The sun sets on another day…
We are stuck with the sun, at least I hope we are. It is part of who we are, and everything that makes us who we are today. Without the sun there would be no us, and without us, well, the sun would be here, but no one would have named it the sun, right?
I think you are stuck with me. If I know you I am probably stuck with you. We really have no choice as we have changed each other each and every day, and cannot let go of who we make each other. Make sense?
When I was in college I dated a lovely young lady for quite some time. When she left me, it broke my heart pretty badly. (Yes, it had been broke before, and it will be broke again) As she stomped on it a little and ground it into the floor she told me that I would be a memory soon. It was a mean thing to say and I looked at her and said, “I hope you remember me all the time” to which of course she said, “I hope you remember me all the time.” I remember looking down at the ground, then looking back up and saying simply, “I have no choice.”
It was really one of our last interactions but it was true. It has been 32 years sine I have seen her, and so many others, and I still remember. Now, it is obvious I don’t obsess, or I hope it is obvious because I can set it aside and enjoy my life but part of who we are is the sum of all the people we have met, interacted with, loved, hated, treated right, treated poorly and generally made our lives good or bad. This is just how it is daily. You cannot say your third grade teacher had no effect on you, they did. Nor can you say the first, second, fifth or fiftieth person you fell in love with and then lost did not affect you, it did, it had an effect, and made you who you are today.
So, as the sun sets on another day, let’s think of just how entwined we are. How much our lives were built by the people around us. Let’s consider when that person stepped on our toe how it made us better, or when someone fell in love with us, how open we were, but when they left, how it left a mark. Let’s consider when someone said they were there no matter what, what it meant. Let’s consider the impact of everyone on our life, and smile and move on. We know it is there, and we should build on it, making our life better and better not in spite of anyone, but because of everyone, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love to the moon and back, and the stars beyond…