The sun sets on another day…
I didn’t expect a fantastic sunset tonight. I expected a good one but the sky was clear and often fantastic sunsets happen when the sky is full of clouds, mist, or other interesting things. As the sun set in the western sky it was obvious there were clouds and a lot more on the horizon. What followed was truly beautiful.
It’s kind of funny, I was reading quotes and came across one that was very astounding. I suppose if you ask someone a question of what they would tell their younger self it would be for me this quote. It says: “When you say yes to others make sure you don’t say no to yourself” Paolo Coehlo. I found myself thinking about this quite a bit. How many times have I done for others and not considered myself.
In some cases this is an absolute necessity. As part of my personality as a protector I find that I must set aside myself at times in order to achieve my goals. There is no reason for me to say no to myself when I say yes to someone else. I thought about this a lot simply because a long time ago it is how I thought I was supposed to live life.
Somewhere someone set up an idea that when you are in a relationship you have to give up yourself. This is not true. A relationship of any type becomes stronger with two individuals involved. What that means is each of us brings something to a friendship or love that makes the other greater. It cannot last if one person is constantly overlooked. Even the most altruistic and pure person eventually needs something.
Seems kind of strange doesn’t it. If we’re thinking about it from a high level we would never consider ourselves as accepting the constant “no” that some people do.
Anyway, I hope this is not you.
So as the sun sets on another day, remember you are important. Don’t put yourself in the back seat or make your life miserable for the sake of someone else. Instead surround yourself with people who lift you up as much as you lift them and to understand your needs as much as you try to understand theirs. It’s pretty easy, we need to make our world better by paying attention to ourselves as well as others. I hope you find your way, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and good sunset…