Me me me…

The sun sets on another day…

I found sunset to be mesmerizing and I enjoyed the colors from a distance while I drove. The sky was full of blues and violets, and there could be little that was not powerful.

I am impressed with all the people who listen in life, even if they listen to themselves. I am more impressed if they hear, more so when they hear themselves.

It is easy here to ask “What the heck is he talking about?” and if you considered I think you will see not only where I am coming from, but maybe a shadowy mirror. People often look at the world from a skewed perspective. Mainly because it is their perspective. The thoughts running through their minds are base don how they see the world, and how they interpret their effect on the world. In other words their perspective of everything is not real, it is what they perceive as real.

This creates a constant struggle based on how people see themselves and how they interpret their effect on everything. It is easy, for example, to see someone as wrong if you do not see yourself as part of the equation. An example, “Yes, I ate the cookies, but I did not prevent you from getting a cookie, you just chose the wrong time.” This can also be expressed as “I have cookies, but you can’t have the cookies because they are mine.” Both of these statements assume someone wants cookies, but they also assume control over the cookie while noting that they are not responsible for the other party.

It doesn’t work well. If people are trying to communicate they need to realize that both of them are in conflict for the central target, and as such they need to find common ground and understand each other. This leads to “You want a cookie?” and “I would like a cookie” but people sometimes don’t get that either. (All this talk of cookies is making me want to make cookies) You can even get to a point of “I would like a cookie” and the response being “here, have a carrot”. (No one wants a carrot when they can have a cookie)

So what? What the heck are you talking about?

All this silliness points out the need to remove “me me me” from the equation and start thinking about someone besides yourself. I try often, and sometimes I succeed but a lot of people don’t. They are so tied up in their perceptions that they ignore the communications of others, and in truth, ignore others. (Where did the cookies go?) As such, multiple people lose themselves trying to listen but do not hear either themselves or others.

The solution, or my suggested solution, is to try to “put yourself in their shoes”. Instead of using your point of view as some sort of golden nugget, think how you would feel if the roles were reversed. Consider well the idea that your point of view is slanted, and that if you swapped perspectives it may open your mind to new ideas. Maybe it would even mean getting cookies, or sharing them more.

So as the sun sets on another day, I think I really want cookies now. It would be nice though if people opened their minds and realized we all affect one another, and we have an effect on the world we live in with every action we take. Don’t live in a bottle, find a way to be happy and help others when you can, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and cookie time…

Special times…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was more than spectacular, and the clouds made the sky light up like some massive fireworks show. I was impressed and in awe.

A long time ago in a galaxy far far away I was in college at the University of Kentucky. (That is useless information and not part of the story) My freshman year I met a wonderful young woman who I thought was a little more than impressive. This was not a physical thing, but instead a series of solid and positive events where we shared stories, and feelings. She was very intelligent and as we got to know each other it was the exchange between minds that was attractive to me, and as we enjoyed time with each other we also grew closer.

I was awkward in Kentucky where I had not been in the north and had few friends due to my guarded nature. After all, Kentucky was the first time I had spent more than a year in any one place since I was 5, and making friends usually meant losing friends and missing them later. This was exciting to have someone who was a mental challenge. We spent more time together and finally we began to become romantic.

For those of you that are not, well, old, I got a call on my home phone. (We did not have cells). This new person I cared about dumped me, for lack of a better term, as she cried and told me she was falling for me. I was devastated. I had lost another friend and perhaps more. My walls went up and I concentrated on school and working 3 jobs.

It was a month later when I finally saw her in drop/add and she tried to explain that her boyfriend had died years before, and she could not be close to anyone. I tried, I really did try, to understand, but I was still hurt and I walked away as she reached out her hand to reconnect. I would not be hurt again.

A lot of people have similar experiences. (Or maybe not and I am weird) Somewhere along the way I forgot all the special times and focused on the one bad thing. Sure, it hurt, but sometimes you have to let all that go. Sometimes you have to see a person for who they are and open your mind to possibilities. Sure, it may have been too late for us, but it might not have, and I walked away from someone who challenged my mind. Not the best thing to do. Have you done similar? Before? Now? May I suggest that you open your mind and look for the positives because connections that are amazing may not be as available as you think. Just consider it.

So as the sun sets on another day, I was foolish in my mind, but I protected myself to mess up again another day. Learn from my mistake, listen, learn, and enjoy the time you can in life. After all, there is only one life to live, and you are amazing if you can join it always!

Sleep sweet, love deeply, and love some more, just for the heck of it…

Weaving…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was hidden behind thick clouds and less than a pretty day. The gloom was still a positive and made me feel like I could get things done, so I did.

Ah, what a web we weave each day, we make the world in every way, we hold so still and start to sway, but still we are now weaving.

Ah what a time we have today, we find a path and then we stray, we call for work and then we play, but still we are now weaving.

Ah what a time we have, each day mystery made of glass, the time we have it seems to pass, all that stays was meant to last, but still we are weaving.

