Smelling the flowers…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was spectacular as I drove in the middle of nowhere from the middle of nowhere to the middle of nowhere. It is often in those moments that we find the most clarity.

I found myself thinking of Luna a lot last night. I took a lot of time with her and I asked a question last night and knew the answer before I even asked it. The question was easy did Luna add more to my life or take something away. Luna added more.

There are many people in the world that do not understand the depth of pets and especially dogs. They look at them like chores. From an early age Luna was very advanced and as she learned sometimes so did I. I remember one time I taught her how to smell flowers. I had a particularly fragrant rose in Lexington and I cut one off and smelled it deeply while walking her around. Because I had stopped she stood and looked up at me patiently waiting for us to go. I put the rose by her nose and simply said “smell” and she had no clue what I was saying. I smelled the rose again and put it to her nose and repeated the command and after just a few times she got the idea and I could tell the fragrance as well.

We went on our walk and walked and walked. It was a few weeks later that we were going out again and as I walked out with her there were blooms on the rose bush again. My day had been more hurried and I began to walk down to the sidewalk and she stopped. I looked at her confused for a second and realized she saw the flowers again and we had to stop just for a second for a smell.

I know we all hear about stopping and smelling the roses, but as I sit here with a tear in my eye I remember it very well. Maybe Luna had the best idea ever, to take that extra second because it was something we both liked to do.

Who cares right? All I wanted to say today is to take that extra moment. Drive an extra hour for a special reason, take an extra minute to make someone smile, play with the dog for a few more minutes, or just stop and smell the roses. It might give you a bit of clarity you otherwise wouldn’t have had.

So as the sun sets on another day take a moment and breathe deep from the gift that you’ve been given today. If you can’t think of anything just remember you just took a moment and breathed deep. It is somewhere in that that miracles are made. Be yourself everyday but keep growing along the way, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and stop and smell the flowers..

Just a friend…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was a mix of mystical mood machinations as crimson colors cascaded across the horizon. (No C word for horizon, oh well)

I enjoyed sunset a lot. I was alone, watching the clouds slide across the sky and the sun sliding in a clear path to Lake Michigan. Some cars were there, some pulled up, and some just drove by, watching for only a moment, then disappearing to who knows where.

My Pterodactyl

I watched the clouds and laughed as I saw a pterodactyl, an elephant, and a fun Jabba the Hutt sitting back on his chair, rumbling a slow laugh to my earthbound photo session. I wondered how many people were seeing different things in the clouds or just watching the colors. People snapped pictures just as I did, but what did they see?

Jabba?

It is fun looking at the clouds and seeing with more than just your eyes. It is fun seeing past it all with your imagination and laughing a little as you do.

As the sun passed, a young woman walked up the hill with a Sushi container and a smile. Being of sound mind and no social conscience, I, of course, spoke to her and asked how the night was going. It was her date night with herself, and I could think of no better time than to spend a while at the beach watching the sunset. She had a fantastic idea and is the type of friend I enjoy. A friend who can enjoy a moment without expectation, and a friend who laughs for a moment even if that is all they have. We laughed for a second, and I, of course, gave her a card. We will see if she reads this, but even if she doesn’t, I am happy for the few moments we got to laugh and wish she had brought me sushi.

Wouldn’t the world be better if we all spoke up and enjoyed each other? Wouldn’t life be more transparent (clearer) if we took the time to acknowledge other people and let them know they are not alone, that we are here for them? Wouldn’t life be better if we could say “I am your friend” and expect nothing but a moment, and when more comes, be grateful for every second?

I had the opportunity to spend time with a friend this weekend. We took a picture together, and during our short time, we enjoyed the moments and shared a bird feeder memory or 5. There was laughter and seriousness, but mostly there was the feeling that I am glad of the friends I have each and every day.

So as the sun sets on another day, each day is an adventure. Yep. I bet we can quote Valley of the Dinosaurs and say that each day is an adventure for the Robinsons. Maybe it is not a super big adventure, but it is an adventure because we can meet new people, do new things, and enjoy the sunset each day if we want to. Don’t wait; the clock is ticking; enjoy your moments each and every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and what a peaceful night…

Right and wrong…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was in and out of the clouds until the pink splashed along the horizon and made me smile. I laughed a the fun of it all, and smiled even more as the colors slid across the horizon.

