Let’s play a game…

The sun sets on another day…

The clouds closed in as the storm approached, but for a moment the sky lit up with fiery indignation and the sunset shone through. It was only a moment and I smiled at the audacity of the sky and the beauty it impaled upon the storm.

I was chatting to someone today and came up with the idea for a cool game. The next time you’re feeling a little bit down, sit down with some index cards and start writing down your good memories. Better yet if you’re with someone or several people sit down and all of you write down between five and six good memories. Don’t discuss it at all but instead focus on writing something that you feel is an amazing memory.

Once you have your cards done don’t show anyone and whether you’re playing with one person or with several mix them up and turn one over each. It’s time then to discuss who remembered the best slice of happiness or exciting time. Give yourself about 60 seconds to discuss, maybe a little more, then decide who takes one point for the best memory. If both of you draw the same memory or pull out the same memory give yourself two points each. If anyone pulls out of memory that has already been in any other round they get two points as well. After you’re through all of your cards decide who has the most points and giggle and laugh together. The score didn’t mean much except that it was something fun to do.

Maybe this type of game could get us to focus on the positives we have had in our lives. We can save the cards and look back at them later and we can see how others see good times if we play with more than one person. If it’s just us then maybe we can just enjoy the moment and by filling out our cards realize there are always things to be thankful for.

It is Christmas time. No matter what your religion or positive or negative views of the season it is a time where many people reflect. It is a time when people often are overwhelmed. During this time take a deep breath. Focus on the positives in your life and realize that there are some good things to be thankful for. Oh, and if you see someone having a rough time, say something nice.

So as the sun sets on another day, I am thankful for all of you. I’m not out to get any type of influencer status or change the way you see the world so that you can buy something. (except maybe my books) Today I am thankful for you. Thankful for all the readers that write me notes or that just visit and read. Frankly I’m astonished that so many read my blog. After all it’s just a blog and not a massive stream, podcast, or video barrage. I hope you enjoy sharing a few moments with me and for the thousands out there that peruse from time to time. Thanks for being you and keep making your days wonderful, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and thanks for being here…

Joy and laughter…

The sun sets on another day…

I smiled at sunset as the sun set in the Western sky. I was considering the day and all of the interactions that it had held.

Sometimes I find myself lost in laughter. I’ve been told many times that I crack myself up but occasionally I make other people laugh too. Over the past several days my interactions have been varied and I have enjoyed the Magnificent number of people that have made my life more full. Some of them are active parts of my life While others I barely know at all. All of them were fun.

The trick to making a person laugh or smile is not to try to make them laugh or smile. Instead the focus is on making yourself laugh or smile and taking them along with you for the ride. It is with that in mind that I told jokes, stories, and generally was than a little silly for the sake of being silly. I like to think I was pretty successful at least with some people.

In particular I find that several jokes can help people unwind and lose themselves in the moment instead of being lost in the difficulties of life. In particular I have used the bear and rabbit joke many times and in many forms to try to keep someone from focusing far too much on far too little.

Not sure what the bear and rabbit joke is, just click here.

Perhaps the best thing to consider is that maybe a little laughter can bring a little Joy and perhaps a little Joy can change the world. It’s funny that only a short time ago people thought Joy was the most important thing in the world and now people are lost and have a hard time finding it. I have to admit that for a long time I thought Joy was the girl who sat across me in biology class in high school. You live and you learn.

So as the sun sets on another day, I hope that each one of us finds joy over the next few days and realizes the wonderment of the world inside of a little laughter. I hope you can enjoy your moments, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and ha ha ha …

Little laughs…

Sunset was once again in a clear sky while I considered that at home the snow was on its way and I would be there again soon.

The world would be a better place if we took a moment and focused on the little laughs. Tonight as I played with my grandson I threw him in the air and held him upside down as he giggled and laughed. When I stopped he was quiet for only a second and then wanted more and more.

Do you ever think that we get too serious as the world presses down on us? Wouldn’t it be better to play for one more moment and feel better about ourselves? Wouldn’t it be better to hang upside down, spin around, take a walk, laugh at a joke, or get lost in a kiss for just one more moment?

Take a minute and think about it. Is there anything more important than feeling good about yourself? If you think there is perhaps you should reconsider. You are the most special person in the world and you need to be important to you. Of course it’s nice to be good to everyone else but remember you are at the core. Do things that make you better.

So as the sun sets on another day, get lost in your passions, find a little laugh and turn it into a rip roaring guffaw. After all the world is a better place because you’re in it. When you’re done, spread it around all you can, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and giggle giggle…

Encouragement…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was fantastically amazing as it slid through the hills and blanketed the sky with oranges and violets. I stared at the sky in awe, and watched twilight overtake the horizon.

