, dating, married, handcuffed to someone else, saying “oops” and missing chances is as much on you as it is them. regret over lost moments is the worst kind.

So as the sun sets on another day, take a moment and consider your choices and that you do pick a few good ones. Make the world your amazing place and walk away feeling great about your days, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love pancakes, and don’t forget to be you…

Words and stings…

The sun sets on another day…

Well, wow. Sunset was a swirling malestrom of color as the sun shattered the western sky. I smiled as I saw the light cascade across the horizon.

I start you with a poem:

“Sticks and stones are hard on bones, Aimed with angry art, Words can sting like anything But silence breaks the heart.”

Of course, my first statement is about sticks and stones breaking your bones, don’t use sticks and stones to break people’s bones. It would be a bad thing.

Words can sting like anything is a unique phrase. This particular poem has been heavily quoted for years and years. I first read it when I was relatively young and considered the pain that words often inflict. This can be either directed pain, or it can be pain caused by words unknowingly. It is important to consider our words in how they affect other people, and just as important to consider our silence.

As I have grown older, I have found many people I interact with consistently, and some of them I have hurt inadvertently by either my use of words or my lack of words. I have found that if I take a moment and consider what I’m about to say or why I am not responding, I will find my answers. We all have that opportunity, and because words can sting like anything, we need to take the time to choose our words wisely.

I remember a discussion with someone so excited that I actually fought for them as if it were yesterday. I put myself in a precarious situation to protect someone’s honor and self, and it was only a short time later that that person disappeared from my life. There were words that stung hard and a silence that stung just as hard. I often wonder where that person is now and how they are doing.

I will also never forget the words “That’s not going to work for me” when I struggled to meet halfway only to be pushed in a corner in favor of someone elses needs. Those words will sting always.

So as the sun sets on another day, the weapon no one sees is the wildly wieldy voice that shatters the world. I hope you always find the right words not to be a weapon but instead lift people, including yourself. Thanks for being you every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and shhhhh

Afirmations…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was crisp and inviting as I hid inside an event enjoying people and music. The world is a better place when there is music and musical moments.

10-4.

it is a signal for an affirmation. It is used by truckers, police, and pretty much anyone who is using A mobile radio. With this in mind, I would like to give you an affirmation today.

You are a great person. 10-4

You can change the world if you want to. 10-4

You can do it if you try. 10-4

You have no limits. 10-4

This list should be a lot longer. 10-4

in the end, we can affirm anything positive or negative, but I took the moment today to focus on the positives. There are so many more. I know it isn’t easy because sometimes the only person affirming your amazingness is you, but I am here to tell you that’s OK. If you believe in yourself, you can move mountains. If you believe in yourself, you will always find a way through adversity. After all, the world is your playground if only you see it that way.

My easy ask for tonight is to take a moment or a second and be proud of yourself. I know, I know, pride is a sin, but it is also a necessity to build the self-worth and character that we all need to have. You can do this, and make a difference, so be proud of that power you possess. It’s easy for the world to change the rules but don’t let the world change you into less than what you actually are. Rise above and be yourself.

So as the sun sets on another day, I hope you know how special you are. You don’t have to prove it to me, the world is yours, and I am right there with you. Let’s have some fun and make the world a wonderful place, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and 10-4

Clear as mud…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was spectacular. I watched as the sky was overrun with color and light. It was a spectacular lightshow that remained for a while after sunset then slowly faded into a magnificently clear night.

I have found that sometimes the paths that we need to take in life aren’t as straightforward as they could be. There are lots of people that say we should trust and the right path will come along. There are many people who say we should make our own path and forge a way to our success. There are still other people who think we should hang around and wait until a spotlight and a yellow brick road appear, showing us where to go. The list goes on.

I’m not going to put on my sage hat tonight and be the ultimate expert, as I have chosen many wrong paths. I’m not going to say there is a perfect path for you and an ideal path for me because, quite honestly, there are a lot of different paths that could be perfect. Instead, I’m going to say find a way to be happy and make your day spectacular. Perhaps the path will be apparent if we just look for one spectacular day each day.

I have said it before, and you could search for it, but at one time, I stood at the top of a hill and considered my life. I made a choice, and it wasn’t the best choice or the worst choice. It was simply a choice. That choice turned out to be wrong, but my path turned out OK. I suppose there are worse outcomes.

So as the sun sets on another day, take a minute and breathe. Take a minute and realize how fantastic you are. Take a minute and look at the paths you have before you and make a choice, then find your way to the best day today and every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love with all your heart, and be passionate…

No

The sun sets on another day…

Well, sunset was amazing but I had to get groceries. Oh no, so the picture is not as super as with the big cameras. (Sorry about the bugs, and they are sorry too)

I was listening to an event and it noted “if you did not say anything the answer was automatically ‘No’.” I laughed at that for a while, then thought about it some more, then wondered about the approach.

Of course, I was then reminded of a movie. It was “We bought a Zoo,” and I have written about it before. The question in the movie was, “Excuse me, why would an amazing woman like you even talk to someone like me?” The answer that was returned was positive, but it was the fact that the question was asked that we should be focusing on. Too often, we are presented with opportunities that we just don’t step up for. I know sometimes we do, but we need to focus on being positive enough to speak up when we should.

Of course, there are many dynamics to this, and the presentation I watched didn’t go into all the listening skills you need and being able to read a room so that you know when to ask and when not to ask, but the premise was accurate. If we don’t ask a question, the answer is always no.

So as the sun sets on another day, take a second and be you, and as you do when opportunities present themselves, the worst answer you could get is no, but the best possible solutions can give you new opportunities. Take a minute, ask a question, and be ready for your life to change daily. You have control, and it is always your choice, so make good choices, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and ask away…