The sun sets on another day…
I’m sitting here at sunset enjoying the moments of the day and considering all the thanksgivings that I’ve had. As I do so my mind’s eye floats across the world that needs to find more thanks in everything they do.
Yes I know, I have used this heading before. I find I am thankful often. Here we are sitting in today thinking about our lives, or at least I am. I am not whining about the past ever because I cannot change it and nothing I would ever do would make it any different than what it is. I will not pine about the future because even with the best laid plans that I have I cannot get lost in something that is not here. Instead I will define myself today and every day to be the best that I can be with the materials I have for the day. That doesn’t mean I will be better than everyone else, nor does it mean that I will be worse. It doesn’t mean that I will be the good that everyone expects, nor does it mean I will be the evil. Instead I will define my day to the best level that I can and in the end that is all any of us can do.
My father and I had a difficult time for quite a while. There were situations that caused a rift between us that had become a chasm and we were both trying to repair. At one point when I was again trying to understand what my father had done to my sister and I, he finally looked at me and said something simple. He could not go back and change the past no matter how hard he tried and I could either accept him as he was today or there was nowhere for us to go. This resonated with me for a long time. It wasn’t because it was prophetic in any way but instead it was because I was looking at something the wrong way.
There is no way to change the past. Well not yet. I’m working on that one. Instead we have to accept the past but define our present. After that discussion I redefined my approach to my father and in doing so built a relationship that was pretty good until he died 20 years ago. I have not regretted going down that path.
I don’t have any words of prophetic wisdom except that today is yours to define as you see fit. Can you reach out and define your day today as the best day that it can be? Isn’t today worth enjoying?
So as the sun sets on another day, I sit here thankful for the day and every day that I still have. As the days before me become less than the days behind I will embrace each day with power and passion anymore and to define myself in a positive way. I hope you can find the courage to do the same. Thanks for being you, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and keep being you…