The sun sets on another day…
Rain rain go away, well, don’t, we need the rain but we need a little sunshine as well.
There was a song once upon a time that sang about love and how deep our love is. I thought about it a lot as I went in circles in my mind tonight.
My idea of love has changed so much over the years. From a very early age I thought of love is something physical and by the time I was in my mid-teams this had transformed into something that was far more than physical and emotional.
In the mid-70s I got a biorhythm calculator and that particular calculator verified how people’s biorhythms cycled with each other and calculated attraction peaks and valleys and how close a person was to compatible all the time. This was interesting to me and it set a standard for physical and emotional bonds adding intellectual as a third criteria for a positive relationship.
Going even further down the line a few years I added spiritual to the list. Physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual alignment were necessary to be in constant balance. That balance was important and the spiritual addition allowed me to consider possibilities that I hadn’t thought of before as sometimes the spiritual thoughts of a particular person affect our relationship can move in either a positive or negative manner.
As years progressed those four seem to be a healthy standard but it turned out there was one more that I hadn’t thought of and debated fiercely for some time. And that is chronological.
The world is much different, or is it. In my world these five items are a necessity or at least the first four. It has been suggested to me that chronological or distance related chronology are not as important and that age doesn’t matter but for many years I felt that if the age gap was too large that there would be issues with both understanding each other and with the idea that it is selfish for a man or woman to marry much younger than them knowing that they would be outlived.
So what is all of this mean? I’m still learning. I can say wholeheartedly that the first three are 100% accurate. We have to align physically. We have to align emotionally. We have to align intellectually. I can also say that it’s a good idea if we align spiritually as that can sometimes become an issue. And as I think about how deep my love can be the idea of chronological love also looms before me and I feel that it is something at bare minimum we should consider. How Deep Is Your Love? As deep as you want it to be.
In the end it doesn’t really matter. Love finds a way in any rule that is put in place can be rapidly overturned by yet another rule which can be overturned by another rule so saying there is one formula would be crazy. For me I just suggest that as you fall in love you consider the physical, can this person keep up with you? Can this person give you the physical love that you need? You should consider the intellectual, will this person have a good conversation with you? Do they understand the thoughts and approaches to life that you present? Emotional can be all over the place, but would this person be someone who feels as deeply as you do and doesn’t set aside the emotions that are important to you? All these questions have run around my mind and all of these questions are good and valid.
What do you think? Do you think love is something that can be defined by criteria or that it’s something that just happens? What do you think is the solution for a lasting love? Mostly, How Deep Is Your Love?
So as the sun sets on another day, my love is pretty deep, at least I think it is. I hope you do too, and I hope you find the love of your life at least once in your life and somewhere in between I hope that you get all of you deserve. Keep loving always, no matter what.
Sleep sweet, love life, and love a little more…