The other side…

The sun sets on another day…

Jingle bells jingle bells, er, wait a tick, wrong, but the snow certainly thinks it is ok.

I was thinking today and if you read this blog at all you will know I usually try to take the high road. I think we have a choice to be positive or negative people and look at our lives as half full, half empty, all empty, or ouch. Even in the worst situations I try to keep looking for the positive, even if it means I am not going to be thought of in a good manner.

My perspective is not popular. Too many people look for the bad, find it, play the bad card, and continue to devolve until they are a victim of everything. I won’t repeat this often, but it annoys me. People need to realize there is almost always more positive than negative, even if they ignore it.

Today someone I know was made to feel less than positive because they did not line up on the “neggo” train and become a negative ninny as described by another. I was curious and went down the path (It is not worth posting source) and was filled with a little awe (as in awwwww) at the mostly negative satirical approach, but saw no reason for the reaction that was given. My next paragraph was deleted as I realized it was a poorly placed series of negatives on my part noting from what I read, this person had minimal negatives, but instead I implore this to anyone feeling that the best way to influence a crowd is to negatize them. Stop it. Yeah yeah, negatives sell. People love the horrible, but in the long run, it just isn’t worth it to completely lower yourself to a baseless sub creature that lives off the scraps of darkness. (Oh, I like that). Instead it is time to embrace the power of you got to take another breath today and not one of the 178,000 that died today.

It is worth considering that with each breath you can change your fate, or be that person who looks for everyone else to solve their problems, or get attention by the “woe is me” card.

So as the sun sets on another day, I laughed at my paragraph of negatives, it was long, and I deleted it. Instead for the people involved, rise up and realize the world is a better place as we enjoy our days, not wallow in the mud. Make today your best possible day, and delete your paragraph, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and live on…

At first…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was cold, dark, murky, and I knew that high above it was just wow!

Tonight I give you a brief poem:

If at first you see the dark turn on the light
There is nothing worse that hurt, turn on the light
If you find your sadness calls, throw it hard upon the wall, you can rise above it all, turn on the light

If at first you feel the pain, take a breath
If your confidence should wane, take a breath
If you find it all comes down and you are feeling like you should frown, stand up tall and set it down, take a breath

If at first the day is bad, try again
If your day will make you sad, try again
If the world is pushing hard and you can never drop your guard, don’t let bad days hit you hard, try again.

If at first you don’t see the great, try to smile
If your day is feeling rough, try to smile
If the world is there too strong, you had it in you all along, you are the key to greatness, song, try to smile.

and then maybe the day will be a little better

So as the sun sets on another day, lets have a good night and tomorrow will be amazing, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and keep going…

JLS

The sun sets on another day…

I thought sunset would be amazing, but the clouds snuck up and swallowed the sky. Still, it was a good night and clear a little later.

I am on a reading binge and probably created an unrealistic goal for reading this year, still it is not too awful and I can do it if I keep pace as I should anyway. I reread a few books along the way including Jonathon Livingston Seagull. I have reread this book a few times even though I remember it quite well. Why? Well it sets up a series of positives in my mind that we can do anything if we try. Even though it is fiction talking about animals it personifies them so well that you are rooting for Jonathon to win.

I will not ever forget the exclamation when Jonathon notes “a falcons short wings” and realizes he has been too close to a problem and has to look at it from a different perspective. It is here I thought about today.

How many times have we made assumptions and been wrong. More than a few for me, but as I progress I realize that it is the nature of how we see the world. We need to often step back and stop seeing things through our eyes but instead see things as they are. Translated, we need to realize that our universe is not the only one, and others may have a unique point of view. It is there I wish everyone could open their mind as see past the bias and the illusions (a good book as well). All too often we fall victim to our own perspectives. All too often the truth is right there.

Take a moment, check your perspectives, realize there is a bigger picture and as you do see the world anew. Do you think other see you as you see you? How can you make your life better?