I find that sometimes a few random actions mean far more than expected. Today was the second day in a row surrounded by children and enjoying the moments. I find that children have an amazing view of the world and quite often they see the world more clearly than adults. Not because they are more intelligent but instead because their imagination allows them to see further. Imagination is what gives us the ability to see beyond ourselves and into the world of possibilities.

Here I sat surrounded by children full of magic and wonderment in their eyes. Here I sat paying attention to the innocence that opens fresh minds to possibilities.

In my mind it is time for us all to step into our imaginations and see beyond everything that is laid before us. In my mind it is time to see possibilities and understand that who we are can be far more than what people say and instead has no limits except the limits of our imaginations.

I spent time today talking to people as I always do but in the process, I spent significant time seeing those people as more. from the child who wanted to be a ninja and could see the excitement before him to the little girl who just wanted a bicycle and whose heart melted before me when one was given to her. There were so many amazing stories that I could not tell them all but somewhere in the midst of giving gifts and experiencing the depths of a child’s heart I saw the adults get lost in the imagination as well. This is what the world should be all about.

So as the sun sets on another day, find passion in your imagination and encourage passion in everyone you see. The real world is a challenge, but it will take the depth of our imagination to find a way to make the world a better place. Be a part of change by helping a child see that imagination is real, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and remember to have a cookie…

A difference…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was once again grey and misty, but I would have asked the world to play misty for me, simply because it made the day special. As the sun set and darkness fell, it was the end to a pleasant day.

I found myself thinking about what it takes to make a difference today. I have several projects going on and many of these projects are not for me. Although I may benefit the focus is on other people. This is a positive for most people because it gives them a certain sense of self satisfaction but my question is more what does it take to make a difference in our lives.

I have found that there needs to be a balance between ensuring that your own needs are met and getting the satisfaction of helping others. If you focus too much on yourself it pretty much pans out that you become a complete and total loser. If you focus too much on others it pretty much turns out that people take advantage of you and you don’t necessarily achieve anything for yourself. Sure there are variations of this and I am not painting with a broad brush instead I am giving a mild guideline.

I have rewritten this several times and I think I’m going to fall with this is a very personal journey and it is up to you to determine how you make a difference. Whether you’re making a difference is pushing hard or being more cautious it’s up to you and all I can say after rewriting this over and over is that make sure you are a part of the equation. And don’t let it be a small part.

So as the sun sets on another day I hope that you make a difference for yourself and everyone else. Be that person that can change the world each and every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and keep moving forward…

Scattered laughter…

The sun set on another day…

It amazes me how Michigan sunsets can be so ornery. The clouds will close in for a while, then recede at night to a clear sky. It is fun knowing the sunset is high above, but it would be nice to enjoy the sunset.

I get a kick out of shopping during the holiday. Tonight I had a ton of fun walking through Hobby Lobby and looking at all of their interesting stuff. As I did so I wandered among the aisles and occasionally laughed as I sung Christmas carols much to the dismay of the people around me. There are two people or at least two groups of people that stand out in my night. The first were two little older ladies who started laughing when I came by singing and I asked them to join in. Both of them giggled like schoolgirls and one of them stated that if they sang people would run out of the store. To that I simply said if they didn’t like your singing I might run them out of the store. The two women giggled and I moved on singing my beautiful rendition of Jingle Bells.

The second was even funnier. My entire life until two years ago was clean shaven. I have never had a beard and never really wanted one but during COVID it just seemed like a thing to do. Why shave every day when you’re sitting behind a computer screen talking to people and not having to be face to face. I still took a shower every day and got perfectly cleaned up and wore a dress shirt every day which people think I’m crazy about but I am digressing here. With my almost white beard and white hair I was walking around through the aisles and four little children and their mother walked up. The children seemed fascinated with me as I sang Christmas carols and they laughed a little at me as I walked by and one of them said, “have a good night Sir” to which I replied with a hearty  “ho ho ho”. As I walked by I heard the little boy say to his family and his mother, “I told you it is him, it is Santa” and I laughed hard as I headed to the back.

It was nice to share some laughter and nice to be out with people. Not for any other reason than to enjoy who they were. I can only hope that some of the people in the store remember smiling and laughing with me and having a good time.

So as the sun sets on another day, remember that we set the tone. We can make people irritable and sad or try to lift them up and make their day a better day. Why not make their day a better day each and every day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and live heartily…

Tears…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was again cloudy and cold. What surprised me was after dark the sky opened wide the the moonlight sprayed the horizon. Beauty is everywhere if you look for it.

I recently read two books of poetry and as I did so I was once again amazed by the human condition. You could say it’s easy to amaze me but it’s actually not. I have seen so much that very little surprises me except when a cat appears inside of a closed door that I know when I closed on them. That’s another story.