I find so many people weave a web better than any spider could. It is a web of positives and negatives that guide their life, and somewhere in the middle they get tangled in the lines. It is a tough web for some, and a lose one for others, but still each day we weave a wider and wider web of who we are, and what we will become.

Think about it, every day we become more, and as we become more we have a path we have gone, and a path we will soon take. Those that stick with what they know build thick lines that are hard to escape, but those that keep moving and going forward are free to see the world with a wider perspective, a perspective that opens the mind to new possibilities.

There is a book called “Who Moved my Cheese” that has 4 main characters. In it they follow patterns that seem to fit what we all do in life. The more more difficult characters are always holding on to the same thing and if you get to read it I am sure you will see the pitfalls of staying in the same place. With that in mind, I suggest we consider a few spiders knowing the one who stays in the same place with a bigger and bigger web will eventually have nothing but their web, but the smart one who moved will always find something new ahead of him.

Are you hanging on to the same things and not paying attention to the signs? Are you finding your path less defined? How can you find more positive things in your life? Do you want more positives in your life.

I know, I know, thinking too much but I see so many positives in people if they would just let go and find the path that will take them forward. I see a life made of good ways, and ways to change the world if only we will take those steps, and make a difference.

So as the sun sets on another day, weave a strong web that moves forward. Find your way, or maybe set the whole weaving thing aside and just have some fun and great times today and every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love hard, and feel the passion within you…

Sunday Reviews: Horror Short Stories

Sundays are for book reviews Horror Short Stories (Edited by Joanna Blythe) ☆☆☆☆ of ☆☆☆☆☆

I was excited when I purchased this hardcover book as I love horror shorts and longs. On one hand I was excited about the possibilities, on the other hand after I read the book I found that I had read virtually all the stories and had almost all of them in other books and collections I already owned. This was a little disappointing and hence the 4 of 5 starts. With that in mind though each of the stories is fun and enticing, and I feel that the selection done by the authors is appropriate for many audiences.

My favorite of the authors, Guy DE Maupassant did not disappoint and of course Poe, Lovecraft, and many others were great as always. A super collection, but still a reprint for the most part.

Sunset..

The sun sets on another day…

I have so much I would like to write today as I wants the sunset through a grain elevator in a little town called Charlotte. I met some fantastic people today.

Some were positive and full of life, some were not. Some were amazing and vibrant, some were quiet, and just wanted to be left alone. Each one had a story. Each one made a difference.

In the end I was plagued all day by the day. I do not live in the past but 9-11 gets to me. Moreover on that day Republicans and Democrats, Conservatives and Liberals came together to help a nation heal. It was a devastating time and some people will feel that devastation forever.

Wouldn’t the world be a better place if we all worked to heal and stopped working to hurt each other. Wouldn’t it be better if we set aside who was right or wrong, and found a way to feel for each other, maybe just for a minute? Wouldn’t it be awesome if we make someone else our priority instead of just our views?

Today I listened, today I tried to help a few people, it was not much, but if I made one person feel better, maybe it was a good thing. Only they know for sure. I hope I can continue to make the world a little better or at least try.

So as the sun sets on another day, find a way to make the world better in your way. Even if it is a little it may just help, and remember 9-11 as the day that we all find a way for a short time, remember and let it help you become better, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and keep living strong…

Eddys and currents…

The sun sets on another day…

No, there is not someone named Eddie behind me asking for me to write. Instead I am writing about the fun when we see life twist and twirl around us and it feels familiar, perhaps too familiar.

Many people have said that we often get stuck in a rut but I have tried to avoid that my entire life, what is more pointed is that often we do similar things expecting different results. (This is one of those things that people get uptight about and I agree, it is not good). To take it further, we often find ourselves in spots that, through no direct action of our own, comes back as familiar. That is the eddy I am talking about.

As I was working today I came across several situations that felt “familiar” and in those few moments I suddenly realized, they were, and executed a solution I had used previous to solve a problem I thought was solved. Those around me barely noticed, but to me it was frustrating because it was a non issue that was an issue.

Do you ever see things come up that you thought you had solved? Have you found yourself in a situation that seems familiar, only to realize it is not only familiar, it is the same as a pervious situation. Do people, places, or things, show back up in your life when you thought they were gone?

It seems the same eh? At least something to note and consider, and file away for next time it comes up. (Funny eh?)

So as the sun sets on another day, yep, life is good, yep life is good. Did I say that already? I hope you all have an amazing day, and enjoy every moment of every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and wow…

Simple words…

The sun sets on another day…

Words. Hey, you are the one reading them, I am just writing them. Most people will say that opposable thumbs make us different and give us an advantage, maybe that was true, but now words seem to be the center of what makes us special. We use words more than anything else we have, to communicate our thoughts and even our emotions to others, and along the way, we use them, right and wrong, constantly.

I was thinking “Words can comfort, words can sting, words can do most anything, and as we walk unto the end, words will lift us with our friends.” As I did so I considered all the amazing things words have done for me. Then I considered the people around me, and it meant a little more.

