The sun sets on another day…
Sunset was spectacular and I enjoyed every moment as it faded into the western sky. as you probably know sunset is always a time you can feel good if you want to.
I was looking through the list of all of the articles I had written and was surprised how many times I mentioned the word “moment”. it must be because I feel strongly that we are a series of moments and those moments can be either positive, negative, or something in between. I am certain that the idea of positive or negative is purely defined by us and that there is more likely a something in between than anything either positive or negative.
Still there are people that take moments and turn them into something else. I have always tried to be accommodating except during a portion of my life that I was less than positive. My accommodation truly lines with attempting to make most people comfortable. As I define this it is also, in my opinion, the definition of being a lady or a gentleman. In other words someone who tries to make the people around them comfortable.
Unfortunately I have found that some people prefer conflict to comfort. Perhaps the world has changed so much that people can no longer tolerate anything but what they feel is right. It is a brutal consideration but one that I thought about this evening in depth. After all you cannot make everyone happy all of the time and in reality you probably cannot make anyone happy any of the time, that is their choice. With that in mind I challenge each of you to be a positive role model for each other. That does not mean be a doormat or allow someone to treat you poorly, but when you are faced with the situation that does not necessarily affect you negatively it may be a good idea to set it aside instead of turn it into an issue. in our world today we see so much negativity wouldn’t it be nice for all of us to be positive. In our world where people constantly consider themselves as the center of the universe wouldn’t it be nice for many of us to think about others as well.
When I was in high school I read a book that changed my life. The name of the book is not necessarily important right now but it taught me the theory that we had a responsibility to see things from a larger point of view. It was this thought that drove me through high school and college to pay attention as often as I could to a bigger picture. I was not always successful. It is far too easy to look at what someone else is doing and point out what they are doing wrong instead of realizing that what they are doing may be right, just not right for some people. As I have grown older I have realized this is far more accurate than I ever expected. When faced with something you don’t understand you cannot erase it , you cannot set it aside, you cannot attempt to destroy it, you must learn to understand it.
This can be difficult. The biggest reason it’s difficult is because we naturally shy away from what we don’t understand. In today’s culture we complain or we attempt to eliminate those things that we don’t agree with or that we don’t have a point of reference with. I’m making a suggestion here, nothing more. The world is full of wonder if you open yourself to it. if you do not open yourself to the possibility of more than you understand you might very well be lost.
I hope this makes sense to you. I hope when you see that person that has lots of tattoos or doesn’t that you can accept them. I hope when you see people from different cultures that they’re just people. I hope when people believe differently than you that you can accept that they see the world differently than you. I hope you know that we’re all in this together and when we start trying to make people into molds of our beliefs we embrace the worst that our species has to offer. If you don’t believe me reach out sometime and I’ll give you a history lesson.
So as the sunsets on another day, accept the unacceptable. it was the lesson in the book I read and the lesson I have had to face many times in my life. If you truly love someone and they hurt you wish that they find happiness. If someone tries to wrong you understand who they are and make their differences ways to find your strength. If the world gives you lemons sell them at market because they’re too sour to eat anyway. Find your way, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and understand…