The colors of reality….

It is unfortunate in life that you often do not know what is real and what is not. As I took pictures tonight I was talking to a friend about it and we were musing how different photography has become as we have grown up with it. What once was a major ordeal in a darkroom has become a computerized quickie that can change the world as we view it. Take tonight’s sunset, we see the photo above that is real as I took it through the lens, and it is very similar to what I saw. With a little magic it can become this:

The question can become “which is real?”. This is true in life as well, as we want to believe in the truth, but often it is just a version of the truth. Remember, the truth does come out, and we should live our truth, each and every day. Live for love, live for happiness, and it will spread all around us, each day, and the world will be a better place for us being here. As the sun sets on another day, the darkness falls, but I know tomorrow it will rise again, with hope and happiness and a possibility of the fairy tale. (We do deserve that you know)

Sleep sweet, enjoy the moon, and the stars beyond…..

Only a daughter can know….

As the sun sets on another day I ponder my love for my daughters. For hours I talked to my daughters today. It is a unique experience talking to a daughter when you are a dad (or mom I suppose). Where the natural instinct with a son is to protect and accept, the natural instinct with a daughter is to protect and protect. I suppose I have always been a protector anyway, as I have a few stories that made me this way, but I cannot imagine a life where a daughter, or a woman for that matter, is not protected and on a pedestal. There are a lot of parents that love their sons to no end and make them into the men they should be, with patient respect and honor for everyone they come into contact with. My Grandfather taught me that no woman ever deserved to be mistreated, at all, period, end of story, done. He stated simply that the man should always be the protector and the joy in his wife’s life, and as such, his wife should be the joy in his life. There was no compromise based on what I was taught, it was a two way street. (Wouldn’t that be a perfect world?) I was told that a man who mistreated his wife in any way, did not deserve that wife. This has gotten me into a bit of trouble before as I have seen men mistreat their wives in public (Or women in general) and stepped in. (I pause here for any foolish man who states “I would kick his bottom etc etc etc”) I did so without pause as sometimes injustice needs a champion. 

The point is, a daughters love is precious, and no matter what, the endgame should be a daughters happiness. Ask most any real father of any daughter if it is OK for ANY woman to be mistreated, and he will spurn the idea. Ask most any father how a daughter should be treated and he will say with respect, and passion, and love. Recently I spoke to someone about a man who had this, he was older and loved his wife with all his heart, and his wife loved him back. The stories I was told were of a man who did not compromise on his love, and who accepted a daughter who was troubled, no matter what. His love for his wife, translated to an overwhelming love for his daughter, who he would accept and protect, to his final days.

for me, I hope I can show my daughters how love should be, and how men should treat women. I hope I can show my son the way to be patient and treat a woman correctly, always. I hope that men who verbally or physically abuse women wake one morning and realize the damage they have done to both women and to themselves. I hope men can teach their sons that their mother be held on a pedestal. Mostly I hope that women who are mistreated teach their son’s that happiness is more important than pretense, and love more important that status, and sometimes life throws you a curve-ball, and you have to walk. After all, when the sun rises tomorrow, I hope it is full of truth, love, and the power to move life to a new level, and shed the negatives that hold us down. 

It’s Halloween!

It’s Halloween!

And as the sun sets on today be thankful for your children and all that they are because of you. Bless them daily with your praise, guide them to the right choices, and show them you make right choices for yourself so they will make good choices for themselves. Show them love every day you can, and let them know it is always ok to love, and cry (even if they are boys) and laugh, and love some more. Show your children that sweets are good, and sweet people are better. Teach them to give to others, and understand when the world takes from them. There is no real tomorrow, except when the sun rises, after it sets again tonight, and makes us realize we have to love to be able to love.

The Cold and Rain

The sun sets on another day and today we are faced with again missing the sun set that calls to us, and knowing that tomorrow will be another potential for a bright day.  I need a few bright days! So I am taking them!

I have been talking to quite a few people recently about my potentially unrealistic expectations of life. We all expect something from life, even if we don’t always get it, and it appears many people may well think that I am unrealistic in that vein, hence my overwhelming passion with sunsets, sunrises, and just about everything that I come into contact with to a point that some from my past have said I was not believable. Nay nay, or dit dit dit, I say. I am over the top because I see every day what life has to offer through everyone I come into contact with. (Well most everyone)

The big question we should be asking is do we deserve the fairy tale or do we deserve a fairy tale? Confused? Yes, I see that. In the movie “Pretty Woman” Julia Roberts makes reference to wanting the fairy tale. In other words she wants the perfect life every day in which we watch the sun rise, love like there is not tomorrow, then watch the sun set as we prepare for another day and to do it all over again. This works out pretty good for her as her costar, a battered and confused man who loves her and does not know it, does not know what he wants until he is faced with the prospect of losing her forever. (Not a fun thing to go through, even if you are a billionaire) So there is a perfect life with a fairy tale in the movies, but we are never sure how it goes from there (No Pretty Woman 2?) and it is hard to make that jump without some assurances. 