Do you consider the weight of your words? More, do you consider the weight of your silence? How do you decode your words? Do you think in your own language?

Too many questions?

Let me just state one thing. Words are the thing we can cherish in the silence. The words of a friend, the kind words of a stranger, and just words in general give us purpose, and make us more than we could have been. Use your words well, and hold on to the words of others.

So as the sun sets on another day, tonight I held my words close and spoke to another author for some time. It was enlightening and as we spoke I was amazed at the world around me, and the wonderful gift that authors bring to us all. The next time you want words, consider having some fun with a book, and open your mind to more and more words. Make each day an amazing one, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy the shenanigans…

A Slice of Passion…

The sun sets on another day…

No, I am not talking about my book, “A Slice of Passion” but instead the passion we all can have, and how it is there for us if we want it.

I was lost in thought tonight as I thought about passion. I suppose you could say I was in the “Dicken’s” version thinking about passion of the past, the present, and of passion yet to be. I considered writing an entire story based on it, stopped, and decided instead to relate here for a few.

I have written about passion more than a few times. If you consider the over 2100 posts I have made passion is mentioned in over 70% of them in some manner. After all, without passion there can be no growth, no days, no moving forward. Without passion there is little worth doing.

Passion is defined as a “strong and barely controllable emotion” and I have passion for quite a bit. It seems I have a never ending supply and some of that passion is always applied to learning more. Passion can grow, and passion can become more, but it never really dies. There is always a spark left to rekindle easily.

What is your passion? Is it a person? Place? Thing? Is it a feeling? Is it more? What makes you more passionate about something? Do you understand your passion? Do you understand others and their passions? Do you see how passions align?

Take a moment today, take a slice of your passion and savor it. Feel the passion roll over you, and as you do pay attention to all the things around you and the passion they bring.

So as the sun sets on another day, passion is exciting and amazing. Every day is an opportunity to be passionate, and make the day better in some way. Find your passions and let some of them make your world better until you can see the positives in the world. You are the solution, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and live with all your heart…

Purpose…

The sun sets on another day…

I find I have to restate the purpose of 29000 sunsets sometimes.

About 6 years ago I restarted this site. The idea was the same, but the approach is now different. I originally built the site with the idea that if there were only 29000 sunsets (79.4 years or the average lifespan in the USA) in a persons life that it would be a shame to miss any. I had a major love for the sunset, and a major love for photography. It all just fit, and I displayed many pretty pictures and a few pages of text focusing on how I like to live my life.

Over time I have grown the idea and concept. I now write each day and over time developed a more direct approach: If you knew you only had 29000 sunsets and today was day 28,999, what would you do different? Why aren’t you doing it today?

This added the idea that people have a choice. It is a choice to make your day good or bad and not just get lost in the last day, but actually consider life as a place you can get lost in.

This added yet another concept that focused on today: We are the masters of our destiny. Do not whine about the past, it is gone. Do not pine over the future, it is not here yet. Instead define yourself daily and in the process bring all three together to become a better person.

This became a stronger focus as I learned that today is a necessity and was tired of a life where there would always be a tomorrow. It is true there would be but I have watched so many people die before the retire, or lose the will that drives them before they see their goals.

In the process of it all I have published nine books, and found many things to inspire me. For 29000 sunsets I wrote every day with the exception of a short time I had to stop while I reworked the site. Now I have added book reviews on Sundays and may add movie review Mondays. The idea is to see the the world is meant to be alive, and as members of the world we have to live every day in the best way we can.

This is how I see the world, as an opportunity to enjoy life, and not be caught in the same grind.

So as the sun sets on another day, thank you for reading. Before the reset this site had over 2 million views. Now as they slowly climb again I invite you to share my thoughts and perhaps find a little laughter, a little inspiration, and maybe a little more. Thanks for being who you are, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy the ride…

Pathways…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was amazing, and as usual it colored the sky with a paintbrush most can barely imagine. I stood in awe for a moment watching then thought about the world anew.

Today was full of thought as I considered life and all the roads a person must walk down in their lives. The answer was not as easy as 42. In fact the answer is not easy at all.

I have gone down quite a few pathways. I have even done so tonight. This was not my first idea of a post, I was working on a post about hope and fear, and decided a different road. Still, I enjoy myself along the way. Today I was riding a bike down a path. People came and went, but in the end I was a little slower, a little more measured as I was looking at the flowers, a pretty scene in the woods, a butterfly, and a lot more.

I think our question should not be how many roads will we travel, but how many will we enjoy. I am going to suggest we enjoy every one. Why not? There are lots of reasons to enjoy our roads, and even more to enjoy every day. After all, every road has a lesson, even if it is a bad one.

So as the sun sets on another day, I think I have 420000 roads to go, but I am enjoying them all, and along the way, making every day an amazing day. Well, mostly, but I do make every day a day I find enjoyment and a lesson in. Enjoy your day, and have a super time, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and read more…