So as the sun sets on another day, take a step back and be the cynic that resists yourself. Be the one that sees more, and accepts the things you normally wouldn’t. In the process find an amazing life each day, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and live large…

Lucy and the football…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was almost there, then it was gone, lost in the billowing clouds for a while. It would have been pretty if there were a few less clouds, at least I would have been able to see it.

I was thinking about Peanuts today. Charles M Schulz was an amazing cartoonist and writer. He had a way of showing a little more than what was on paper, and teaching life lessons without ramming them down your throat. Lucy and Charlie Brown are two of the main characters. In many comics we see Lucy holding a ball for Charlie Brown, convincing him to kick it, and then pulling it away at the last second. The reasons are many but she always makes it clean he did not pay attention. He is gullible, she takes advantage, he fails, or does he?

This can be a tough question. On one hand Charlie Brown trusts and when offered a positive opens his heart and his hand and takes it. He really wants to trust that there has been a change and he will finally be treated right He believes in the good in people and in the good in his relationship with Lucy.

On the other hand he fails each time. She takes advantage of his misgivings and gives him enough to keep him focused on a potential positive, then takes it away. Each time it leaves Charlie Brown saddened that he has messed up again, and each time we feel for him

Lucy on the other hand just wants control. She sets a position and holds onto it, using whatever means necessary she only puts out what she wants, and in the end, maintains her little slice of control.

Who are you like? Who is your type. Do you over trust and let people lead you on. Do you control situations, even to your own disadvantage, just to say you can?

Just some fun questions on this wonderful Sunday.

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So as the sun sets on another day, I would like to believe everyone has best interests in their minds daily, but I know it gets tiring believing people won’t pull the football away, then it happening again. Take your time, love each day, and be who you are. The rest will work out at some point, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love with all your heart, and play your cards well…

A good day…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was lost in the start of snow. The snow was lost in the sunset. Between the two they were having fun!

On this first day of the year I have an easy question. Define your good day. Is it a day making money or a day filled with passion? Is it a day of rest or a day of excitement? Is it a day filled with memories, or a day that will define future memories? What is your day?

The answer is not really for me, but I challenge you to think about it. We are defined by how we gravitate to our days. If we seek the mundane we become the mundane, if we seek the exciting, we find it. So it goes and in the end we all create our days, good or bad. If we can define our good, well, maybe we can make it even better.

I know a lot of people don’t really believe this, but I do, not because I am overly positive or anything flowery or rosy, but because I know that the world is great when we take the time to see it that way.

So as the sun sets on another day, the snow is here, the night has come, we will find ourselves in another one, make it good so we can live and love and make the days the best ever, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and happy new year…

What a year…

The sun sets on another year, a day, a week, a month, yeah, all that…

It has been quite the year. I sit here in awe of you all with the idea that a year is amazing, and we can be more so.

From a highlight standpoint the biggest news for 29000 Sunsets was the move away from owned infrastructure to the cloud. In doing so I closed the door on a dream, and began a new one. There are a number of sites sharing 29000sunsets space and I hope to bring them all back to life. It is good to enjoy diversity.

29000 Sunsets remains free and ad free. When it was upgraded the readership dropped some, but jumps up and down again now. The site itself carried over a 1.8 million hits. (Who are all of you anyway?) I have received numerous positive comments over the years, and a few funny ones. In the end it has been fun and positive!

315 posts have been written this year (The pause was during the conversion). These covered a ton of topics. I try to stay non political, and non denominational. If you ever talk to me, my views are mostly centrist. A few right, a few left, but mostly someone who considers well beyond the surface.

Here are my favorite posts for the year:

Musing: from just yesterday. A series of thoughts about love.

A Kind Word

Triggers

Forgiveness

A Last Rose

Hopelessly Devoted

Laws of Attraction

There were of course many more. These are just a few I like, but really I like them all.

Then there is a journey, starting with Day Two you can follow me as I go through Covid 19. We contracted it just 4 days before our scheduled vaccination appointment. Fun fun.

I also added a few books this year. What Not to Say to People Who are Grieving, A Slice of Fear, and Adam. All three were good fun and you can find all of my books here.

