A message to my children – Because you can…

The sun sets on another day…

Tonight the sun set over still waters on a lake that can sink freighters. Slowly it fell until it disappeared, leaving a trail of color along the way. 

The last 2 days have been fun as I talk about a post I read from someone about rules for their daughter and I apply it as rules for my children. You can scan backwards and see, two have passed. Now let’s look at message 3: “Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.”

This holds special meaning to me and should to my children. There are a lot of things that go on each and every day and we make a lot of choices. We can do a great many things. Some will cause us to do better, some worse. Some will give us gain, and some will cause us loss. We have the choice to affect those things we can, but sometimes it may not be the best thing in the world to do. Having the ability to do anything does not make it morally correct, nor does it make it ethically correct, and sometimes it is better to set it aside.

You see, words hurt, and sometimes they hurt really bad. Actions can hurt even more.

I faced this when I was in high school. A person who lived on my street was high and looking for someone. I was in front of my house and he walked up to me and tried to pick a fight. I kept telling him he needed to go home, I told him to leave, I was patient, I waited, and he hit me. It was a hard hit and my glasses fell to the ground. I felt the anger wash over me and wanted so bad to hit him, and as I looked up I realized that it would solve nothing. I smiled, and simply said again I had no interest in this. He eyed me quizzically, and became unsure, then perhaps a little fearful, then he quickly left. I could have been physical but it was the wrong thing to do. I had the ability to win decisively, and I decided not to engage at all.

This applies to much, you can love, you can hurt, you can laugh and all these affect others and the effects can be long reaching. So I expand this thought more.

  • Sometimes the smartest person in the room is the quietest.
  • Sometimes the most powerful person in the room is the meekest.
  • Sometimes the person in control does not have to prove it.
  • Sometimes the person making the decisions is only known as an influence.
  • Simply, Sometimes, things are not what they seem.

Why? Easy, if you see an opportunity, you have to decide not what you can do, but what is best to do. It is a daily struggle but I know you can win.

So as the sun sets on another day, you can do anything you want in life. Just question whether you should do anything you ant every day. Decide if it is the right thing, if it is the best thing, if it is a thing that makes you better, or helps someone out. Is it good for everyone, or just good for you? Does it hurt someone unnecessarily? Or is it innocent? All these questions are in our minds always, but I know if you consider them you will always make the right choice, for you and for everyone, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love to the moon and back, and the stars beyond…



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