The sun sets on another day…
I watched sunset with more than a little excitement. It had been cloudy and windy all day and now the clouds in the sky were lit up as the sun fell beneath the cover and shattered dismality turning it into a spectacular landscape for all to adore.
I was watching a video today from an author talking about fear. The fear that they were talking about was of public speaking. I paid close attention to how they approached it and how they were trying to overcome fear and consistently put fear behind them. I only disagreed on one part, they saw fear as a learning experience and I see the learning experience beginning only after we start to overcome fear.
I know that might be a little strange, and it may be a play on words. After all, lots of people think of the two is the same. But I know people who hold on to their fear and will never let go of it and will never try to overcome it. Their fear of the fear becomes a statement and the statement is simple, it’s just how I am. I cannot in any way shape or form dissuade that from anyone. As long as you believe that your fear has control of you it will always have control of you.
That being said if you can overcome your fear and lessen its impact, if you truly want to make a change and be more, there is a path to be taken. The person who made the video said similar as with the public speaking they suggested ways of speaking and ways of overcoming that fear, the secret is to make the choice to face it.
At the edge of Covington Kentucky there is a hotel where I overcame my fear. At one time I had a fear of heights. Because of that fear I found myself not doing things that I should have. I overcame that fear by renting a high level room with the balcony and hanging off of that balcony until my fear was no more. Fear is not real, fear is our mind trying to dissuade us from something that may or may not have an effect on us. It can sure feel real though.
Many years ago when I hung over that balcony I came to terms with the fact that I was the person limiting myself. Of course people had fallen and died, but that didn’t mean I would. Of course there were things that could have hurt me when I hit the ground if I fell, but all I had to do is not fall. I know it sounds hard but as I overcame the fear I realized there were other ways to be cautious without being fearful.
How do you handle fear? What is your way of dealing? Are you in charge or does fear own you? How can you get better or worse?
So as the sun sets on another day, I know, I know, fear is strange and I am sorry I went this way. A fun way to consider a Saturday night, right? I hope you find a way to deal with fear, to enjoy fear, or to overcome it. The world is yours if you want it. Keep reaching for the best you can be, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and boooo…