Happiness is not…

The sun sets on another day…

If you have been reading, I have been expanding on the note that another person posted for their daughter, and taking it up a notch.

The message for today is:

Happiness is not a permanent state. Wholeness is. Don’t confuse these.

This may be hard for some people to understand the correlation. so let’s stat with a definition. Happiness is different for many people but is described as: “a state of well-being and contentment.” Wholeness on the other hand is described in more complex terms as:  “completely free of wound or injury with nothing missing and everything complete, perfect, unbroken, and uncut; perfectly healthy and free of any defect, deformity, mistake or impairment having all its proper parts and components.”

Easy right? Well, it could be. I think of happiness as a state of mind we can control, but often need external items to achieve. We can be happy or unhappy based on our wants and needs. We have a choice each day to be happy and many items affect that happiness. We can easily say that our happiness depends on our inner and outer needs, but in the end, the formula is different for everyone as some people increase their needs each time they are met, and others have very minimal needs. This makes it a moving target. Some people can be unhappy for reasons others will think are nearly silly, but they are quite real to the person who is unhappy.

Wholeness though is not such a moving target. You can be whole but not happy, and using that wholeness you can overcome unhappiness, and accomplish anything. There are many books and theories, but the end result is always happy is a temporary state, but being whole is more permanent. Make yourself whole, keep yourself whole and the rest will fall into place. Happiness will come to those thata re whole, well, usually, and they will survive and move forward. 

Of course, I don’t sell insurance so I would rather everyone was whole and happy, but we will have to work on that, right?

So as the sun sets on another day, find a way to be whole, and seek happiness where you can. Perhaps if you find you are unhappy, take a look at your needs and see if they are what you want them to be, then make adjustments so you can find your way to making every day a pretty good day. I think we can all do it if we try, and realize we are capable of anything, no matter what.

sleep sweet, love life, and laugh a little, it makes for a good night…

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