So as the sun sets on another day, enjoy your day, enjoy the new year, and lets find a way to laugh, to love, and to make it better always, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, its a new year, make it yours…

Musing…

The sun sets on another day…

Tonight as the sun set it was dim, dark, cloudy, misty, grim, foreboding, gray and a little bit country and a lot of rock and roll. Still, sunset was there somewhere and I watched the sky for a short time smiling at the end of another fantastic day.

I saw a movie tonight, “The Matrix Resurrections”. I was excited to see the movie and it was a good idea. We went and watched the movie and I was again reminded of the central theme, and the theme of many really good movies. As I left the theater (No, I am not going to spoil it, it is a worth watching movie) I was lost in thought with many questions, at the top of my list was still the essence of love.

If you don’t know me, the center of my “Masterson Files” series revolve around the idea of love, the limits of love, and finding passion with another person. I draw from a lot of places for content but feel like I know love pretty well, know lust pretty well, know the difference, and know the cores of attraction and of course repulsion. In the movie tonight my question revolved around something I have written about here many times, how would you measure love, and what limits do you put on it.

For the most part I have found that love as a whole is not usually congruent. In one corner you have a person who would give anything or a lot of things and feels deeply about their love interest and in the other corner you tend to have someone who takes all the can and puts limits on anything they do. In talking to many people an din my experience there are lots of people in between, but the core of the relationship[ tends to lean on the giver until they are about to go completely insane or leave and then there is a few crumbs or a big crumb given that has them hold on for longer.

I have found and talked to people who have experienced ok conditions to near horrible conditions as they went through a relationship as they would rather give and give but expect little and are given exactly that. I like to think of it as a cheeseburger syndrome. You know your (insert descriptor here) loves a single plain with just ketchup and definitely no pickle or tomato and diligently bring that back to them but when they bring you your burger it is with everything and you can’t stand onions on a burger. (An example, it can be applied to anything) When asked about it they may say to pick it off they were being safe, but if you brought back something wrong, even if the receipt was right you would be grilled along side of the burger. (Yes, silly example but it is fun).

In the movie I saw we have an example of someone who not only knows every inch of their love, but also is willing to give anything to save them. Anything at all including their very life. The thing that gets me, is in this case they both are willing to give their all to be more, do more, feel more, and be together. There is no artificial bias or limit, instead here are two people who would literally shred a world to be together, and in the process a simple touch meant more to them than many understand. Not because it was just a touch, but because they meant it. They felt it, there was something more.

I got a review in 2017 from a reader of “Vengeful Son” that stated they loved my book but they felt the love part was not realistic, and as I read I noted their problem was focused on how intense Michael and Abby were in the book. Always wanting to be close and feeling a tingle when you touch someone should not be rare, but it is. So much so that this person told me no one felt that good about another person for long, if ever and having two people so involved with each other was no realistic. I am here to tell you, that thought is wrong, but it is rare. Too rare.

Why can’t we love with all our hearts if we commit. Why can’t we say “This is what you want, it is not what I normally do but for you I will do it” instead of drawing lines on personal bias and less than positive growth opportunities. I read a lot (one of my goals this year is to record it as I go using Goodreads and Instagram) and I am most impressed with the idea of growing together and removing limits together. Those books are far too rare. Is it the idea that is rare? Are we just not capable of being at 150% for someone at all times? Do we get complacent and always look for more or do we get overlooked and find that our hearts are rended by those that are not interested in growth but instead a status quo or worse a controlling relationship.

Good questions, maybe, but there is still the idea that this movie was about love at its core, as are my books. An idea that should be considered by anyone who wants to grow.

I have a test for you. Think about your relationship. Think about it a lot. How much time do you spend each week lifting your (Insert favorite relationship descriptor here) up. How much time do you spend with them? What do they mean to you? Do you make them as happy as they can be? Are you as happy as you can be with them? Why? Are you the love of their life? Are they the love of your life? Are they hard to please? Are they a chore? Are you a chore? Are you hard to please? Are they difficult? Are you difficult? When you are together do you define the limits of passion? When other see you are they in awe? OR do people who see you say awwww? There are 168 hours in a week. How many of those are filled with passion, and how many are not? Think about it. At least it is worth considering.