To put it simply people believe. People believe in the good and other people. People believe that other people have their best interests at heart. People believe in the worst of people and fear them for what they could do. people believe what they want to believe, good, bad, or indifferent.

I tried to talk to a lot of people and see past the simplicity that is often projected as a simple mask. Instead I tried to see past that and in doing so I find that many people do not see past their own bias. I realized a long time ago that I had to shed my bias to even begin to understand how others felt or reacted. If you don’t shed your bias you do not have common ground. Worse, if you don’t shed your bias you often put words in other people’s minds that don’t exist there. How many times have people made assumptions about others only to be proven wrong because they don’t understand points of view.

Who cares, right? Well the whole point of this is if you are reading to maybe take a moment and see past your personal bias. That person in front of you may not be a bad person, they may be the person that will make your life better. The person you think is perfect for you may not be the right person, they may just be projecting who and what they are. Everything is it only as it seems to you and to set aside your bias and forget how you see something is an incredible gift. Try it. Talk to people and instead of applying how you feel really listen. When you listen to people try to see who they are and their point of view. Mostly, remove you and your preconceived notions from the equation and instead grow a viewpoint one moment at a time of the other person. You’ll be surprised.

So as the sun sets on another day I find that reading people’s writing can see a lot about who they are. With that in mind, if you read my writing remember Monty Python and the Holy Grail. Why? Because you might just have to “run away”. Keep laughing, keep smiling, and be you no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and listen to hear…

Not forgotten…

The sun sets on another day…

The mist covered the horizon as sunset fell high above. The eerie quality brought forth memories as I walked down the drive and watched the world go by.

You may think I am a little over the top, but December 7th always makes me pause. I find myself considering the past for a few minutes during the day, and thinking about veterans everywhere, and all that they have put out there.

It is not just a time to remember Pearl Harbor, but perhaps a time to consider good choices, bad choices, and how we can see past them. How often do we take the time to consider how we approach our decisions and how we can be engaged and vitalized by the depth of the effect we have on ourselves. How often should we consider the possibilities of making new decisions that improve our life.

We cannot in any way point to anyone but ourselves for the good or bad items we come across in life, nor can we step away from our reasonability to ourselves to lead a good life, and make those decisions that are hard, but help us be better. It is all up to us.

So as the sun sets on another day, I know it will be a good day each day because I make it that way. I find the way to sing Christmas Carols, read good books, laugh at the moon, and enjoy the sunset because the way is there, and my decisions take me there. Find your best way, and make every day the best day you can have, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and never forget…

Laser focused…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was bright on this crisp clear day, we pulled over and got a picture on the way to dinner. It was intense.

Today I was given the opportunity to work with a fantastic group of people. A large charity event 4 a great organization was gifted the work of a Jeep club in Chicago. At the core of this was a group of people behind the scenes forcing things to be done right. They did this with patient grace and laser focus and even in the tension I’ve taken care of so many people they were polite and made the world a better place by their interactions.

It was only fitting that tonight while “I was taking a picture that the phone I used” (since I didn’t have my camera) gave me the title picture which almost looks like laser is coming from the sun. Sometimes we need laser focus in order to make sure that we complete our goals. Sometimes we need laser focus to ensure that we are seeing the world in the right way and not just our way. Sometimes we need laser focus just because, and with that focus we open our eyes to new possibilities.

In a world full of distractions take the time as needed to see with laser focus and since you’re doing that pay close attention to those things you’re focused on. You never know, they may be important beyond belief.

So as the sun sets on another day my hats go off to the jeeps on the run road crew. Thier amazing professionalism, laser focus, great planning, and impressive patience made this event a success behind the scenes. They are truly a group that is fantastic. Use your laser focus and make the world a better place with your observations and actions, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and malort?

It is people out there..

The sun sets on another day.

Sunset with spectacular as it fell across a shopping center filled with people looking for gifts and happiness.

I don’t get to people watch as much as I used to. There are lots of people just not where I live. Today I was able to see difficult number of people at a huge shopping mall and was enthralled with all of the excitement around me.

I felt like singing a Little Mermaid song but replacing it with things like there were Shoppers of plenty with stuff and more stuff but instead I found myself just smiling at the interactions.

I am well aware that over the last 2 years a great many individuals have decided that people are no longer important, and worse, they are bad to get involved with. The fear of nearly everything has created large number that shun their own kind. This is sad because we are social creatures. Whether we want to believe it or not, we need each other. (If only a little)

As I watched the smiles and laughter from so many today I can only suggest but if you are afraid of people perhaps it is reengage. People are at the core of who we are. Take a moment and interact that you will understand what I mean. You also will have a good opportunity to be the positive in someone else’s life.

So as the sun sets on another day, people are at the core of who we are.(I said that I think, lol) Let’s not forget the importance they play in our lives and engage to help find our way in this maze called life, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and where is hem..