On the flip side we have a host of really bad other places to be, but I like “Sleeping with the Enemy” where we once again have Julia Roberts who seems to have the perfect life, except behind closed doors her husband is somewhere past a complete lunatic. Lets face it, with a husband like him, you may as well fake your own death and run away, which turned out to be a pretty good idea. In that case and in the case of many people, they live a fairy tale because nothing is true but the lies. Poor Julia Roberts is just so sweet and nice and everyone thinks she is just so damn happy, but she is getting her bottom kicked at every turn until she finds a way out.

So which should we live? Do we find that perfect person to share life with and enjoy every moment so the world can see how happy we are? Or do we lie every moment of our life and pray it was worth it?

Call em an over optimist, but I feel strongly that the good lord in all his power shows us things for a reason, and the reason is not to live a lie, but to find happiness in our time on earth, teach happiness to those around us, and find a way to live a fulfilled life, no matter what. I guess there will be many others that will agree to disagree for nebulous reasons, or self inflicted punishment, or a lack of self esteem, yada yada yada, but who is right only time will tell. So make tomorrow a bright day, enjoy every moment, find someone who loves you with all their heart, and you love with all your heart, and watch the sun go down together, then maybe life will have a purpose.



Darkness dispelled by the light…

The sun sets on another day….

Ever notice when it gets darkest that there is sometimes a light that shines on each of us? Some may consider it divine, some may consider it random, some may consider this whole line of thinking “dumb”, but I would like to believe there can be light in any situation. Lots of people pray for a solution but maybe it is up to us to find the right solution. By right I mean the right solution for us to be happy, living a true life to ourselves and loving every day. Don’t you all think you deserve a better day? Take a deep breath, dispel the fear, and let the light shine on you to take the steps for your life to be happy. Sometimes it is just a moment away.

So, I need a slick movie reference or biblical quote here, or just a plain inspiration so this will not seem like the rantings of a madman. This one is pretty easy, er, well it could be hard because of the number of good choices. I think for the moment I have to go with “The Notebook” as two people so in love have to find a way. The moral of this movie in my opinion, is that if there is unlimited passion between two people, love finds a way. Of course, there is a lot of pain, suffering, and poor decisions in between, but love finds a way, and you will never see a man love a woman more and a woman love a man more. (Well, you might and a few will, I know at least one is out there) The point is in this movie the main character proves himself to himself and the woman realizes what she has lost the moment she sees him again. It is only when things are at their darkest that she turns the tables and makes things right. (At least I consider it right).

Live life, love life, love yourself (but not too much) and never ever live a lie, nothing is ever worth it. (That is with a capital N) (You never know, that other guy or girl may have more to offer than you think)

Oh, and for a fun read (In my opinion) try “A Dark Night“, just for a fun October read.



No, this was not today’s sunset. I could not get to a place fast enough to get the picture I wanted, and needed. So I enjoyed the sunset without my camera. This sunset is from a few winters ago, but is just as exciting.

Tonight as the sun set the skies parted and breathed new life into us all, reminding me along the way it is not the “What” it is the “How” in life. You see, the day was awful and grim and full of weird weather, thunder and lightning, too much rain, a lot of gloominess and way too much plain ole blah. As the sun set the air cleared and I noticed my roses blooming, the clean street, the clear sky, and felt at peace (for about 43 seconds or so). There is so much to be thankful for each day and we need to consider what we face as positives (or semi positives) all the time. No it is not fair, but we can make it work.

So, what? Let me go on. Each day we are faced with so many “whats” we sometimes want to scream, “whats” for children, “whats” for friends, “whats” for families, and “whats” for those people who are supposed to be special, but just might not be. The “what” is sometimes the easy part. We can make a decision not to do a bad thing (A good choice for a what) but in the process lose sight of “How” we should do this. We can find a “What” on our doorstep, only to do the wrong thing on “How” to handle it. We can see the “what” when we have a family tragedy, but the “how” can become a nightmare of emotions. The “how” is our life and how we will be viewed and judged by others and by ourselves over time. (Because sometimes the “whats” are just a pain in the bottom, we may lose sight of just how bad we are becoming with our “how”. Some people see the “how” as of no consequence, they feel the “what” is more important, and it is those people that will spend their lives in penance trying to justify the “how” when the “how” could have been so much easier. It took me 10 years to deal with my bad “how” and I found the penance to eventually be overwhelming.