You’re sitting in a room with an all southern view. A bear walks by. What color is it?

Seems pretty straightforward, but maybe there is more information necessary. After all, are there windows on all four walls? Can you even see the bear? Does it matter if it is a big bear or a little bear? What if it is a teddy bear?

Dumb questions if the room is a glass box, then you have to be in the North Pole, right? So the bear is white? Makes sense, but right and wrong do not always apply. Right? Or am I wrong?

I find myself in a curious situation sometimes where I question right, wrong, and various other grey areas. The basics of right and wrong are pretty clear, well, as clear as they can be, but there are other options. After a discussion today I saw a series of secondary events that redefine right and wrong. Perhaps right is living a positive moral code and wrong is not. That seems easy enough, but where do we draw the line? That is the question I am considering now. If you have a good answer, I would love to hear it. My answer for now is if you hurt someone else or yourself it may be wrong, if you do not, it may be right. Wow, that leaves a lot of gray. Think about it.

So as the sun sets on another day I think I will consider the moments for a while, and enjoy the idea that right and wrong are finite. Otherwise I may be stuck in an infinite loop of possibilities. I hope you have a clear answer, and try to do what’s right, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and what?…

Lonely or alone…

The sun sets on another day…

I was listening to people today talk about being alone and was reminded of the differences between being alone and being lonely.

Doesn’t sound like a big deal does it? There is a difference though. Being alone is the absence of other people. Being lonely is feeling isolated.

So why does this matter?

Being alone can actually be a good thing. Without people you can still accomplish much, and both seek and find an inner strength or more that many people may not be able to find. Being alone does not imply happy, sad, or otherwise, it is a state of physicality, nothing more. Personally I sometimes like being alone as it gives me time to do more and accomplish more.

Being lonely is not a physical state, it is a state of mind. A person can be lonely in a crowd, in a relationship, or while they are alone. Being lonely can be miserable, and is rarely a positive thing. As we go through life, being lonely is not fun, nor does it really hold a positive connotation.

So who cares?

Well, I would like to suggest that we may all need to be alone sometimes, but we never really need to be lonely. If you read the above it just makes sense. If you enjoy being alone, it is unlikely you are lonely, and you are at peace with yourself.

Hmm, it makes good sense to find a little peace, and whether you are alone or with people, to find that thing that allows you to not be alone.

So as the sun sets on another day, find a little slice of peace, and don’t feel lonely, feel alive in a world that is full of possibilities. Don’t let others decide if you are lonely, you can decide. Along the way, be the person you want to be, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and be who you are…

Those people…

The sun sets on another day…

There are those people that make a difference to you even if they don’t know it. The friend, the acquaintance, the person that makes your meal, your coffee or tea, or just interacts at a local diner and makes the day a little better. The diner we frequent is called “Steak and Egger” and many of the customers and employees are more like family than workers in a super tasty restaurant.

There I have met many people who I talk to often. Among them was Karen. An older woman who came in with her daughter often, and who we saw from time to time. I would always talk to her, and we would laugh about silly things, fun things, or I would just say “hi”. Her eyes always sparkled and she was a stunning example of how people should be. I found out recently she passed away and her daughter wrote to me, thanking me for always being nice to her. I found the memorial and wrote the following:

“There was a spring in her step and a twinkle in her eye. I know Karen from a local restaurant where we talked from time to time. She was always a breath of fresh air in the world, and we would giggle and laugh for a few minutes at a time when our paths crossed. She would be at the restaurant with her daughter and was never shy or without a smile when I saw her. I was proud to share just the minutes I could with her. It is the existence of people like Karen that can bring hope and a smile to the world, I will miss her.”

I can only say we should cherish the people who make us feel good about the world, those that believe in us truly, those that are not fake with their hearts, those that see us for the wonderment we can create. By the same token, we should strive to be that unselfish person who installs happiness in others, who is nice when they don’t have to be, and who finds a wonderful path and forges ahead in making the world a better place.

So as the sun sets on another day, thank you Karen for making the world a better place. Thank you for showing everyone around you how good life can be, and from me, thank you for a few minutes that meant a lot more. You will be missed. For everyone else, be one of those people. Those people that make a difference. Keep making life positive, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and be that person…