So as the sun sets on another day, I hope your days and your person are filled with excitement, passion and more. I hope you are so excited to wake up with someone daily that you can’t keep your hands off them. I hope when you sleep you reach out so you can feel the warmth of someone next to you. I hope you find happiness in every day. We all need that, and we need it always. After all, if at the end of it all we are measured on the depths of our love, I kinda like the idea of getting high marks. Love to the moon and back, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and the matrix is different, but a good fun addition…

A better version of you…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was clean, bright and missed as I worked too long. Eeeek! I hate missing any sunset, but I know it was pretty.

I was talking to someone today about How they have been during the holiday and they told me “They were the best version” of themselves that day. We talked and laughed for a moment and I let them know, that made sense and thank you.

After all, aren’t we all the best version of ourselves each and every day? Don’t we take a moment and find the way to improve ourselves each moment and make our lives just a little better?

I considered it for a while and have to say, some do and some don’t. There are those people who do everything they can to make their days better and better, and there are those who do not. In the end I would like to offer to you that every day you have an opportunity to make a better version of you and it is not a bad thing to consider that todays version will be left behind tomorrow for a new better version.

How?

Well, for that it is up to you. Find your passion and make it better, make it more, and push the envelope knowing that you are growing each day. This is as real as it gets as your life is up to you, your growth is up to you. I beleive we can all do it if we try.

So as the sun sets on another day, I think I am now a better version of me. I know I try to grow every day and I hope you find your way to do so as well, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and be better…

Overclocked…

The sun sets another day…

Sunset was white. As in it was snowing like crazy and white. Still, it was pretty and I enjoyed it.

I find myself overdoing a lot. It is apparently a commonly rare trait with a lot of people doing it, but not as many as are not. I saw today someone was talking about similar, and it is sometimes a good thing, but as often not so good.

For example, I have dozens of concurrent projects in writing and many more in other areas. Each day I finish some, push some, and play with others. It is just the way I work. I have found that a great many people are very linear, and when faced with a great deal slow down. It is an interesting observation and I find each day to be a learning experience if I am able to meet new people.

How do you handle things? Are you linear or non linear? Do you need a plan, or just an idea to challenge yourself? How do things turn out for you?

Think about it.

So as the sun sets on another day, think about all the possibilities, and then consider the world and all the people and how they process. We are all different and we can learn from each other. Take the time to listen, take the time to learn, and laugh when you can, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and carry on…

Not just the good…

The sun sets on another day…

Sunset was somewhere high above the snow. I know it was good though, it had to be!

After a very good conversation last night my brain was lit up. I thought about a few hundred thousand mistakes I have made and set it aside after a few minutes. I then considered a ton of bad things that have happened to me, then set them aside. Then there were the obligatory heartbreaks and headaches, the mishaps and happenings and that too got set aside.

It was a lot. Well, it was more than a lot. It was over the top. Still, in the end I was happy. The reason is quite simple. After all the bad things in my life, I still became me, and in spite of all that is out there, I like me, and I am me, so disliking me would be counterproductive to being me, so I skipped it. Quite literally I am me not just because of the good, but the not so good made me into me as well. The bad probably contributed more than some of the good.

What’s that mean? It means, at least for me, if my life had been easy, I would not be me. If my life had been less horrible in some places, I would be a different person. In the end you cannot shape a sword without getting the blade hot, and then working it. I am pretty sure we cannot be shaped as people by just “good stuff”.

It is something to consider. After all the death, pain, and worse, I came out pretty ok. Perhaps you did as well? Perhaps you are trying so hard to protect others from going through what you did that you failed to realize that what you went through may have made you a better person.

It is something to consider.

So as the sun sets on another day, consider, consider that your hard days may be shaping you into a better person. Consider that life is not all unicorns and roses. Mostly consider that at the end of the day, you are you, and you should like you like I like me, no matter what.

Sleep sweet, love life, and enjoy the eve…