So skip it all, enjoy the sunset, live all you can, love all you can, and never let your how create a situation you will be sorry for, ever. (do what?) 

Wish I was here…..

The sun sets on another day, and boy do I wish I was here.

Today the scene of the day was cloudy gloomy and generally depressing. This was combined with cloudy, gloomy and depressing people.  If we think about the movie “Blade Runner” for a second we understand that the rain can sometimes make us feel alive, and sometimes make us appreciate the things we really don’t appreciate much. 

I have seen this movie a lot and unfortunately remember far too much in life and the main character Roy Batty never really appreciates the gift he has had of life until it is time for him to die. In that moment he saves the man who is trying to kill him and ends the movie with many thoughts we should all consider. In the end it is how we were that was important, and all the things we have done may be lost “Like tears in the rain”. 

We grow up, our children grow up, their children will grow up, and someday we will all have our sunset, but in the process the most awesome gift we can give is not castles of marble and stone, nor money in the bank, nor beautiful cars, educations, ipads, ipods, phones, or even a home that never changes. Instead we should always show our children, our friends, our loved ones and everyone we know that love is more than just a word, it is a way of life. Be true to your heart. 

Sir Walter Scott said it best with:

Breathes there the man with soul so dead,

Who never to himself hath said,

“This is my own, my native land!”

Whose heart hath ne’er within him burn’d

As home his footsteps he hath turn’d

From wandering on a foreign strand?

If such there breathe, go, mark him well;

For him no Minstrel raptures swell;

High though his titles, proud his name,

Boundless his wealth as wish can claim;

Despite those titles, power, and pelf,

The wretch, concentrated all in self,

Living, shall forfeit fair renown,

And, doubly dying, shall go down

To the vile dust from whence he sprung,

Unwept, unhonor’d, and unsung.


Another day, the sun has set. Night has closed in, with the promise of a better tomorrow. (Better be telling the truth)

Never a gull…

Never a gull flies out to sea but carries my spirit, wild and free.

A nice quote that was on my grandmothers wall, even though most seagulls are pretty messy and not too nice (pretty much as they are portrayed in the movie “Finding Nemo”. That being said I have always had a fascination with seagulls since I read Jonathon Livingston Seagull soo many years ago.

The idea of searching for perfection in life is ultimately noble and sometimes very lost. Too many people get lost in fear of failure, disappointment, and how people will see them that they lose the gift of life, and give it up for an almost noble cause, instead of creating a legacy that can be much more fulfilling. In Jonathon Livingston Seagull poor Jon is ridiculed by all as he tries to find his way and become the ultimate expert on flying. After all, what gull really wants to fly instead of eat?

As this gull flies into the sunset I imagine he (or she) may well be on his way to finding a more noble cause than a new meal. Instead he or she riding the winds feeling the power of us all and rising above to the heavens as we can only imagine. I took this shot in San Diego as waves of anguish ran over my soul, only to have them lifted by this simple sight. So take a moment, think of your passion, and be the best there can be at it, rise above it all and be free! (Or go out and eat eat eat, either way is the seagull way)

The Breeze Blows

The sun sets on another day as the breeze blows across the waters. (No, this is not a picture from today or this weekend, but one of thousands from files).

I love sunsets. If you had not guessed I am fascinated with both sunrises and sunsets, but as the sun sets we seem to get just a little more color, or I am in tune just a little more with color. For today lets consider the essence of love for a moment.

Well, maybe not, let’s set aside love for today, and just enjoy the breeze, the picture, and the moment and realize that love is at the center of all we are, without it we are not anything. (No, not really an opinion, just the facts ma’am).

Love someone today, with all your heart, for tomorrow they may be gone.

We will come around to more later…..



Hiding in plain sight…

I was walking down the sidewalk today and found a nice shiny penny, new and bright, with all the luck in the world facing up at me with its pretty little head looking right in my eyes. I paused and of course picked up the penny, because I noticed it.

We should all take that time to notice things and “pick up” on them, then make them part of us. After all that poor penny was quite alone until I picked it up, and it served its purpose the moment I did pick it up. It gave me some luck! (well I hope it did) Too often we are so lost in our own thoughts that we fail to see the other side. So many people drive without looking around, live life in their own little world and miss the shiny penny in front of them. What can be worse is when they step over that penny, and don’t see its value until it is gone. So pick up your penny and takes the luck from it, smile at the person driving next to you, hold tight to the person who loves you and watch the sun go down together knowing this one life you were given is a life worth living!